The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

I'm regretting it now, I'm a little bit of a mess. But I will see how I feel this weekend.

Thing is, you gave it another go and it didn't work. Now you know it won't it should be easier to move on.


are there actually any rules .

I don't think so. I think if she drops her draws on the first date then it might be a bit of a warning sign.

As said just go with the flow. Took us a long time to get close but then the timing was a little inappropriate.
 
So, been out of the dating circle for a while and as previous post mentioned, have first one (were talking at least 5yrs here - getting career sorted first!) with a great woman in a few days time.

I used to operate on the tenet that there are no hard and fast rules to dating, despite the thrown around:

Date 1 = kiss
Date 2 = wink wink
Date 3 = home run

However, are there actually any rules these days from what you've encountered (from bitter experience)?
I know media, book and film can change social expectations, as well as social networking and technology too.

Hold hands? Kiss on first date? etc. Both me and my date are 28yrs old, established in our jobs, no kids, no previous marriages, one has own house etc, so both adults.

I've not had many girls not put out on the first date. Needless to say, they never resulted in a long term relationship. The girl I'm with made me wait a few weeks, would not put out where I met her on holiday and certainly earned my respect :p

The question is, what do you want? Special hugs in bed, or a relationship?
 
This is so accurate it's crazy.

All my mates have made comments over the past several months about me being lifeless, miserable, recluse and generally not happy and always looking exhausted.

Anyway, I just got back... It's done, tears from both sides, she wanted to fight until the end of the world if it meant it would eventually work. I didn't... So yea, I gave up on us.

I'm regretting it now, I'm a little bit of a mess. But I will see how I feel this weekend.

Get out at the weekend m8 and smash the first thing that bats her eyelids at you. Straight back on the horse. GG!
 
If you've not heard of Mil Millington, this will amuse you:

Things my girlfriend and I have argued about.

I love it :D

"I came home from work on Friday and, as I wearily opened the door into the house, Second Born, Peter, heard me entering and poked his head out of the living room.
'Hello, Papa - I've missed you,' he shouts. From within the living room Margret's voice calls out to him 'No you haven't, Peter.'

You're all up for testifying for me in court, right?"

Ha, thanks that's brilliant. Just the first one cracked me up alone.

We have argued about:
Ahhhhhhhh

The way one should cut a Kiwi Fruit in half (along its length or across the middle)
 
Holy crap, that link is hilarious.

Having been with my Gf for ten years now and having grown up over those years together and knowing what pushes each others buttons it's amusing now that we can have 'joke' arguments and say things we know wind each other up, but instead of getting worked up over it and being in a mood (90% of the time anyway), we laugh it off.
 
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We are the same. It's outright abuse really and if anyone else heard us they would think we are a horrible couple. We just joke about it though, nothing is ever meant by it.
 
reminds me of my first 'proper' relationship (first one that resulted in pasty smashing at least); in 18 months the only thing we ever 'argued' about was who made a better willy wonker (for the record: Gene Wilder FTW :p )

even the breakup was completely hassle free, we were playing pool when she was back from uni, and basically came to the consensus that the pasty smashing/time apart balance wasn't working since she moved away.
was a bit hard to be around each other for a few months, there was obviously some lust there still, and had to adjust personal boundaries for being friends instead of mixed doubles partners, but we're still friends now and I see her a few times a year
 
:( The thing is, I've never thought of myself as that type of guy. This girl just did something to me, changed my core. Thinking back, from the moment she told me her profession I became suspicious, you know how it is you always think these girls are only after money, but continued as I thought I could handle it and believed it was real. It felt real. But something changed recently, she became cold at times and only became warm when she wanted me to buy her something and I think that brought back my original suspicions and tainted things again. I've no issue giving people things, friends and family are my world so I help them all out with anything I can, but I felt like I was being played from that point onwards although couldn't believe all that time before was a lie?! It really ate away at me and after speaking to an old friend she helped me realise I'd been a fool from the beginning so I had to end it. I guess yeh, that is trust issues, but slightly justified from my point of view... but again, I guess it is my problem.

If it's any consolation, her daddy probably didn't love her.
 
Thanks guys. :( I'm going to bow out from this thread and unsubscribe, it's too depressing to have the reminders at the moment. Good luck to you all :)

From what you've said it sounds like you'll look back on this and realise it was the right thing to do.

Chin up dude :).
 
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