Hey bro, I wet the wick and light it with e juice and everything. The whole quenching thing, i watched it on youtube am i doing t hat wrong you think.
I don't bother with the quenching... Works perfectly well without that step.
All you're trying to achieve is a layer of carbon over each individual strand of mesh on the outside of the wick. Using a lighter is ok, but can cause problems if the flame is too yellow, as the soot will quickly build up and clog the individual holes in the mesh, reducing the capillary action used to wick the juice. and also tastes vile.
As I mentioned previously, a Kitchen Blowtorch is excellent, but otherwise, a Wind-Proof type gas lighter (with a strong, blue flame) is just as good, only takes a little longer as the blow torch heats more area at a time...
If you have a gas stove top, then that will achieve the same result too...
Use whatever you have to hand - just make sure you heat the coil end of the wick to red hot a couple of times, then juice it and set light a couple more times.
Once the wick is installed, I don't worry about any hot spots until I've pulsed a couple of dozen times. Most hotspots, when following the method I talked about (Drill bit/PetarK method) will work themselves out after a few pulses - you'll see the coil glow just on the top wrap, then the glowing will continue to develop along each coil turn, with each progressive pulse.
If I have problems because I notice gaps between coil and wick (looking straight down onto the coil & wick, with a light behind the mod) then I remove the wick and reverse-roll (when you first roll the wick, to tighten it up you will be rolling your thumbs away from you, so flip the wick 180 degrees) and each roll in the same direction will loosen the wick, widening the top. A couple of firm, reverse-rolls just at the coil end, should allow you to still easily slide the wick into the wick hole, but the wider end should now make better contact with the coil.
Pulse again and repeat the above method if still no luck.
Ultimately, mesh wicks/rebuildables, are all about patience. The cardinal rule being:
"If it ain't broke, don't fix it!" 
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