The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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Finally removed my Ex off Facebook. Been a strange four weeks since we broke up.
She initially wanted to be my friend, then got quite angry with me for trying to be her friend. Now says she's going to ignore me as she doesn't want to rely on me as a friend.
My first and only relationship it feels like at this point. I'm 25, can't be doing with this stuff in my life. I have enough to deal with my IBS etc, which is something she found quite amusing.
Always seems though, no matter how much **** you've been through, you always seems to find one little reason that makes you wish you were still together? Love is a messed up thing.
/vent over!
She initially wanted to be my friend, then got quite angry with me for trying to be her friend. Now says she's going to ignore me as she doesn't want to rely on me as a friend.
My first and only relationship it feels like at this point. I'm 25, can't be doing with this stuff in my life. I have enough to deal with my IBS etc, which is something she found quite amusing.
Always seems though, no matter how much **** you've been through, you always seems to find one little reason that makes you wish you were still together? Love is a messed up thing.
/vent over!
^^ you've done the right thing, I need to do it too really. It's been 3 months and she still expects me to provide the emotional side of the relationship over the phone every couple of weeks, but then gets angry when we run out of things to talk about after 20 mins on the phone.
Got to look after number one (and one day I will do it properly too)
Got to look after number one (and one day I will do it properly too)
I can tell you now... I wouldn't be surprised that she comes around wanting something and acting sweet as pie. If you aren't careful you will lap it up like a puppy. If you broke up, that's it. Cut ties, else it becomes awkward later.
There is hope lads. I posted earlier on this year about my ex of 3 years who broke up with on the day before NYE. I felt awful at the time and thought it would take months and months to feel better. She did me a massive favour - I'm happier than ever.
Back playing badminton, football, DJing, gym and seeing friends all the time. Met lots of new ladies
, some much more compatible/attractive than my ex.
A note to everyone - it does get better.
Back playing badminton, football, DJing, gym and seeing friends all the time. Met lots of new ladies
, some much more compatible/attractive than my ex.A note to everyone - it does get better.
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i come in here when i need a little guidance, recently split up with my ex of 4 years about 3 months ago.
came in here to well rant, and was given some great advice! no break up is easy and no two are the same.
but ill read back in here occasionally to just gain some reassurance and am very glad i posted in here in the first place!
came in here to well rant, and was given some great advice! no break up is easy and no two are the same.
but ill read back in here occasionally to just gain some reassurance and am very glad i posted in here in the first place!
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no matter how rubbish anyone feels.
there is one main fact that helped me!
it DOES get easier! no matter how badly you think it wont.
there is one main fact that helped me!
it DOES get easier! no matter how badly you think it wont.
I would just ask her "Why the **** are you calling me?"
My ex came round about a month ago to get the last of her stuff (its taken a while as she 'forgets' things every time - even now some stuff still remains) and after loading her car wanted me to make her a cup of tea and to chat. Like a mug I eventually did (mainly thinking she might have something semi important to say) but sure as **** she just waffled on about nothing while I sat there not saying much.
After that she was texting idle chit chat for a couple of days (I didn't reply) which started again earlier this week (still haven't replied).
A note to everyone - it does get better.
Amen, it's cliche (can't find the accented e on paralelles), but time truly is a healer.
Yep!
Didn't take me too long to heal from the break up of my 7.5yr relationship though.
Meeting new people, going out with friends and taking up new hobbies etc will deffo help as well. Keeping yourself busy = very little time for you to (over)think.
From my experience it totally depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up that determine the length of time to heal.
I find that if you take the decisive action to break up then you will heal quicker than the other half. Also, it depends on the reason of the break up too... i.e. breaking up due to cheating will make you heal quicker then not getting a real reason for the break up at all.
All in all - it takes time, keep busy, and don't over think
My problem is. I'm going mad.
I suffer with IBS. Going out and having to use a toilet is something I hate doing, so I more or less stopped going out!
Sometimes I go round to my mates, but I struggle doing normal things with people. I don't like to eat or drink when I go out as it tends to make me poorly.
Basically I'm ******, it's the most depressing thing in the world.
I suffer with IBS. Going out and having to use a toilet is something I hate doing, so I more or less stopped going out!
Sometimes I go round to my mates, but I struggle doing normal things with people. I don't like to eat or drink when I go out as it tends to make me poorly.
Basically I'm ******, it's the most depressing thing in the world.
I know people always say it but there is always someone worse off than yourself. I mentioned near the start of this thread that im disabled (cerebral palsy) and never had a GF but my opinion is that if someone cant accept me for who I am, then its their loss. The odd occasion ive asked people out, ive been told no, then later on down the line, they complain because they go for the bad boys thinking they can change them into good guys. Never happens.
I can well imagine how bloody annoying IBS is but again, its not something that can be helped and if someone takes the **** out of you for that, then your better off without them. What goes around comes around imo
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September is too far away, I'm stuck living with my most recent ex, we broke up in January when we realised we didn't really feel anything for each other anymore, she's moving up north for a job in August/September, but until then we're stuck living together, and I've got a box room 
I need a sanctuary to escape from her(e)
I need a sanctuary to escape from her(e)
It's difficult when you miss someone and you know deep down that you shouldn't because of all the bad things that happened/were said. Distracting yourself certainly helps but there are still occasions where it suddenly hits you
Taken - I can completely sympathise. It got to a point where I was worried about going out in case I was ill. Then I just said I've had enough of this and decided to try something that could potentially sort it for good. I still have that "fear" though.
Have you had any food allergy tests done? Tried avoiding wheat and seeing if there's any improvement?
Completely agree with James N. I had an ex who said I was annoying because of my diet back then. At the time i actually apologised but what i shouldve said was "Yes of course, I love having to be careful with food, not be able to eat anything without the worry of it making me ill"
There will be someone out there who will support you and accept you for who you are. Chin up and if you ever need a rant about annoying stomachs, email is in trust lol.
Taken - I can completely sympathise. It got to a point where I was worried about going out in case I was ill. Then I just said I've had enough of this and decided to try something that could potentially sort it for good. I still have that "fear" though.
Have you had any food allergy tests done? Tried avoiding wheat and seeing if there's any improvement?
Completely agree with James N. I had an ex who said I was annoying because of my diet back then. At the time i actually apologised but what i shouldve said was "Yes of course, I love having to be careful with food, not be able to eat anything without the worry of it making me ill"
There will be someone out there who will support you and accept you for who you are. Chin up and if you ever need a rant about annoying stomachs, email is in trust lol.
Haha! It'll probably end up like that one day. Thankfully the texting stopped so its just the odd polite phone call, we have cool stuff to talk about a little while then it pitters out into her rambling and nothing comes of it.
I think I might have to get back into hopelessly dreaming of a relationship with an old friend (who I should have gone out with when we were 17 but its for the best we didn't isn...) that or annoying women on the internet