brothers wedding dilema

I would probably be trying to go if you think your wife can manage, but I would see if you can get mother in law to stay with your wife for a few days, and I would be gone only as long as the wedding. I think if you have any doubt and I mean ANY doubt, then you stay with your wife

Did you not see this issue coming ages ago? In all honesty I would have told your brother months ago I didn't think I could attend and be best man given wife expecting baby at that time. Everyone would be prepared for a non attendance, and if everything had been great and mum and baby doing and she felt ok to be left alone I could have change mind and attended.
 
First off none of the mother in laws business.

Second, if she cares so much she can support in your absence for a few days to do your brotherly duty.

Your wife is being unfair for not supporting you, but doing so in such a passive agressive way that would only spur me on to do it more...

(i say this as a father of a 3 yo, and a baby due in two weeks)

The new born will be established into a routine by then, and the mother in law can support for a day or two - mother daughter baby bonding session.
 
With a two week old I can see why your wife is apprehensive about you dissapearing for a couple of weeks. I can also see how missing your brothers wedding would not be good.

On the balance of things I'd say go. As the weeks pass new babies become much easier to deal with. If the wedding is still a few weeks away things may well have settled down enough that your wife doesn't mind you going that much. Doesn't make it any better right now though.....
 
Best man or not he's your brother and you should make every effort to attend even if it's just for a day or two.

The mother in law is completely redundant in this decision tbh.
 
If your brother went to your wedding, then I'd say go. That should be enough reason alone.

Try and get someone else to help the wife in your absence.
 
Instead of staying out there a few days cant you meet in the middle, go out for the wedding and come back the next day?

Not ideal obviously, but it works out fair for everyone so no-one can moan.
 
Sliver said:
Go. Your Wife will get over it. Your mother-in-law might not.
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Were you well aware of his wedding plans before you got your wife pregnant or did the wedding come as a surprise? If you knew before you started trying for a baby you should go and support your brother.
 
I'm shocked that you need to even ask, it's your BROTHER'S WEDDING! The mother in law can help out while you attend one of the most important days in your life, even if you have to cut it short a bit.
 
welshboy said:
and so is the mother-in-law.
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First of all you need to tell your mother in law to get her nose out of your business, you are married to her daughter not her.

Secondly having just asked my wife what her reaction would be in this situation she agrees with me:

Go for the minimum amount of time needed, but to bloody well go as it is not a day you will want to miss
 
Pigeon_Killer said:
Best man or not he's your brother and you should make every effort to attend even if it's just for a day or two.

The mother in law is completely redundant in this decision tbh.
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This sums up my thoughts.
I was going to ask who had dates first, if it was your bro then that would be more reason for your attendance but I think you should really be there if at all possible.
If it was me I'd be making every effort to get there.
 
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