brothers wedding dilema

welshboy said:
We did warn my brother we were trying for a baby, he announced his wedding last december, and couple of weeks later we found out we were pregnant.

My wife isn't really keen on my family, she keeps referring to "they knew we were trying for a baby". Now if the wedding was early next year etc she wouldn't have a problem and we all could go.
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Your wife is a controlling **** go to your brothers wedding no excuses.

Doesn't matter if she likes your family or not. You do, so go.
 
I'd rather stay home and spend the time with my new child than go off to my brother's wedding. Plus - it saves you the cost of going abroad to the wedding - kids are expensive items...
 
Tell the wife not to be selfish how would she feel roles reversed? Like others have said I would go for the very minimal time possible its your brothers wedding. :)
 
Blood runs thicker than water. Your brother will always be your brother, but will your wife always be your wife?

Granted that is a somewhat cynical view, but ask yourself this - if you should break up with your wife in 6 months time, would you regret not going to your brothers wedding?

He is your brother, and not only that he wants you to be his best man on what should be one of the most important days of his life. Newborn or not, if your wife was worth having she would completely understand why you need to be there.

True, his marriage may not last, but he is still your brother.

As others have said, perhaps go out for a short period and come back? That would most likely be my decision.

As for your mother-in-law - I would have a quiet word and tell her to keep out of your family business.
 
Duke said:
Go. I'm sure they can cope for a day or two :confused:
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this really, don't see the issue...

Its not like you're asking to go to Franks Birthday party or the lads holiday in Prague.... its your brothers wedding, a rather significant family event. Presumably you'd be away for a few days - its hardly the end of the world...

No reason why your wife & baby can't come either really - that's simply a choice not an obvious restriction.
 
I'd be pretty damned annoyed if my SO was trying to make me feel guilty about going to my brothers wedding whether I was best man or not.

He's your brother! She can manage for a few days....sounds like her mother in law will be happy to help anyway. :p
 
You got to ask her and yourself what how would it play out if the table where reversed

if what if it was her sister that was getting married and she was the head brides maid, you she go regardless of you asking her to stay and help out with the baby?

Something tells me she would go
 
KillBoY_UK said:
You got to ask her and yourself what how would it play out if the table where reversed

if what if it was her sister that was getting married and she was the head brides maid, you she go regardless of you asking her to stay and help out with the baby?

Something tells me she would go
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I doubt it.

If you don't breastfeed and wake X times a night to look after a newborn after doing one of the most physically exhausting a human can do (birth) then you can't make the comparison.
 
D.P. said:
I doubt it.

If you don't breastfeed and wake X times a night to look after a newborn after doing one of the most physically exhausting a human can do (birth) then you can't make the comparison.
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You're assuming that the woman is the only one doing the feeding/waking up at night?

She might not even be breastfeeding.
 
Gentlemen, I think I speak for all of us when I say I hope to any deity above that OP is still alive and has his man organs attached still.

GO TO THE WEDDING OP!
 
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