Has anyone ever had a serious fall out with their family?

esoteric said:
How about everyone stops wildly guessing my living arrangements? it's not what this thread is about and you're all wrong anyway. My Mum doesn't own this house, it's a part ownership with me and my Brother because Dad couldn't afford it, and when he died his estate became my Mum's.

I don't know what Victorian household some of you grew up in, but my Mother taught me respect, right from wrong, and most importantly, to stand up for myself, be an individual and not a servant.

So yes, I even stand up to my Mum when she is being wrong, and she's damn proud of me for it.

And btw, I always offer my help for Sunday Roast ;)
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Wow, how very good of you. She must be so proud.
 
so, I picked my mum up from work as I do every day and we had yet another argument all because I needed to pop into a shop on the way home and she had shops to go to before they shut at 5pm today. I was literally 3mins in the shop and she flipped. I drop her into work every day for 7am and pick her up at 3:30pm due to the effects of my dad (he cheated and my mum kicked him out a while back).

Got home and I told her not to talk to me the way that she was (very rude) and she said that she would talk to me the way that she wanted to as she's my mother.

This is really ******* me off big time and I don't know what to do. I feel so depressed which I know is a strong word but I do and I've suffered with depression in the past and I don't want to go back to that.

She just told me to pack my stuff and get out if I don't like the way she talks to me.
 
Fuzz said:
Then I guess the best thing to do is pack your stuff and get out.
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I don't have anywhere to go and I know that this is tough but I don't know what to do. I've supported my family loads over the years and have given them money, cards to which are still being paid and this is how I'm treated. I just don't know what I'm going to do.
 
Lol at people just saying move out like it's easy to do. Most people in their 20's with a decent job can't afford to move out. simple as.
 
Luckily my family get on well, there are obviously the ones you dislike a little but I haven't fell out with any of them. Just tend to not speak to them, and just be civil on occasions like Xmas etc.
 
OP, She shouldn't talk to you like that, you deserve respect if you give it, even though living in her house. Sounds more like your mums having issues. I wouldn't leave just yet, might be good to give her a break though. Find something to do for a week or two, get out from under and let her see how much you do help. There are a lot of manboys taking advantage of their parents and staying well past when they should be long gone, but you don't sound like that to me. Your mum would do well to remember that she's going to need support when she's older as well, I left home at 20 and now my mum lives with me 20 odd years later. What goes around and all that...
 
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esoteric said:
How about everyone stops wildly guessing my living arrangements? it's not what this thread is about and you're all wrong anyway. My Mum doesn't own this house, it's a part ownership with me and my Brother because Dad couldn't afford it, and when he died his estate became my Mum's.

I don't know what Victorian household some of you grew up in, but my Mother taught me respect, right from wrong, and most importantly, to stand up for myself, be an individual and not a servant.

So yes, I even stand up to my Mum when she is being wrong, and she's damn proud of me for it.

And btw, I always offer my help for Sunday Roast ;)
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Well to he honest your huge rant made you sound like nothing more than an immature spoiled brat. You stand up to her when she is being wrong. She was wrong by singing too loudly when you were sitting elsewhere with headphones on? Sorry man but that still sounds pathetic.

It's just a situation that makes me feel sorry for your mother, especially when your father has sadly passed on.

I can only make a judgement from what I've read so don't wanna be too personal. Maybe it just reads worse than it is.
 
I fell out with my sister because she is a self obsessive person and would srart qrguments and shouting even when I'm trying to help her to get Skype working on her parents laptop so she could speak to her friend living abroad. Unfortunately ny mum takes it really badly and threatens to fall out with me because I won't reconcile. It's an ongoing circle of horridness.
 
On topic of op. I think your mam sounds like she's having a hard time. Your dad cheating on her probably turned her life upside down. Maybe she sees elements of him in you and it influences how she behaves with you.

Maybe get it out in the open about your dad. Have you discussed how she feels with her.

She might just be desperate for someone to talk to help get things off her chest.
 
Milkybk said:
Ridiculous. I moved out on an apprentice wage when I was 18. Most people who live at home into their mid-late twenties are just to comfortable to bother moving out. :rolleyes:
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Location Sheffield: I'd rather not have to move up north to move out thanks :)

I currently pay my parents £300 a month rent to live at home, if I want to rent a 1 bed flat around here I will need 3x that. I can't afford that.
 
buckeejit said:
I don't have anywhere to go and I know that this is tough but I don't know what to do. I've supported my family loads over the years and have given them money, cards to which are still being paid and this is how I'm treated. I just don't know what I'm going to do.
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Find a bedsit to rent?

You have a job I take it?
 
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