I hate my place :(

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Neil79

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Long Story : I moved into a flat that I now really do not like which seemed rather nice at first, top floor, good price and 20mb connection. However all is not so well as some very annoying neighbours have moved in below and that's not all!

Firstly they are of ethnic origin and like to talk in a rather loud and strange language and also have the habbit of slamming doors. They slam the front door to the building, slam their flat door and slam the outside toilet. There are three of them living in a studio flat. I have complained to the council but still they talk loudly and slam doors, get in at 10.30 and it continues till late, sometimes early hours! My previous place was just as bad, with ethnics living next door banging doors, plates, shouting in some strange foreign tongue . Anyway moving on, the flat stinks of damp and the landlord isn't coming out to check the outside drainage! It's bloody cold too e.t.c Some nights I come home and it stinks of fag smoke.

I want to move, but at this time I cannot until I get the deposit for another place, then get the deposit back from this one. So lately I've been sleeping at the family home just to avoid this awful place and coming over just to use the computer/internet. I have Autism, OCD, severe anxiety, panic attacks and a list of other problems. As of yet I've not found a place I really can call home! I'm so tempted to take my computer over to the family home and say screw this place, until I get my deposit

So so stuck :mad: I had to take this place as I had to move out of the previous one and this one was close to the family. In all the 4-5years of living on my own, I've never really been happy!
 
....hang on your parents let you stay at their house still? WHY DID YOU LEAVE, free food, free laundry, free bedroom and bed. Best hotel on the planet.

On a serious note, i hate leaving my parents house for more than a few days other than for Holidays. I dont have autism or ocd or ...etc so for someone who does, i can't understand what it is like and i am not looking forward to University if i have to move to go to one.

Small suggestion, have you got any mates which you can move with i.e get an apartment together and try to get used to living like that and then after a while either stay like that or get your own place. Sort of small steps? that's what im planning on doing when i leave the house

Edit: btw i love the use of Ethnics, if it were my i would be a racist as possible if they were ****ing me off by being noisy ****ers
 
Assuming you haven't already tried this....

Speak with them and ask them politely to be more respectful with regards to their loudness. Maybe they don't realise they're causing any problems.
 
For the next move, go inspect on a Friday/Saturday as late as possible take your time and sit in the flat for as long as possible to soak up the atmosphere and listen for noises. Visit a few times - say you forgot to measure for a table or you forgot to test the taps/heating or something. Also go and park outside or hang around the block/house for a few nights to see if it's noisy. Get inside the block if you can. Are there nice cars in the car park? Yeah it'll be totally weird and you'll feel like a stalker-type but screw that because you'll be living there. Do you feel safe? Ask about the neighbours - has the landlord had complaints about noise from his previous tenants and why are the they moving out anyway? Bang on the walls - are they thin - are there marks on the wall/ceiling where other people living there have made! Double glazing? Ask if there are children living next door/below/above. If you don't get direct answers they're hiding something.
 
Old Wino said:
For the next move, go inspect on a Friday/Saturday as late as possible take your time and sit in the flat for as long as possible to soak up the atmosphere and listen for noises. Visit a few times - say you forgot to measure for a table or you forgot to test the taps/heating or something. Also go and park outside or hang around the block/house for a few nights to see if it's noisy. Get inside the block if you can. Are there nice cars in the car park? Yeah it'll be totally weird and you'll feel like a stalker-type but screw that because you'll be living there. Do you feel safe? Ask about the neighbours - has the landlord had complaints about noise from his previous tenants and why are the they moving out anyway? Bang on the walls - are they thin - are there marks on the wall/ceiling where other people living there have made! Double glazing? Ask if there are children living next door/below/above. If you don't get direct answers they're hiding something.
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Very good advice! Thanks

By the way, outside toilet isn't outside in the garden it's outside their front flat door, to the left.

....hang on your parents let you stay at their house still? WHY DID YOU LEAVE, free food, free laundry, free bedroom and bed. Best hotel on the planet.
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I pay for food :P I pay for everything, the only thing I don't pay for is the bedroom at my parents place. All my bills are at my flat!

To all those people that haven't moved out yet, sure independence is great, but everything else sucks. Oh and most flats suck too, especially those in converted houses

mrk said:
Those damn ethnics :mad: :mad:
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Well they are not English that's for sure, their car says [BG] on it
 
Wow, I have to say that post makes you sound a little bit racist. I imagine it isn't intentional but still.

Anyway it sounds like you never really took, or had, the time to get a better idea of the places you were looking at. I would follow Old Wino's advice, have a look around and find a few places you like the look of and really try and get an idea of a, the landlord/lady b, the neighbors/general area and c, the properties themselves.

It may take a while but you will end up somewhere you actually want to live as apposed to somewhere you "can" live.
 
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Fenris said:
Wow, I have to say that post makes you sound a little bit racist.

I imagine it isn't intentional but still.
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Well I for one was most surprised to hear about foreigners speaking a foreign language. How dare they! :D

As for being loud, the guy who just moved in upstairs is clearly a very talented singer (he must be a tenor- sounds like the Go Compare ****)- BUT JUST SHUT THE **** UP AT NIGHT PLEASE.
 
Doohickey said:
As for being loud, the guy who just moved in upstairs is clearly a very talented singer (he must be a tenor- sounds like the Go Compare ****)- BUT JUST SHUT THE **** UP AT NIGHT PLEASE.
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Just tell them to shut the **** up, not in those exact words. I'm always amazed by what people will put up with to avoid any form of confrontation, most of the time people are just completely oblivious to how sound carries.
 
Fenris said:
Just tell them to shut the **** up, not in those exact words. I'm always amazed by what people will put up with to avoid any form of confrontation, most of the time people are just completely oblivious to how sound carries.
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You could end up with them making MORE noise as they know it annoys you :p

By the way, this lot down stairs were warned by the council and landlord was spoken to, that worked (not) :o
 
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