Engagement ring for the girl who doesn't wear jewellery.
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I have just proposed to my girlfriend of 6 years last week.
I didn't want to get her a ring as i thought it would be best she choose it herself. She is glad she can pick it herself as she has a very individual taste.
I bought a cheap ring <£100 and proposed with that explaining it was a symbol blah blah and that she could pick her own when we get back as I did it whilst on holiday.
My advise to anyone a little uncertain on what ring to go for is let them choose.
But then i suppose it depends totally on the person.
I didn't want to get her a ring as i thought it would be best she choose it herself. She is glad she can pick it herself as she has a very individual taste.
I bought a cheap ring <£100 and proposed with that explaining it was a symbol blah blah and that she could pick her own when we get back as I did it whilst on holiday.
My advise to anyone a little uncertain on what ring to go for is let them choose.
But then i suppose it depends totally on the person.
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Do you mean she doesn't wear jewellery at all or she doesn't wear jewellery on her hands ?
If the latter, maybe get a really nice necklace to put the ring on.
You also then have options for exactly how the ring looks - it doesn't have to follow the traditional styling / dimensions of a ring to be worn on the hand but it should probably keep the basic ring shape.
I've always liked the idea of rings which fit together which is a feature that can be more nicely achieved when not constrained by the dimensions imposed on hand jewellery.
Of course, there is also the consideration that part of the "tradition"/"function" of a ring, is that it is worn on the hand to be seen, as a visible public declaration that the person is engaged - I know many friends who "honour" that, in as much as they don't flirt / pursue any person wearing an engagement / wedding ring.
If the latter, maybe get a really nice necklace to put the ring on.
You also then have options for exactly how the ring looks - it doesn't have to follow the traditional styling / dimensions of a ring to be worn on the hand but it should probably keep the basic ring shape.
I've always liked the idea of rings which fit together which is a feature that can be more nicely achieved when not constrained by the dimensions imposed on hand jewellery.
Of course, there is also the consideration that part of the "tradition"/"function" of a ring, is that it is worn on the hand to be seen, as a visible public declaration that the person is engaged - I know many friends who "honour" that, in as much as they don't flirt / pursue any person wearing an engagement / wedding ring.
Think I will try and get an idea subtly (while watching a tv by saying 'do you like that?') if this doesn't work I think it will have to be token ring
Maybe seeing as she has facial piercings I could get something like that as a token then go choose a proper ring?
And to answer above.. No jewellery apart from face
Maybe seeing as she has facial piercings I could get something like that as a token then go choose a proper ring?
And to answer above.. No jewellery apart from face
I'll add another point of view:
You know that she doesn't wear jewellery and you're talking about spending a lot of money on a very small piece of stone in a small piece of metal because it's shiny, despite the fact that equal shininess can be bought for far less.
Try to ignore the advertising and ask yourself if that really makes sense.
Maybe she doesn't buy into the idea of "I must spend a lot of money I don't have spare on farcically overpriced shiny things because an industry has said I must". That doesn't show that you're committed. It shows that you're gullible. Maybe she's gullible too and she'd like you to waste your money on farcically overpriced shininess. Maybe she isn't and she'd be irritated by it. I sure as hell would be.
Commitment is in the mind, not in the bank accounts of jewellers.
You know that she doesn't wear jewellery and you're talking about spending a lot of money on a very small piece of stone in a small piece of metal because it's shiny, despite the fact that equal shininess can be bought for far less.
Try to ignore the advertising and ask yourself if that really makes sense.
Maybe she doesn't buy into the idea of "I must spend a lot of money I don't have spare on farcically overpriced shiny things because an industry has said I must". That doesn't show that you're committed. It shows that you're gullible. Maybe she's gullible too and she'd like you to waste your money on farcically overpriced shininess. Maybe she isn't and she'd be irritated by it. I sure as hell would be.
Commitment is in the mind, not in the bank accounts of jewellers.
I'm so wet for you right now.
There is no subtle way of asking that sort of question to someone with no interest in jewellery
I'd also query whether you're buying a ring for her, or buying it for you. By that I mean she shows no interest in jewellery and yet you want to buy her a ring costing £1k. That's a lot of money for something she might not be interested in.
I understand the traditional side of it, and that it seems to be the done thing, but your girlfriend is an individual and as such she obviously has her own preferences. She might very well want a ring but you just don't know, so why not focus your efforts on making the actual proposal amazingly memorable so that she always has that moment to hold on to. Then afterwards you can discuss the ring and you can choose something together if it's what she wants.
Don't make the day about something she might have no interest in just because tradition dictates it. Make it about the two of you and what you know she likes, it'll mean a lot more to her.
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I never wear rings until I got engaged. She WILL wear it trust me 
As others have said, get a cheapy and propose with that.
It's too late now to randomly ask her tastes without being obvious.
BB x
As others have said, get a cheapy and propose with that.
It's too late now to randomly ask her tastes without being obvious.
BB x
Well by complete coincidence my coincidence my cousin has got engaged today. So I asked
Would you wear a ring
Yes
She then went on h. Samuel and clicked on 3 similar rings. Didn't say anything but they were all single stone with a few twists near the stone
Dunno if she was hinting or just went on as we were taking about it
Would you wear a ring
Yes
She then went on h. Samuel and clicked on 3 similar rings. Didn't say anything but they were all single stone with a few twists near the stone
Dunno if she was hinting or just went on as we were taking about it
She is probably posting on another forum right now asking why you haven't picked up on her blatant hints
Regarding the size, is she a heavy sleeper? I printed a ring size measurement gauge off the internet and measured the soon to be Mrs DL's ring finger whilst she slept, she was none the wiser and I got a ring that was a perfect fit.
Brought it where?