God damnit :/ Again (Relationship Thread)

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Don't know if anyone got my last thread really but me and a girlfriend of almost 4 years broke up. She cheated and i got really down hit the drink etc etc came home from working away 3 months ago met a lovely girl who i was seeing and been with since.. Yeah its only 3 months but its really knocked me back again now am stuck with them feelings again.

How to deal with this again? Any advice considering this is two relationships down the pan in less than half a year.

She left me, My own fault i didn't like the fact she was talking and seeing her ex still. She was hiding texts, facebook, etc.. I confronted her about it and she's seen her ass about it and left me. Strange as hell tbh i don't know if im better off because of this.. I don't get if i did anything wrong? Did i?

Don't need rubbish if you feel like giving abuse or anything don't post because no ones awake at this time friendwise so iv turned here
 
Sounds like you were well shot to be honest. If she was texting her ex etc, then it shows a lack of respect.

What you need to clarify in your own mind is:

1- How have YOU been acting. Have you been giving cause for upset etc?

2- 2 out of 2 now has been a problem, perhaps take some time to reflect on what sort of person you are and who you are attracting/hanging around with.



It's a real tough one dude and you have my sympathy genuinely you do. I would really not over analyse the situation as it is over, and it will do nothing but make you feel bad. Just work on yourself and improving yourself for the next person.


P.s Get out of Grimsby, it's a **** hole and you're never going to find a nice lady there. :p
 
sounds like you never got over being cheated on and it killed this relationship.

although keeping in touch with her ex and the secrecy if it wasn't in your head lead to an understandable conclusion
 
You asked for advice, so here's mine:

Stay single for a while, get your head sorted. I think you might well be affected by your previous ex cheating on you and over-reacted to the grey area of your ex staying in contact with her ex. Maybe they parted amicably and are still friendly. It's a possibility.

But I'm making some assumptions based on the few lines of text you wrote, so I could be completely off target.
 
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3 months is far too soon to be having issues like trust. 3 months is still the honeymoon period. Either way sounds like u have trust issues though mate. You wanna put past behind you, try not to bring it into relationships. Different people are different remind yourself that.


Regardless of if she was acting genuinely shady or then you gotta convey what your feeling about the situation in a mature and adult like way. You need to tell her that bothers you and you would like some clarity about the situation. If she cant respond back in a polite and mature way then yer then you have something to worry about. If she gets annoyed at the fact your bringing a question up and throws a temper tantrum then yer I'd say that's a sign of immaturity/other issues. Relationships are about give and take, communication and respect. It has to go both ways.


Either way, it happens often that after the initial buzz of a new relationship fades you find out you aint suited to each other, dont have much in common, dont connect or etc. Think of it as a learning exercise. Pick yourself up, man up and move on.
 
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GrimsbyLAD said:
She was hiding texts, facebook, etc.. I confronted her about it and she's seen her ass about it and left me.
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If she's seen her [behind] over you having a problem with her having daily/regular contact with her ex then it's pretty obvious either something is going on or they haven't gotten over each other (i.e. she isn't ready to be in a relationship with you).
 
Sounds like a lot of the advice is down to me being how i am. So i suppose ill go bit more into that

Im quite a jealous person but i keep it to myself and would never tell her to do anything etc. She goes on nights out and i couldn't care etc. My downside is ex's though.. The thoughts of there WAS something there, What if there still is. Hence why i don't really like contacting any of mine or her messaging hers.
Not sure if that being too unreasonable or me being paranoid or what.. Maybe that might not be right. Hell i can only see every relationship as a chance to improve on myself so i suppose if this is what i will gain out of this one then so be it.

Ill be fair on my thoughts is her not being over her ex 100%. They was a long term couple also and i suppose we was both abit tatty from previous relationships.

Bit of insight into end of her last relationship.. He cheated on her and had no contact up until recently when he left the girl he cheated on her with.

P.s my pron rig is ancient so i may need to build another to kill this feeling
 
GrimsbyLAD said:
Don't know if anyone got my last thread really but me and a girlfriend of almost 4 years broke up. She cheated and i got really down hit the drink etc etc came home from working away 3 months ago met a lovely girl who i was seeing and been with since.. Yeah its only 3 months but its really knocked me back again now am stuck with them feelings again.

How to deal with this again? Any advice considering this is two relationships down the pan in less than half a year.

She left me, My own fault i didn't like the fact she was talking and seeing her ex still. She was hiding texts, facebook, etc.. I confronted her about it and she's seen her ass about it and left me. Strange as hell tbh i don't know if im better off because of this.. I don't get if i did anything wrong? Did i?

Don't need rubbish if you feel like giving abuse or anything don't post because no ones awake at this time friendwise so iv turned here
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Oh **** that good riddance I say!
 
It's good that you split with that girl. But if she got back with her ex who cheated on her then I think two things:
1) The ex has something that you couldn't give to her. Maybe you were too nice of a guy and the ex was more "badboy" - pushed her around more, didn't care what she thought etc? Maybe it's something sexual. I don't know.
2) That's not to say you should change your entire attitude to women. It's just some girls out there like guys that will fart in their face and ignore them when they're trying to tell a nonsense story.
 
GrimsbyLAD said:
P.s my pron rig is ancient so i may need to build another to kill this feeling
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Im here for you. :)

Serious now:

You didn't do anything wrong.

During my current relationship one of my ex's was getting back in contact with me and i was biting (just talking to her and met up with her once, nothing more). My missus got upset, pulled me aside and we talked about it..

I put her (my missus) first.. and the relationship has been great ever since. So if she wanted it to work with you she would have sacrificed him for you..

You're in a better position now..
 
20 and already talking about serious relationships.

Mate, you way to young to be getting serious, just enjoy life while you are young enough too.
 
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