Mrs just left me..

Some people on this forum will say cut her out ur life...

They may not understand what a 3year+ relationship is like. I have been with my wife for 9 years (actually getting married this year so not exactly wife)... If this happened to me i would brake down and be unable to carry on... But then again your relationship is young. (im 24 btw :P)

I hope she finds her way back.
 
ChocolateStarfishRammer said:
3 Years in and the best she can do is a 4 page letter saying sorry!?

I mean.. Not even the decency to repay me basically funding her through Uni via a face to face chat!

But, on the upside.. she just need some "space".. brilliant, yeah, that clears it up for me doesn't it. At-least I know where I stand.

I never thought Id be one for a GD love story.. but, I need some advice here.

Bottom line, she says she needs space to think and appreciate everything I do blah blah because she doesn't feel like she loves me anymore..

Do I sit back and wait, or do I chase her? Discuss.
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Don't wallow.

Go out and enjoy your time with your friends, don't be afraid to feel upset and don't try and pull the next thing that walks in front of you. Just enjoy yourself and then if she does decide she wants to come back you can make a decision if you want the same.
 
I've literally just gone through the same thing, I was with my gf for about three and a half years. Then just before I went to work one day Bang! she left me out of the blue.

I never got a real reason why and tbh I don't want one now, best thing to do is just cut all contact and get out with your mates, it feels rubbish at first but you'll soon start to feel better.
 
Nerusy said:
Ah the sweet confusion of youth, I tell you a story about a couple where a guy was giving it all to the girl, he loved her even despite her not-so-nice personality. In time she felt like she didn't love him, she felt like she was with him out of fear...fear to move on and be something else. The confusion of youth made her break up with him. Oh he tried to talk, to understand what is happening but to no avail, basket case of emotions clouding her judgement.

5 years have passed since, they're friends. He moved on...she not so much. Only 5 years did she admit that it was a huge mistake...you see she had to make the mistake to realize how good her life was before. There's a story for you. Even though it's obvious she was making a mistake was the anything the boy could do but to move on? Should he have pressured her?...that doesn't seem right, after all that wouldn't have taught her the lesson.

Perhaps your story is different and all this is not applicable but as I say, time goes on, things change only thing for you left to do is to move on.
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And the first thing that's coming into my mind as im ready... 5 years isn't that long to wait. Even I realise how stupid and pathetic that is!

Jonny L said:
My previous girlfriend was like this, she lived with me for almost 2 years rent free while we were both at uni and I was working full time. She had a Job in a cafe but decided she didn't like it. I basically ended up supporting her. Then she did this to me. I thought to myself "sod her" and set about smashing the pasties of a number of fit female work colleagues, one of which turned out to be an amazing girl who I have been with for over 18 months now and we split everything down the middle! It's a great feeling wanting to pay for something for her rather than having to. Funny thing was the ex came back after the summer expecting me to have been pining over her and seemed pretty put out that I'd moved on.
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Feel your pain dude.. Hope all is good now.

bfar said:
It sucks ass, but you're 22. Like many normal people you may well do this relationship thing all over again, with 2 or three more girls before you finally find one to settle down with.

You could always enjoy being your own man for a while, and now's the time to do it. You won't get these next few years back.. enjoy em! I'm very happily married man in my 30s now, but I regret all the time I put into relationships before I was 27, because most people completely change between their 20s and 30s.
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Thing is. Im not 22 mentally, Im way way older.. and a very, very, very logical person whos methods in life are literately directly connected to that picture of WD40 + Masking Tape.. Can I fix it with either one of these.. yes? great. No? I cant fix or change it, Don't worry about it then.... And Ive just got embedded in my head that things would plan out and she finishes uni end of this year, then we've got decent cash flow coming in, we save for house, move etc etc etc.. and by the time im 27-28 im settled and first kid is on its way. Just the thought of starting again now, like say a year to smash pasty, 2-3years before comfortable to buy somewhere with someone again, then 2-3 again before ready for all that stuff. I just feel like the floor I stand on has been ripped out from under me and my whole life set back 2,3 maybe 4 years for that plan I had in my head. :(
 
Diagro said:
Some people on this forum will say cut her out ur life...

They may not understand what a 3year+ relationship is like. I have been with my wife for 9 years (actually getting married this year so not exactly wife)... If this happened to me i would brake down and be unable to carry on... But then again your relationship is young. (im 24 btw :P)

I hope she finds her way back.
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My GF of 4 years left me a couple of months ago after 3 years living with me. In that time I helped her financially with transport and living expenses whilst she became a student. She gone now and whilst it didn't quite go down as one sided as the OPs, I still did the only thing one should do in that situation. I told her to **** off. I feel better now than when she was still calling me. :)

Woman are thickle. If you find a good one, your relationship won't end over trivial reasons.
 
God, people of GD need to learn how to keep a woman!

I keep mine just because I am an amazing dancer. I set the dance floor alight. People gasp and point in amazement.

Learn to dance people, learn to dance! ;)
 
not rag week by chance is it?


give it a few days and see if she gets in touch. don't go out smashing the first bit of pasty you can lay your hands on, give things a bit of time to cool off and see where the land lies before you go dipping your wick
 
Delta12 said:
not rag week by chance is it?


give it a few days and see if she gets in touch. don't go out smashing the first bit of pasty you can lay your hands on, give things a bit of time to cool off and see where the land lies before you go dipping your wick
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Listen to this guy, he might be 'ard and Scottish but he knows his women! :p
 
Harbourite said:
God, people of GD need to learn how to keep a woman!

I keep mine just because I am an amazing dancer. I set the dance floor alight. People gasp and point in amazement.

Learn to dance people, learn to dance! ;)
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They aint all worth keeping, bro. :P
 
ChocolateStarfishRammer said:
Thing is. Im not 22 mentally, Im way way older.. and a very, very, very logical person whos methods in life are literately directly connected to that picture of WD40 + Masking Tape.. Can I fix it with either one of these.. yes? great. No? I cant fix or change it, Don't worry about it then.... And Ive just got embedded in my head that things would plan out and she finishes uni end of this year, then we've got decent cash flow coming in, we save for house, move etc etc etc.. and by the time im 27-28 im settled and first kid is on its way. Just the thought of starting again now, like say a year to smash pasty, 2-3years before comfortable to buy somewhere with someone again, then 2-3 again before ready for all that stuff. I just feel like the floor I stand on has been ripped out from under me and my whole life set back 2,3 maybe 4 years for that plan I had in my head. :(
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Life isn't a piece of code that you program and then sit back and watch it work. Plans change and not always because you want them to. As an aside, your plan above sounds like the outcome and timing is far more important to you than the person you're sharing your life with. It's alarmingly selfish.

You're 22, you're a child. This is, what, your second, third serious relationship? Maybe even your first? You have lots of time ahead of you to find someone more suitable than your ex because if she was suitable then you'd be with her, wouldn't you?

It's over, move on.
 
You have been played bra, shes a gold digger, used you for what she wanted, now shes getting rid and someone else is tapping it for sure, ignore the bitch and go rag some fresh meat :D
 
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