Mrs just left me..

nucastle said:
She was either cheating on you (classic reason for jealousy), wanted to cheat and had someone in mind, or had an inferiority complex or other emotional issue. Jealousy is usually quite a simple thing.

You got out in good time ;)
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Yea this is what is on my mind. I was never jealous of her but she was the complete opposite to a point I actually got afraid of talking to woman in general in a friendly manner.

We just got a new place for rent so sleeping in the lounge atm while we sort out the divorce.

She agree to stay Herr and pay for the whole lot once I move back to my dads.

I have already out all my expensive camera gear and computers back on my dads place just in case i come home one day and it's smashed or sold on eBay lol.

Only staying till **** gets sorted plus I was dumb enough to pay advance rent and deposit for this place so told her you got to pay me back that **** if you want me out of here.

To think I took her back a few weeks ago!

Cant say I never tried to fix our marriage.

Onwards and upwards. Got married when I was 21.

Now 29 lol.
 
At least you are still young enough to find the proper love of youre life dude.... im 39 and not far from the same situation.... chin up!
 
ChocolateStarfishRammer said:
What worries me is If this reaction to things, and my extremily quick reaction to move on is actually me dealing with it and being very emotional strong.. Or if I am actually just papering over the cracks and eventually one day soon, will go falling threw it all .
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this happened to me dude!
i got out of my relationship of 4 years, straight on to another girl. Basically papering over the cracks, trying to find what i had lost, all the while not dealing with what happened.

then turned in to an emotional mess a month after, never leaving the house, only leaving to go to work. (all of crap is over in the relationship thread!) i lost all of my social life, and its still none existent even now! have no confidence in myself what so ever!

it has a way of coming up and smacking you in the face! and then again when you think your getting somewhere.

Ive been single for nearly 11 months, and still don't think im anywhere near putting my life back together and getting to that "happy place", everything is still really difficult, not as bad as it was though.
 
Dear Diary..

As this thread has had a lot of interest in the past, why not another update?

6 months on since last update (Post 345) and I was finishing with the ex, moving into my mums, and pushing the reset button on life!

I started going out and meeting other girls again pretty soon on around end of December but a lot was definitely just making up for the lack of company and found it pretty tough sitting in my mums back room with headphones on watching tv past 10 o clock cos she'd gone to bed! ha!

However, in January, after funneling my extra cash from the flat each month into a 300bhp car.. I met up with an old friend and started seeing her more and more.. she knew my situation and I wasnt planning on 'rushing' into anything. But come March I realised I was on the verge of losing something great because I wasn't fully letting go of the past, so made it 'official' with her and things are going great!

As for the Ex.. She transferred a few hundred in Jan, couple more in Feb, a single in March and then didn't have the money in April. We were still civil up to this point when I text her saying I haven't received anything from you this month. To which her reply was 'I think i've transfered you enough now'. On my reply I explained I understood and said I'd let the bank know I also think i've paid them enough now, despite of how much I owe, I'm sure they'll be fine with it. She didn't appreciate the sarcasm of course, so I asked if she was planning on giving things like the camera lens back that she was 'buying' off me (which I now know was a stupid decision I made in the last days of that relationship), Of course, she also disagrees with that and after a short argument, I've now just cut my loses and all ties to her. About £2000 short from her, shes repaid about £700 in total.. which Is still undoubtedly more than what a lot of people would have bet on! But hey ho, live and learn, and she is now gone! :)

To end on a high, me and my new girlfriend are leaving for a little 2 week road trip on Saturday around Europe (France, Monaco, Italy, Switzerland, Austria, Germany) which should be wicked and hoping to pick up a new job shortly after that, so at the moment, everything's looking up! :)

Who knows, maybe someone enjoyed an update :)
 
Congratulations :) your name always brings a smile to my face

Glad to hear it's going well now. Nothing like getting over that initial 'hump' (pun intended) after ending a LTR.
 
Women want commitment but don't want to work at it, men don't want commitment but when they are in a relationship they work at it.
I've broken up in March started to paste an x lover in fact I was pasting her towards end of the relationship as I started to see that it was ending, and now pasting anything that moves and is 6 to 10 in hotness. I realised I do not want my x back, infact I wasted my time with her.
Right now i'm seeing 3 girls at the same time but on different days and plan to met up with more.
 
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ChocolateStarfishRammer said:
Dear Diary..

As this thread has had a lot of interest in the past, why not another update?

6 months on since last update (Post 345) and I was finishing with the ex, moving into my mums, and pushing the reset button on life!

I started going out and meeting other girls again pretty soon on around end of December but a lot was definitely just making up for the lack of company and found it pretty tough sitting in my mums back room with headphones on watching tv past 10 o clock cos she'd gone to bed! ha!

However, in January, after funneling my extra cash from the flat each month into a 300bhp car.. I met up with an old friend and started seeing her more and more.. she knew my situation and I wasnt planning on 'rushing' into anything. But come March I realised I was on the verge of losing something great because I wasn't fully letting go of the past, so made it 'official' with her and things are going great!

As for the Ex.. She transferred a few hundred in Jan, couple more in Feb, a single in March and then didn't have the money in April. We were still civil up to this point when I text her saying I haven't received anything from you this month. To which her reply was 'I think i've transfered you enough now'. On my reply I explained I understood and said I'd let the bank know I also think i've paid them enough now, despite of how much I owe, I'm sure they'll be fine with it. She didn't appreciate the sarcasm of course, so I asked if she was planning on giving things like the camera lens back that she was 'buying' off me (which I now know was a stupid decision I made in the last days of that relationship), Of course, she also disagrees with that and after a short argument, I've now just cut my loses and all ties to her. About £2000 short from her, shes repaid about £700 in total.. which Is still undoubtedly more than what a lot of people would have bet on! But hey ho, live and learn, and she is now gone! :)

To end on a high, me and my new girlfriend are leaving for a little 2 week road trip on Saturday around Europe (France, Monaco, Italy, Switzerland, Austria, Germany) which should be wicked and hoping to pick up a new job shortly after that, so at the moment, everything's looking up! :)

Who knows, maybe someone enjoyed an update :)
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I enjoyed the update :)
 
Nice to see an update :) You're story hopefully gives other an insight that even if things seem pretty crappy, they will always bounce back! Kind of similar to my story, lived with an ex for 3 years, it went sour, and I decided to turn my life around and get my masters degree. Met a new girl, and things are now going great :)
 
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