I don't have a fear of flying but I think planes are starting to get to such an age now that I am going to be careful about which planes I fly on.
I sometimes find it worth seeing what planes different airlines use to fly a particular route - but more so for things like comfort and legroom, than for safety.
Long haul, I'd opt for an A380 if I could.
If you're concerned about safety, then you'd be best to just focus on flying with bigger airlines and sticking to major routes.
I am now considering to refuse flying on old planes and ask to be moved to a later flight and see if they can do it.
I highly doubt there's any point to this. There's no chance of any airline transferring you to another flight on 'safety fears'. Besides airlines will usually use the same type of plane to fly a particular route.
Do you think it is going to be more often now that we start seeing them having technical faults. considering that a lot of the planes are getting on to 20+ years old now. Crashes just seem more frequent these days.
If anything safety is improving and crashes are getting less frequent. This is beginning to sound like you
do have a (irrational) fear of flying.
It is still by some way one of the safest ways to travel.
Also one thing i never understand is why they give people on planes life jacket, that would be like giving people on a cruise ship parachutes. Surely giving each passenger a parachute under his seat would be a far better idea than a life jacket?
The number of accidents involving planes is tiny. The number of accidents, where a parachute would have been any use (even to a trained parachutist?) is vanishingly small.
There are almost too many reasons to list for why this is a non-starter. Although I see others have already pointed a few of them out.
I would still feel more safe if i knew there was a parachute under my seat rather than a life jacket. The chances of using the life jacket is slim. But if there is an emergency the plane can drop to jump ready altitude and we can open the doors and all jump out one by one in a controlled manner.
It really does sound like you have an irrational fear of flying. The parachute may make you 'feel' safer, but it would just be a complete placebo. Why would airline spend a fortune to provide something which would offer an almost imperceivably small safety benefit.
Maybe it is time to review the safety process on commercial flights.
Perhaps it's time to review the various options for dealing with a fear of flying.