How do I meet women?

Just get out there now mate, dont lose weight to get woman. Otherwise you'll end up fat again when contentment kicks in! Lose it for yourself, healthy heart healthy mind! I'm 14 stone 6'2 little podgy, married with kids. I've got no reason to look good anymore. However i keep fit so i can be healthy for my kids and live longer. I get great satisfaction these days feeling my heart beating out of my chest when i'm doing boxing/circuits/running!

Finding a misses these days is so simple... Plenty of fish ( I always thought it was a lesbian dating site... I was wrong). Anyways, play the numbers game. Ask 100 woman and the rule of thumb is at least 1 will say yes! PLEASE NOTE: I've noticed bigger people who haven't dated for a while get all obsessive with the first woman that shows any attention. Please don’t be a gimp and limit yourself to the first woman that shows you some affection… If they’re not completely interested DON’T BOTHER!! All this rubbish about “fighting for the woman you love”… ********, if you like them tell them, if they don’t … MOVE DA FUDGE OWNNNN” Dont shame yourself like so so so many others have before you.

In relation to losing weight, dont listen to some people about how many calories/fats/sugars you should be taking.... Just cut out Chocolate and cakes, eat 3 meals a day try and keep them health. Drink at least 2 ltrs of water a day. If you feel the need to binge keep it to a once a week treat night. Instead of having say cripsy beef, have chicken chow main and satay sauce (example).

When you first start running the first 4 weeks you'll feel like a failure. Just keep going, set goals on how far you'll run!

A guy on TV last week from my area was 19stone and one day went running up and down steps which at the top were labled a - Z stretching half a mile... When he started he got to B step and was spewwing. 6 months later he did the lot and went on to complete marathon after Marathon!

Good luck pal!
 
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Outline said:
Take women out of the equation. Focus on yourself and get healthy for you.

'Accepting' you're a mess is nothing more than lazy. Feel better in yourself, and everything else will fall into place.


Remember, you can't out-exercise a bad diet. Go to a nutritionalist, be strict with yourself long term and exercise because it helps.
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Absolutely this.

You have to sort yourself out first with confidence. It appears from what you've intimated that you are paranoid of your physical size - crack down on your calories and the type of food you're putting away. Start doing moderate exercises.

At 19 stone, you will be surprised that you are actually going to be fairly muscled under that layer of fat as you need to lug yourself around. That is a good start to try and chip away the fat to expose the muscle.

Finally, the girl isn't the problem nor the solution here, it is a smoke and mirrors game you're pulling on yourself. A girl cannot make you happy, and nor can she make you truly unhappy (well...). You need to be sorted in yourself before you involve others.


Oh, lastly, you may envy friends who have settled down, but they secretly envy you for still being single with no ties. The grass will *always* be greener regardless of where the fence is placed.
 
When I was looking I went on dating sites. Guardian, Torygraph and OKCupid were all pretty good. PoF only had rotten munters in my area.

It helps to have some hobbies, but sometimes there's just no overlap between the women you like and the hobbies you have.
 
[TFU] Thegoon84;25153586 said:
I'm 14 stone 6'2 little podgy, married with kids. I've got no reason to look good anymore. However i keep fit so i can be healthy for my kids and live longer. I get great satisfaction these days feeling my heart beating out of my chest when i'm doing boxing/circuits/running!
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God i hope i never end up thinking this way.
 
Rusty_Noob said:
Don't fool for this OP!

I am 6ft 4 and used to weigh 24 stone, at 19stone I was still too big! Now I'm 15st and a bit and it's a much healthier weight for me.
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14st 1 is optimal for 6ft 3 apparently I would look rancid and skinny eugh.
 
Freefaller said:
Most people don't - I certainly won't have that attitude. But I love being healthy too much :p
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I like being healthy, but imho it's just our of basic respect for yourself and your partner, I wouldn't want my partner turning into a slob just because 'I’ve put a ring on it', so I’m sure she would feel the same about me.
 
yeah definitely I laughed at the DOC when he suggested I was over weight sure my beer belly needs shrinking a bit, but 16st is not fat lol. I have a 108cm chest and huge shoulders lol. I carry and hide my weight very well I'm trying to tighten it all up and move ot around rather than lose it.


I look much healthier now at 16 stone than i did 10 years ago at 12/13 stone.
 
Rusty_Noob said:
I'm not saying get within BMI, all I'm saying is don't be fooled with "you're not that big" at 19stone.
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I wasn't trying to fool him. Just because he's 19st doesn't mean he has a massive over hanging belly and moobs.

None of us can really give him any advice about weight loss without seeing what he looks like now.
 
1. Join a Gym (£10 a month)
2. Enlist a Personal Trainer (£25 a month)

That will set you on the right path from a get go. You will know what to eat, and what to do at the gym to achieve your goals in the fastest time possible.

In 6-12 months you will see a MASSIVE difference

Women like balance, they don't want a soppy b3gger, but don't want someone too up themselves. Treat them mean to keep them keen, but in little amounts. When you meet someone don't seem overly keen. Don't return calls straight away, let them do the chasing. Confidence is 99% of the battle, and women pick up on that straight away.

Piece of advice though...and this is a big one. When you do meet someone, and if it turns out really well....KEEP SEPERATE BANK ACCOUNTS.

NEVER
NEVER
NEVER

get a joint account. Split things 50/50 ALWAYS!
 
glen8 said:
Women like balance, they don't want a soppy b3gger, but don't want someone too up themselves. Treat them mean to keep them keen, but in little amounts. When you meet someone don't seem overly keen. Don't return calls straight away, let them do the chasing. Confidence is 99% of the battle, and women pick up on that straight away.

Piece of advice though...and this is a big one. When you do meet someone, and if it turns out really well....KEEP SEPERATE BANK ACCOUNTS.

NEVER
NEVER
NEVER

get a joint account. Split things 50/50 ALWAYS!
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So much bad advice in one post.

5/5 though, would read again.
 
Clov!s said:
I wasn't trying to fool him. Just because he's 19st doesn't mean he has a massive over hanging belly and moobs.

None of us can really give him any advice about weight loss without seeing what he looks like now.
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He's called himself, and I quote, a 19 stone fat mess. Sure he may not be as fat as he's making out due to the low self esteem, and he might have a decent body composition, but when I was 19 stone, at 6ft 4, I would still have considered myself fat.
 
Was about to say the same thing myself, very bad advice in trying to keep women keen by keeping them mean etc.

Most women wont fall for that trick unless they are desperados themselves, otherwise women will just walk away if you play the game with them ie keep em mean to keep em keen.
 
craptakular said:
I am now 30 years old, I haven't had any female in my life since I was 23. I have ballooned into a 19 stone fat mess.

In my current rut I am destined to die young and alone.

I am moving to a new county next month for a new job. My question is this;

1. Get up out running and cycling until you get down to 15 stone then join match.com/find someone at work,

2. Accept I am fat and proud. I should stop using this as a barrier to joining match.com/talking to women, accept that there is a lot of me to love and find a women that is equally as fat or bigger to make me look skinny and massage my ego.

How do you talk to women? Where do you find them... I used to know women through school and uni and get friendly that way over a period of time. But now I don't know how, I am so lonely and very scared of dying alone. All my mates have moved on with wives, girlfriends, kids and mortgages. I have no one I know to go out with in any capacity male or female. Only some online gaming buddies, but all we do is argue about gaming and its depressing.
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Since you asked, you should lose weight anyway just for the health benefits and to save you annoying people sat next to you on planes with your bingo wings.

You probably won't keel over tomorrow but being lardy has a cumulative wear and tear effect on everything else.

I have no idea how to meet womens. Normally I meet them by accident on the internet and occasionally one of them likes me and stalks me and marries me.
 
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