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Technically it's all above board. They have split up, but it's just one of those things you don't do, even if there is no logical reason for it.

Still, it's only one mate, depending on how good a friend he is I might go for it.
 
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'Bro' seems to equal 'Jessie' as far as I can tell. :p

I would rather someone I care about be with a decent person (one of my friends) than some random guy who might be an arse.

Anyone who doesn't think so either doesn't think very highly of their own friends, or have some warped 'ownership' concepts when it comes to exes.
 
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Its not about possession of the woman. Of course he doesn't own her. The permission being sought is based upon the emotional state of the friend. Is he still emotionally attached etc.

Perhaps you are able to completely and immediately sever all emotional ties when you break up with a girl but not all of us are. Personally I'm happy to have friends that are aware of that sort of thing.
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If the friend had an on and off relationship, and cheated on her, then being upset by this clearly is an ownership thing.
 
Not read the other replies but you are completely out of order. Fair enough if it was a quick fling he had but he was with her for 6 years. If it was me I actually probably would go and kill you I wouldn't have to tell any of my mates don't date my ex the fact you even have to open this thread shows you're clueless at life. Why would you even want to when your mate has been with her for 6 years? I look at society sometimes these days and really feel we need more birth control, less big brother on the tv and a hell of a lot more ambition and education.
 
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With ex's involved he will feel uncomfortable as he will feel you are both laughing at him I guess as you both will be taslking about him at some point or another and if he fell down anywhere, will feel that he is at a disadvantage to you both to that extent.
Whether he ever cheated on her, did she ever cheat on him, what were the main reasons for the on off relationship.
Women can come and go, male mates are actually harder to come by (pardon the expression)
Ultimately it boils down to one question.

Does she have great ****?
 
How did they split up? If she broke up with him and he deep down still loved her and wanted to be with her I could understand why he was upset. If he split up with her, 6 months have passed and he is dating other people then I'm not sure why he is upset.

Yeah, you probably have mentioned it to him at first, but if he doesn't want her then why does it bother him?
 
Judging by the reactions of some of the people here.
They seem to not notice that said mates ex, has no problem getting to know the OP. Her choice, as she was closer to said mate than he was (probably).

If she is wanting to move on with her life, why should a potentially jealous mate stop the two of you? Its called being an adult, if your mate chooses not to be happy for you then he was never a very good mate was he? As many have said, he had more than his fair share of chances in over 6 years.

Go for it OP, if you end up a "mate" down, you would be better off anyway.
 
If they had six months of history and it happened six years ago then I'd be more inclined to say it was fine.

With a girl with any history in recent times, no way. Not on your nelly. It's totally unnecessary, it's not like there aren't other girls out there.

If you are going to go along this route, you should have gone for it very slow burner so as not to appear you are just after a pork.

I'd say it was pretty poor form really.
 
I'm sorry, but what was the purpose of creating this thread? This was never going to be a discussion, but everybody saying how they hold the correct opinion.
 
Welshy said:
I'm sorry, but what was the purpose of creating this thread? This was never going to be a discussion, but everybody saying how they hold the correct opinion.
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The moral thing to do here is clearly get her pregnant and declare you must wed immediately as you do not want a ******* child to grow up as an outcast to be mocked in this heartless society.

You are a man of honour your reputation must be unstained.

If you friend does not understand this and sympathise with your plight then surely he cant be a very good friend ?
 
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