money in relationships

[Castiel]

This is ignorant of facts and largely nonsense.

Indeed. For one my wife has a significantly better paid job than I, she is eminently better financially than I and I can not remember a single time when either of us told the other how to spend our money.....if it is a significant amount then we discuss it like normal people should, if not then its not important.

Each person has what works for them, and a single financial arrangement incorporated into our family unit is how it works for us.

 

[bertles86]

it doesn't suck itself

This.

 

[mjd]

so im married with a little girl.

i work full time, i dont go out drinking, i dont smoke, i go to the gym to keep me healthy as i work in an office.

so after the bills have gone out. (joint account, phone , gym, petrol, savings, nursery) i have money left over.

all of our house type bills (mortgage, leccy, water, food etc) comes out of our joint account.

mostly the rest of my money ends up going on takeaways or bits and bobs from the shops (food)

my wife works full time pays off her side of the bills and she has money left over.

so my view on this is that she is free to do whatever she likes with her money and me with mine.

is this the same in yours?

Identical here.
I have been assured that if we get hitched that eveything will become 'ours' but given we have lived together for 10 years and neither of us can be bothered to get married due to feuding parents on her side....I cant see this changing.

 

[bertles86]

Identical here.
I have been assured that if we get hitched that eveything will become 'ours' but given we have lived together for 10 years and neither of us can be bothered to get married due to feuding parents on her side....I cant see this changing.

Sounds like fun! Why the feuding parentals?

 

[Amleto]

I'm assuming you're speaking metaphorically, rather than actually getting paid cash in a packet.

That's the traditional way. For example, my grandad worked for 50 years and never opened his own wage packet. When he was at home, he gave it to his mother. When he got married and moved out, he gave it to his wife. His friends and acquaintances did the same - it was the way things were done. Men worked for pay, women controlled the money because they ran the households.

That's still very prevalent in China, I believe.

 

[HangTime]

My wife and I have separate accounts and we have traditionally roughly ongoing split bills, however as I have a lot more in savings when it comes to large purchases such as houses and cars I normally pay.
As my salary has recently increased I will probably start paying a larger proportion of the bills (even more so once the baby arrives!)

 

[Gunni Parker]

My gf earns more. Pays her half of the bills. Then the rest of her money disapears and I help bail her out. But, I can buy what Iwant. Even to extent if I wanted a Tiger she wouldnt be bothered.