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I can't get over than a soldier boy asked for advice about a girl I think it is sooooo funny! Not a real soldier though. Just a toy soldier.
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Wait till the two of you split up and then he comes back to the country. You'll feel like a right *** then.
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A mate went out with an ex-girlfriend (4 years) of mine when we were in our twenties....it was a bit weird to begin with, but he's a good a bloke and she is a decent bird and I had moved on from the relationship anyway so it wasn't really a big deal. They have now been married a dozen years or so with a couple of great kids. We are all still great friends and everyone is happy.
All this bros before hoes nonsense is just childish, everyone is different and some will be more comfortable with it than othets but the bottom line is how serious does the OP and the Girl feel about each other and how important is the friendship?....hopefully his friend will realise that you can't hold on to someone forever and the OP will realise that his mate might feel a bit weirded out about the whole thing and be tactful about the whole thing....nobody is in the wrong here, it just needs a bit of time and a bit of maturity and hopefully everything will work out.
If it doesn't then you live and learn and move on.
All this bros before hoes nonsense is just childish, everyone is different and some will be more comfortable with it than othets but the bottom line is how serious does the OP and the Girl feel about each other and how important is the friendship?....hopefully his friend will realise that you can't hold on to someone forever and the OP will realise that his mate might feel a bit weirded out about the whole thing and be tactful about the whole thing....nobody is in the wrong here, it just needs a bit of time and a bit of maturity and hopefully everything will work out.
If it doesn't then you live and learn and move on.
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^^yes I think so.
I don't get the whole ownership line people are using in here...I can't speak for the OPs friend but personally, unless i was still in love with her, i wouldn't have any problem with her dating strangers. She could date a million of them if she pleased....The issue is it being a friend.
It doesn't make sense for it to be an ownership/possession thing if you don't feel the same way about her dating 99.99999% of men in the world.
It doesn't make sense for it to be an ownership/possession thing if you don't feel the same way about her dating 99.99999% of men in the world.
Generally groups of blokes either have a "gentlemans agreement" or they don't. It's usually decided on the back of that.
I generally think it's poor form though, and knowing that your mate was secretly drooling over her whilst you were with her is pretty creepy.
But if stirring your mate's porridge is your thing then go for it
Sounds like he is well shot of you to be honest.
I generally think it's poor form though, and knowing that your mate was secretly drooling over her whilst you were with her is pretty creepy.
But if stirring your mate's porridge is your thing then go for it
Sounds like he is well shot of you to be honest.
Absolutely.
I'm only fervent about this because of bitter experience. I went out with my friend's ex [who was admittedly stunning] but it killed our friendship, and he was one of my best friends. I went out with her, it only lasted eight months, and I paid the price for it.
Yes I know women aren't just vaginas it was a figure of speech, bros before hoes. Could at least ask the friend before doing anything. Don't even know how I'd react if a mate said 'oh btw I'm getting it on with so and so' randomly, I think I'd just be too annoyed to even do anything except show them the door, I'd instantly see them in such a way that they aren't even worth hurting tbh.
Also nobody is good enough to date my sister or anybody related to me. Now if my mate was banging my sister? I'm pretty sure I'd kill them, completely. How anyone can even see it in a different way is beyond me...
Even this is not a guarantee, though.
I asked my friend if it was OK to date his ex, he said it was fine, but when it actually happened he couldn't take it. I don't blame him, really.
I agree, but if he didn't like it when it actually happened I doubt he was actually fine with it, should have just been honest with you. This kinda thing is very important, I mean bloody hell, a close female friend of mine like most girls has a lot of other girls she strongly dislikes, could even say hate, and I'd never go near them. It's just out of respect that you don't date people sensitive to your friends, whether it's and ex or somebody they dislike or a family member or anything at all like that. Dating a friend of a friend on the other hand is a really good idea! Even so, you should go completely away from your circles of friends when it comes to a partner, just find somebody on your own who you like.
Everyone has their different view on it, though. I just can't see how anyone could date a mates ex unless they were completely over them, I'd feel dirty doing it regardless anyway.
How pathetic. It's up to her who she dates and why, and has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Would rather not have to sort a mate out tbh if he did anything bad, although I wouldn't expect you to understand though, doubt you'd give a flying if somebody messed your sister around.
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Depends if the mate is one of those guys who'd rub it in like shut up for i bang your sister again. Most guys are like that hence why no guy touches the next mans sister/s.
Why are you so protective? Why do you feel it's your duty to protect her so much? Why do you think it's right for you to have to murder someone who upsets your sister?
Do you fancy her? Are you jealous of those who get with her?
So protective? There is no such thing when it comes to family, if you don't look out for your own, then you need to be taught a lesson tbh.
Jealous? Fancy her? You're having a laugh right... I don't know how you do it up in Scotland but the fact you'd come to that worries me. You poor, poor man.
So protective? There is no such thing when it comes to family, if you don't look out for your own, then you need to be taught a lesson tbh.
Jealous? Fancy her? You're having a laugh right... I don't know how you do it up in Scotland but the fact you'd come to that worries me. You poor, poor man.
Why can't she take care of her self? Why can't she decide who she goes out? Why can't she make mistakes and learn from them? Why are you so better suited to pick out her sexual partners? IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!
It's very odd how protective you are, to her detriment. Stop trying to control her life and live yours.
A poll might be worth a goThis thread can only be settled by one thing.
A poll!
I'm firmly in the 'OP now has the right to do whatever he wants as long as he doesn't do it in his friends face' camp.
It is very weird for you to be going out with a mates ex. But, ultimately it depends on how their break up happened (who broke up with who, are they still on speaking terms, etc) and how long it's been since said break up. I think after 6 months the feelings will still be a little raw for the dumpee (which sounds to be your mate?), and it absolutely stinks of you waiting for them to break up and pounce on her.
If their break up went badly, then it won't exactly be a comfortable atmosphere at group get togethers (birthdays, new year, weddings, etc). Is it really worth the baggage to get your nob wet?
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