Mrs just left me..

[jonneymendoza]

It isn't 'typical' women though, it's the broken, baggage-laden and traumatised women that blokes tend to go for because it's an easy in and they have some kind of redeeming quality that rose-tinted spectacles lead us to believe outweighs the fact that there is a severe imbalance in their personality.

For instance, the male equivalent of these crazy women are the ******** who emotionally or physically abuse women to control them before eventually leaving them in such a damaged state of mind that they will forever expect every other man to be like that.

Maybe a bit of a butthurt post and I know it's often tongue in cheek, but the whole 'bitches be crazy' line of argument isn't always fair.

I know it is not all woman that are like that but you tend to hear more on how male treat woman with dirt. Well it gets higghlighted in this day and age more then when woman do it.

It is as if its cool for a woman to do so but not if its a male.

Just the way the society goes and i seriously cant blame many males not wanting to commit.

Dont blame them not one damm bit.

if **** hits the fan with my wife again i dont think i will ever commit myself anymore. too much...

 

[Theophany]

You are right to be fair. I think though at a younger age, certainly early 20's its easy for emotions that you and your partner are "not used to" to overwhelm and makes you do/say stupid things. I certainly know with my ex, I was her "first love of her life" and man it is a fine line between love and full blown rage

I hear you, said my fair of cringey things in my teens and have been blissfully single throughout my twenties, allowing me to reflect on what a twit I was.

You've just killed the wonderful bromance this thread had going.

You can have a hug for them feels if you want, bro?

 

[thep02]

Sounds like you're free to ram the chocolate starfish now

 

[Illgresi]

Start dating someone else she will get jealous and you'll have to beat her off with a stick.

Sexy

 

[Theophany]

I know it is not all woman that are like that but you tend to hear more on how male treat woman with dirt. Well it gets higghlighted in this day and age more then when woman do it.

It is as if its cool for a woman to do so but not if its a male.

Just the way the society goes and i seriously cant blame many males not wanting to commit.

Dont blame them not one damm bit.

if **** hits the fan with my wife again i dont think i will ever commit myself anymore. too much...

I'm not sure if I would agree. Being mainly in male circles (i.e. GD!), I think I only ever hear about how mental women are and I'm sure the opposite is true in predominantly female circles (i.e. MUMSNET!).

 

[chief barker]

Am I the only one who is getting a bit bored/annoyed with the OP now?.

 

[Gogl]

I hear you, said my fair of cringey things in my teens and have been blissfully single throughout my twenties, allowing me to reflect on what a twit I was.



You can have a hug for them feels if you want, bro?

I don't trust you, all men are dogs.

 

[AtreuS]

I'm not sure if I would agree. Being mainly in male circles (i.e. GD!), I think I only ever hear about how mental women are and I'm sure the opposite is true in predominantly female circles (i.e. MUMSNET!).

But mumsnet is where all the really REALLY psycho ones hang out apparently

 

[Angilion]

I know it is not all woman that are like that but you tend to hear more on how male treat woman with dirt. Well it gets higghlighted in this day and age more then when woman do it.

It is as if its cool for a woman to do so but not if its a male.

Just the way the society goes and i seriously cant blame many males not wanting to commit.

Dont blame them not one damm bit.

if **** hits the fan with my wife again i dont think i will ever commit myself anymore. too much...

Your words illustrate the sexism you refer to - you refer to women (i.e. people) and males (i.e. not people). You're probably not even aware you're doing it - it's how contempory society is and we're all trained into it.

There's no shortage of people of both sexes treating people of both sexes badly. But you're right about results - it is, of course, treated very differently depending on the sex of the person doing it. In the past, antifemale sexism was dominant. In the present, antimale sexism is. In the future, who knows? Maybe one day there will be a movement for sexual equality and all this irrational unfairness will exist only in history books. Or maybe we'll swing back and forth as sexism causes sexism endlessly. Or maybe "males" will be "phased out".

 

[Angilion]

[..]
Maybe a bit of a butthurt post and I know it's often tongue in cheek, but the whole 'bitches be crazy' line of argument isn't always fair.

It's never fair to make negative comments about everyone based solely on irrelevant bits of biology (sex, skin colour, etc). Women are crazy, men are stupid children, "whites" are racist, "blacks" are dishonest...it's never fair.

 

[Angilion]

[..]
If your still reading by this point, kudos to you and apologies for the rambling, but what are your thoughts?

I can't see it going down at all well. I can see her mother freaking out about the letter (which she'll probably see as insulting and "trying to help" is usually even more insulting than open insults) and telling her, which will cause her to freak out. I suppose you might bring them closer by making yourself a common target, but that's hardly a good outcome.

You can't fix this. I've been depressed. Drugs and therapy have worked well enough, as long as I have a nice, stable, boring life without any challenges and without any serious relationships. When I was depressed, it wasn't something a partner could have fixed. It was something that could have ruined their life too, that's for sure, but it wasn't something they could have fixed. That takes a therapist, in a therapist-patient relationship. Different kettle of fish entirely.

You're probably going to feel responsible for fixing it (masculine socialisation piles that on) and guilty for failing to do so. Try not to - you're not responsible for fixing it and you can't fix it. You couldn't even fix it if you were a therapist (wrong kind of relationship).

 

[d_brennen]

Sever.

I agree with Mags

 

[Richdog]

I'm not sure if I would agree. Being mainly in male circles (i.e. GD!), I think I only ever hear about how mental women are and I'm sure the opposite is true in predominantly female circles (i.e. MUMSNET!).

You read most of the posts in GD about "Oh my missus left me and now im smashing another pasty lol" and you just know that people like the OP are the modern equivalent of neanderthal hunters. Most decent looking, sensible women of a non-chavvy nature would probably run a mile.

 

[FatFishMonster]

Most decent looking, sensible women of a non-chavvy nature would probably run a mile.

this happens to me a lot!

but thats probably because I'm hiding under their beds!

(not serious, don't want people thinking im ya'know, a bit weird...)

 

[ChocolateStarfishRammer]

Well got home last night and was half expecting some note or something that she knew would annoy me.. but there was nothing, just a lot of clothes packed and gone.

Which, I'm happy about. Using what many of you have said against her.. for her to have done such a thing would have been keeping that emotional tie open.. In not doing anything and being mature about it makes it all much easier and without a doubt better.

you just know that people like the OP are the modern equivalent of neanderthal hunters. Most decent looking, sensible women of a non-chavvy nature would probably run a mile.

Literally described the girl was with on Sat haha. Deeecent looking and dressed, but such a god damn chav its crazy!

Not that I cared..

 

[BrightonBelle]

Well things are progressing.

I would ignore all of her calls if I were you. Only respond to texts that are reasonable.

Give it time and she will realise what she has lost. NB this isn't an invite to get back to her btw

As Magnolia said: cut her out!

Women are crazy

BB x

 

[ChocolateStarfishRammer]

Well things are progressing.

I would ignore all of her calls if I were you. Only respond to texts that are reasonable.

Give it time and she will realise what she has lost. NB this isn't an invite to get back to her btw

As Magnolia said: cut her out!

Women are crazy

BB x

Yes I agree!

I'll be meeting her this weekend to discuss things like furniture and possessions etc but apart from that I'm done with it!

 

[subbytna]

Fella you're 23, the way I read post #1 (must have missed your age) I thought you were married and in your 30's....I was married and divorced before I was 25 and just got married 3 weeks ago to my new wife and I'm now 38. Life is JUST starting for you. Bit gash to go through but it'll make you a better person and you'll find someone better...well I did anyway. Enjoy life

 

[krisboats]

Rage!
Had some pasty back at the flat (which was fricking awesome btw) and in the morning she forgot to take her bag home.

Firstly, she didn't forget to take her bag. No girl forgets her bag at a new guys house, it was cleverly left to allow further visitation. Congratulations, sounds like she thought it was fricking awesome too

If it was a flat both of you lived in i can understand a little bit if she was a bit annoyed at you bringing someone back to it. From the sounds of things she hasn't fully moved out yet, she'll see it as insensitive and diminishing the importance of what you both had together before breaking up. Don't take that as me saying you should feel bad about it. If you've broken up and she wasn't there that night then i say its fair game.

 

[Stuff]

Firstly, she didn't forget to take her bag. No girl forgets her bag at a new guys house, it was cleverly left to allow further visitation. Congratulations, sounds like she thought it was fricking awesome too

If it was a flat both of you lived in i can understand a little bit if she was a bit annoyed at you bringing someone back to it. From the sounds of things she hasn't fully moved out yet, she'll see it as insensitive and diminishing the importance of what you both had together before breaking up. Don't take that as me saying you should feel bad about it. If you've broken up and she wasn't there that night then i say its fair game.

Where else is he supposed to take the pasty?!