Do you legally have to notify partner of child?

sp1ke said:
is the dad decent guy or a douche?
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Met him a couple of times seemed decent enough. Didn't have the best of jobs, but worked. One of the reasons why they separated is they couldn't afford a place of their own on his wage alone, girl didn't get on with the mother law.
 
Part of me wants to tell, but then im thinking I could just end up making a bad situation worse. Plus it's not really my place to be breaking news like that, I don't have contact with father nor have his number, so would have to go out of my way to notify him regarding something that's really none if my business. Just peeves me off knowing this woman is doing this and the fact I have to go over and congratulate her on her new born, knowing what's she's done/doing.
 
Craterloads said:
Met him a couple of times seemed decent enough. Didn't have the best of jobs, but worked. One of the reasons why they separated is they couldn't afford a place of their own on his wage alone, girl didn't get on with the mother law.
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Then she's probably just a venomous skank, and yah you'd want to let the father know somehow.

But like guy said above, maybe dude is better off not knowing somehow.... obviously child comes first but imagine the bitterness and arguments.
 
Craterloads said:
Just peeves me off knowing this woman is doing this and the fact I have to go over and congratulate her on her new born, knowing what's she's done/doing.
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Just curious but why? I personally wouldn't, knowing what she's done I'd avoid her myself xD
 
Dis86 said:
drunkenmaster said:
Sounds like the kind of person that when she needs or wants to, goes after child maintainance costs from him after years of refusing to tell him he ever had a kid.
This is exactly what happened to my uncle.

She turns up at the door with an 8 year old kid. Oh by the way, this is your daughter, I'd like you to pay maintenance please.

Paternity test goes through saying it's his. He was actually pretty happy, couldn't wait to get to know her etc.

Mum then decides, no sorry, you can't see her it would be too upsetting for her after she's been raised by another man for 7 years. Thanks for the maintenance cheques though and we look forward to receiving christmas and birthday presents for her.
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wow just wow...

Humanity at its finest, I'm gonna make sure if I go shooting anything into a girl it's going to after very careful background checks and consideration... holy crapp.
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So much hatred towards the the woman, nobody on here is considering that perhaps there's a reason the marriage didn't work and she's not wanting the father involved? He may be a great lad to his friends but a complete nightmare to women, may have abused her etc. Rather than attack someone who could be completely innocent in the situation why not address the question asked - is she legally required to tell the likely father?

No, she's not. However she shouldn't be lying when registering the birth and morally it's a grey area depending on how much of a douche he is.
 
Halfmad said:
So much hatred towards the the woman, nobody on here is considering that perhaps there's a reason the marriage didn't work and she's not wanting the father involved? He may be a great lad to his friends but a complete nightmare to women, may have abused her etc. Rather than attack someone who could be completely innocent in the situation why not address the question asked - is she legally required to tell the likely father?

No, she's not. However she shouldn't be lying when registering the birth and morally it's a grey area depending on how much of a douche he is.
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If he was that bad she shouldn't have slept, married and had a child with him.
 
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I've had an idea. Shes probably the kind of woman to create a facebook account for the baby right? Add the baby, add the dad and wait for Facebooks "People you may know" to do the rest :D
 
Is it bad that I wouldn't be able to keep this from the ex?

I hate stories like this where the mother makes a decision on behalf of the child.

He could end up saying he wants nothing to do with his daughter, or be a bad dad and have to stop seeing her, but does everyone not deserve the chance?

The thought of someone having to grow up without a father because the mother is a **** is a horrible one to have :(
 
If I was the dad I would rather not know and he could probably have a better life now knowing the truth.

BUT the child would probably end up being less like its mother if it spent time with its dad (providing he isn't a douche). He may end up bonding really well and she may appreciate getting the child off her hands.

To be honest I wouldn't get involved. Doing the right thing can sometimes bite you in the rear. Avoid conflict and live your own life chap.
 
If he was abusive drunk rapist I might be able to sympathise with the woman, if she's just doing it out of spite then she is an utterly disgusting human being.
 
Stretch said:
If he was that bad she shouldn't have slept, married and had a child with him.
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People change, don't you watch Jerry Kyle? :p Also she didn't have a child with him, she had sex with him - he's out of the picture when the child arrives, even if it's through no fault of his own.

I'm a father, don't go assuming I'm on her side but we've got one very blinkered side of the story to go on from a third party..
 
You need to tell the guy what you know. That way he can decide if he wants anything to do with her/the kid.
She sounds like a nasty piece of work. If the guy knows the facts then he can decide what to do and won't fall into these traps she's setting up for him with the leading messages.

The last thing you want is to not tell the guy then regret it because she's gone and hurt the kid/tried to get money off him when he could have done something about it...
 
Halfmad said:
People change, don't you watch Jerry Kyle? :p Also she didn't have a child with him, she had sex with him - he's out of the picture when the child arrives, even if it's through no fault of his own.

I'm a father, don't go assuming I'm on her side but we've got one very blinkered side of the story to go on from a third party.
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True, but I can't see many valid reasons to deny a father knowledge of his own children. If he's not fit to be a father then he would be refused access.

This does highlight just how one sided the legal aspect parenthood is in this country.

A women is supported by the state when perusing a father for maintenance and he's is forced to take responsibility for "having sex" no matter how awful the woman is, how bigger mistake it was or whether he consented to wanting children in the first place.

There are no excuses, it's just hard luck and if he didn't want children he shouldn't have had sex. Once a child is born a father assumes involuntary responsibly for that child. He's not out of the picture.

Its seems women get a choice on these matters where fathers don't.
 
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