Do you ever feel like forcing your interests/hobbies on friends/family?

Nix said:
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I caved in. Took him to highbury the last seaon. He said if i didn't cheer and celebrate the goals he'd tell everyone I was a Spurs supporter.. I was hoping for a 0-0. No such chance.. 5 *** nil. Hardest day ever. Still done my bit.. never again haha
 
No because that would make me a giant twerp. I also hate pushy people so wouldn't want to be someone who keeps trying to persuade others to do a certain activity, knowing full well their polite responses of interest aren't indications to keep going but rather to shut up about my hobby and talk about something else.
 
My friends are usually pretty interested in my hobbies, mainly because with brewing and cooking there is some kind of intrinsic benefit to them showing an interest.

Computers? Cars? Only in certain groups, and theres some interests none of them are gonna care about.

If your friends aren't interested, they aren't interested, some people aren't interested in certain aspects of your life, deal with it.
I'm of the school of thought whereby I don't even pretend to be interested in something which bores me. If I detect boredom when talking about a certain aspect of my life, I just don't mention it again.

If I'm then struggling to make conversation? It would then make sense to see said friend less often because we don't have too much to talk about, no use being an obligation friend, that is a waste of time and effort.

Amount of times I've had to say to someone, "Mate, I genuinely don't care that you went on a cycle ride." or something like that. I wouldn't dream of boring the ******** off someone in the same way.
 
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I don't think there is much point trying to force interests or hobbies on someone, if it is something that peaks their interest, they are likely to mention it, or you can simply tell because they enquire with you about it.

I have a few friends who got into snowboarding through me, not something which I told them to do, but it peaked their interest and they started asking questions. I think sports are probably the area you most want to perhaps get people involved, but it does depend on the personality, if its somebody who is quite reserved, they might want to try something, but be a bit too afraid to specifically ask.

With the OP though, I think Home Cinema isn't really the kind of hobby you can rub off on other people. You have forums and hi-fi shops to share that interest. At the end of the day, Home Cinema is about having the money to spend on creating it. Its no good if somebody doesn't have, or want to spend the money on it. Its a bit different to saying "Do you want to try running.....? Ok, put on your shoes and we'll go for a run at a good spot I know".
 
doesn't sound like you're sharing your interest with them as much as just boasting about it. i like to go climbing, i try to convince friends to join as it's a lot of fun, i don't mention about how good i am and what i can do, but instead how fun it can be. maybe try the same.
 
Im into dance music & airplanes and these days I try and control my babbling and at last Ive reined it in. Friends faces used to glaze over when I made them listen to a trance song and be all "Wait...wait...listen to when the cymbal comes in....right....thereeeee..." Their reaction:

:rolleyes:

But Im also on the other side of the fence - I hate all sports with a burning passion specially talk of football, clubs and all that. I dont just glaze over, i either fall asleep or get up & leave.

So now my mates avoid sport talk in front of me and I dont bore them with EDM chatter & how cool the SU35 is :p

Apart from the few EDM friends I have of course, always fun checkin out new songs!:D
 
KatanaDV20 said:
Im into dance music & airplanes and these days I try and control my babbling and at last Ive reined it in. Friends faces used to glaze over when I made them listen to a trance song and be all "Wait...wait...listen to when the cymbal comes in....right....thereeeee..." Their reaction:

:rolleyes:

But Im also on the other side of the fence - I hate all sports with a burning passion specially talk of football, clubs and all that. I dont just glaze over, i either fall asleep or get up & leave.

So now my mates avoid sport talk in front of me and I dont bore them with EDM chatter & how cool the SU35 is :p

Apart from the few EDM friends I have of course, always fun checkin out new songs!:D
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Pop quiz hotshot... best trance track of 2013 so far is?
 
My main hobby is as a gigging musician and not one of my current work colleagues have seen me play because they are not into that stuff so I don't talk about it. I worked at a factory for 27 years and out of 1000s of people I worked with I can count on 2 hands the amount that saw me play live and my 10 best workmates never saw me. Last year the factory had been closed for 5 years and I ended up headlining to a 3000 strong crowd and after I'd finished people who I'd worked with for 2 decades had no idea I did that for a hobby since I was 12.

My 2nd hobby is satellite TV but nobody would be interested in my VU+ Solo2 that I've just had and my 3rd hobby is running & cycling so I might as well talk to the floor.

Of course now & then I will come across a 'friend' who will already be interested in a gadget I've had because they are into the same things.
 
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I've given up explaining to my wife, as her eyes just glaze over.

If she wants to know she'll ask, but even then I see the glaze form as soon as I open my mouth. Maybe she doesn't care about the benefits of 2100MHz RAM?! :rolleyes:
 
In answer to og question.

I try not to force the whole hobbies on people, lucky in some respects as some friends are interested in similar hobbies.

The one time I do it on purpose though is round at family for example, spend hours listening to someone talk about their job is very very boring (unless you find teaching primary kids very interesting) so sometimes I will just talk random crapola when I can get a word in edgeways. Sometimes I make this technical about a hobby just to bore them as revenge!
 
A friend is really into his fishing and has all the gear and probably spent thousands over the last few years on it. He thinks I should get into it and go and spend £500 over night on just getting started with gear he suggests to me. I have no interest in fishing.
 
Giggz said:
I try not to push my hobbies or interests onto other people unless they ask me about it then I'll try easing them into it rather then going fully technical on them.
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Same here as most people dont care for my hobbies. My fiance doesn't really have any hobbies so I tried introducing her to some of mine. She liked photography to the point where she bought her own camera and takes hundreds of photos with it all by herself, with no input from me, which is excellent. I did try and get her into gaming, but even though she can quite happily sit there and play sonic all star racing for 3 hours straight whilst I'm out, she thinks its a waste of time so won't even entertain the thought of branching out and playing different and potentially more enjoyable games. That part frustrates me as I think shes then missing out lol.

My dad was similar though, as he use to dismiss playing games when I was younger as a waste of time, yet he plays PC games every day now and likes how they keep him mentally active (especially strategy games) now that hes retired. Sometimes people dont want to experience new horizons, even though they'd more than likely enjoy it.
 
Around 1992 I was building many PC's for people and this was a time when you had to know your stuff to get a PC working. I built one for a long suffering work colleague who had listened to me talking PCs for a long time and a couple of weeks later it stopped working. I spent hours on it, finally revived it then set about telling my mate about everything I'd done to get it working. I saw his eyes glaze over and then he taught me a valuable lesson about my hobbies he has no interest in "Will you shut the **** up, I'm not bothered, when I press the On button I want it to come and and work, I have no interest in how it does it now please shut the **** up" :D
 
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