How do you deliver bad news?

doofer · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:17

Tell them your just nipping out for a bag of crisps/milk/cigs and don't go back, people love being kept in suspense.

Dannyb01y · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:21

phonemonkey said:
I've packed the car up and will sit partner down soon and deliver the news soon. Just hate having these conversations

If they walk past the car they'll probably get the message before hand.

Breaking up sucks... no easy way to do it. Don't guys usually just become mean and moody until the other half breaks up with them?

Burnsy2023 · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:23

knip said:
I had to tell my Mum I had found the Dad she had been searching for for the last 18 years, but that he had died back in 1991.

I said I had something to tell her, asked her to sit down, pre warned her it wasn't good news, and then just told her in simple terms.

Your other half deserves the decency of you being honest with him/her, even if he/she doesnt want the same thing you do, don't be a wimp and just run off, or leave him/her a note, they deserves better than that. They are bound to have questions (especially if they haven't seen this coming) and you need to answer them.

Absolutely this.

And not this:

knip · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:26

phonemonkey said:
I've packed the car up and will sit partner down soon and deliver the news soon. Just hate having these conversations

If you've been putting stuff in the car, have they not noticed?

Do you have somewhere to go tonight?

phonemonkey · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:26

knip said:
I had to tell my Mum I had found the Dad she had been searching for for the last 18 years, but that he had died back in 1991.

I said I had something to tell her, asked her to sit down, pre warned her it wasn't good news, and then just told her in simple terms.

Your other half deserves the decency of you being honest with him/her, even if he/she doesnt want the same thing you do, don't be a wimp and just run off, or leave him/her a note, they deserves better than that. They are bound to have questions (especially if they haven't seen this coming) and you need to answer them.

Thanks for the proper advice. Was taking it as a given that I'd have to have a face to face chat.

Things have been bad for a while, but they seem oblivious to just how bad. They also seem completely unaware that my clothes are gone from the wardrobe and my Xbox is boxed sitting next to the last 2 bags

robgmun · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:30

Them?

You leaving kids behind as well?

Devrij · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:33

*quickly checks to make sure xbox is where it should be*

phonemonkey · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:33

knip said:
If you've been putting stuff in the car, have they not noticed?

Do you have somewhere to go tonight?

Apparently not! I've sorted somewhere to stay - moving in with a friend

And no. Not leaving kids, just the partner

Fuzz · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:35

Dunks · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:35

robgmun said:
Them?

You leaving kids behind as well?

Obvs using 'them' instead of her or him, due to 'them' being a him!

Edrof · 2 Mar 2013 at 16:49

phonemonkey said:
I've sorted somewhere to stay - moving in with a friend

And no. Not leaving kids, just the partner

It does sound a bit like you've left the talking until the last possible minute and then, basically, you'll just run away!

Derek W · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:17

Hope that's the right clip.

wnb · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:24

phonemonkey said:
I've got to tell my partner that its over and I'm moving out and I've been procrastinating all day as I don't want to hurt them.

It's got me thinking - how do you deliver bad news?

Its hard giving bad news, I once had to tell a family friend that her sister was dead. I was trying not to tell her and told her to call home but she just knew that I knew more. Bloody awful having to do that and I hope never have to do it again. She was oonly 24 years old when she died.

Castiel · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:25

email, fax, advert in the Times.....anything to avoid doing it face to face.

Skillmister · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:28

Castiel said:
email, fax, advert in the Times.....anything to avoid doing it face to face.

Did you see the ad in the times?

deej · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:28

In a discreet way....

Castiel · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:37

Skillmister said:
Did you see the ad in the times?

My wife is too tight to tell me via anything that cost money.....besides I'm not that lucky!!!

413x · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:37

sports_brah said:
It's not me its you.

Classic never die

RDM · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:47

Say you are going on a training course to Coventry. Never come back...

4T5 · 2 Mar 2013 at 17:48

phonemonkey said:
I've got to tell my partner that its over and I'm moving out and I've been procrastinating all day as I don't want to hurt them.

It's got me thinking - how do you deliver bad news?

Just give her a folded up dustbin sack & walk off, When she unfolds it She'll get the message & you'll be gone.