The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

[ICEx21]

Because some people feel like they need to have the last word and for some retarded reason it makes them feel like they ended it on their terms.

Either way a douche bag is a douche bag and now would be an appropriate time for you to eat a lot of eggs, a curry or two, some cheese and a lot of coffee then wait outside his house at 2.45am with a funnel attached to your behind and with the other end in his letterbox and for the next 15 minutes just blast away.
Once you've finished send him a text with a smiley face on it at 3am.


Also don't forget to wipe yourself on his grass, you don't wanna be like one of those classless girls who get drunk on a Saturday night and just end up peeing on the street and leaving without wiping or anything. Eugh just disgusting.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

That sure was ... something.

 

[Gzero]

Well it's been exactly 3 weeks today since I walked away from the 'relationship'. Still feel pretty **** about it all. Woke up this morning to see that the ex had sent a whatsapp message at 3am, just with a smiley '' and no other text. He's also blocked me now because his display picture has disappeared.

What a ******* ****. Why would anyone do that?

Because he was not the nice guy you thought he was.

Why didn't you block him?

This is the number 1 reason why you block your ex, so they can't mess with your recovery!

 

[Nix]

Why are you even wasting any energy on him? He didn't care about you enough in the first place and is only acting out now as he feels slighted.

Seriously, just ignore it.

 

[MisChief]

I did ignore it.

I didn't block him because I didn't see the point when he wasn't exactly pestering me.

 

[Nix]

I did ignore it.

I didn't block him because I didn't see the point when he wasn't exactly pestering me.

My point is though, you should've stopped caring at that point. Anything he does is inconsequential.

You're letting it bother you, which is saying you haven't fully moved on. The fact that you checked to see if he'd blocked you means you haven't moved on.

He's in the past now. Let's not mention him again.

 

[MisChief]

The only 'checking' I did was just noticing that he no longer had a display picture on the top right corner of the screen. Hardly 'checking'.

 

[Vidar]

Guys, the fruit loop ex and so called mother of my children is at it again... I text said psycho to inform her of worrying but probably innocent behavior our daughter was displaying while with me this weekend (Daughter aged 3) the response "my children are fine" before going into tirades of abuse at how stupid I am and what a laughing stock I am etc etc


Court on the 30th can't come fast enough.... Hopefully the courts will finally see through this colossal gob ***** and realise that the kids aren't being looked after properly.

 

[Unicorn]

Hope it goes well for you Vidar shes a real piece of work as displayed in previous threads

Urgh facing my own issue's atm not bad ones which are going to go badly though but about proposing. How and were being my issues

 

[Monkeynut]

Good luck Vidar.

 

[Vidar]

Thanks guys....

Unicorn, I've never proposed but don't do it during or after sex and I wouldn't do something like stick the ring in her champagne glass as she might choke on it. Though personally I'd go down on one knee..

 

[Kempster]

Back to the drawing board it seems for me, sucks as was hoping this current girl I met from tinder was going somewhere

She says I’m a nice guy and she likes me and wants something to happen but then over the weekend she goes out clubbing texting me like non-stop though out the night she wasn't drunk as she didn't drink, didn't either expect her to text the amount times she did as said just go and enjoy yourself with your work friends

I was out clubbing as well in a different part of town as soon as I got home my phone goes on saying I had a few missed calls from her I went through a area where my phone signal was rubbish.

About to text her back and she phones again, on the phone for a few hours arranging a date and meeting up and telling me how much she liked me and how she’s been talking to her friends about me most of the night

Then Sunday comes around then nothing no texts from her when she gets up as she normally used to send texts as soon as she got up,

I didn't think nothing of it as I thought maybe her friend had drunk too much and she was maybe up most of the night looking after her

Sent her a text at dinner time reply I got was.. I’m not sure what’s going on in my head about my ex as I may still have feelings for him and I don’t want to mess you about as you seem really nice, it’s been bugging me all weekend and I’m just stressing out didn’t want to text you till I knew what was going on..

Confusing to say the least why someone would send texts and call during your time out with friends when you went outside for a smoke and then be all super happy when calling you and never either mentioning about the ex and if felt this way Saturday why act like nothing was wrong.

She sends the odd text here and there saying, it’s nothing I’ve done and that she really likes me etc etc and think we would get on but needs thinking time and rather talk again when she’s in a better mind frame

My mate thinks she’s stringing me along but I don’t know what to think as she’s always been straight and honest about everything else, just feel like a right idiot thinking she was different and that it was going somewhere

But bleh back to the drawing board it seems

 

[Janesy B]

She's managed to get back in with her ex and she's keeping you on the burner in case it goes wrong. Run.

 

[Kempster]

Thanks Janesy, that's what my mate said

 

[krooton]

Baggage yo!

 

[malachi]

People and their emotional baggage......waste of time mate. Happened to me so anytimes in the past whenever I meet someone new if they have any contact with their ex then I'm not interested and I walk away.

 

[Unicorn]

Ill agree with Janesy mate, run now as she sounds like hard work who's gona mess u around again and again

 

[Steampunk]

She sends the odd text here and there saying, it’s nothing I’ve done and that she really likes me etc etc and think we would get on but needs thinking time and rather talk again when she’s in a better mind frame

My mate thinks she’s stringing me along but I don’t know what to think as she’s always been straight and honest about everything else, just feel like a right idiot thinking she was different and that it was going somewhere

But bleh back to the drawing board it seems

Why are you letting her do all the running and making all the decisions? Tell her to forget about her ex - who is her ex for a reason, and that you're the man for her. That you're better in every way and she knows it. If she doesn't feel the same way, then you're off to find someone else.

Give people a choice, and they are stuck in the headlights unable to make their minds up. Lay it out plain for them and help them decide to choose you, and everyone knows where they stand.

I've been in exactly your position, and standing by the sidelines waiting for the woman to "choose" just leaves you in limbo. Making your own choice and telling her to come with you or stay with the ex as she wishes will sharpen her mind, and realise what she's losing.

If she chooses the other guy, she was never yours to begin with, and you are better off out of it. If she needs help to make the jump, then help her, but don't stand around waiting for something that's never going to happen.

 

[The__Malteser]

Back to the drawing board it seems for me, sucks as was hoping this current girl I met from tinder was going somewhere

She says I’m a nice guy and she likes me and wants something to happen but then over the weekend she goes out clubbing texting me like non-stop though out the night she wasn't drunk as she didn't drink, didn't either expect her to text the amount times she did as said just go and enjoy yourself with your work friends

I was out clubbing as well in a different part of town as soon as I got home my phone goes on saying I had a few missed calls from her I went through a area where my phone signal was rubbish.

About to text her back and she phones again, on the phone for a few hours arranging a date and meeting up and telling me how much she liked me and how she’s been talking to her friends about me most of the night

Then Sunday comes around then nothing no texts from her when she gets up as she normally used to send texts as soon as she got up,

I didn't think nothing of it as I thought maybe her friend had drunk too much and she was maybe up most of the night looking after her

Sent her a text at dinner time reply I got was.. I’m not sure what’s going on in my head about my ex as I may still have feelings for him and I don’t want to mess you about as you seem really nice, it’s been bugging me all weekend and I’m just stressing out didn’t want to text you till I knew what was going on..

Confusing to say the least why someone would send texts and call during your time out with friends when you went outside for a smoke and then be all super happy when calling you and never either mentioning about the ex and if felt this way Saturday why act like nothing was wrong.

She sends the odd text here and there saying, it’s nothing I’ve done and that she really likes me etc etc and think we would get on but needs thinking time and rather talk again when she’s in a better mind frame

My mate thinks she’s stringing me along but I don’t know what to think as she’s always been straight and honest about everything else, just feel like a right idiot thinking she was different and that it was going somewhere

But bleh back to the drawing board it seems

OCUK annoys me. (not directed at OP)

You want girls to be as up front as possible, and when she is up front, we criticise them anyway.

Yes, it's a bit annoying, but at least she had the balls to tell you straight up, rather than keep you hanging longer. Looks like to me that she cut off, which is what is best for both.

 

[Roar87]

Back to the drawing board it seems for me, sucks as was hoping this current girl I met from tinder was going somewhere

She says I’m a nice guy and she likes me and wants something to happen but then over the weekend she goes out clubbing texting me like non-stop though out the night she wasn't drunk as she didn't drink, didn't either expect her to text the amount times she did as said just go and enjoy yourself with your work friends

I was out clubbing as well in a different part of town as soon as I got home my phone goes on saying I had a few missed calls from her I went through a area where my phone signal was rubbish.

About to text her back and she phones again, on the phone for a few hours arranging a date and meeting up and telling me how much she liked me and how she’s been talking to her friends about me most of the night

Then Sunday comes around then nothing no texts from her when she gets up as she normally used to send texts as soon as she got up,

I didn't think nothing of it as I thought maybe her friend had drunk too much and she was maybe up most of the night looking after her

Sent her a text at dinner time reply I got was.. I’m not sure what’s going on in my head about my ex as I may still have feelings for him and I don’t want to mess you about as you seem really nice, it’s been bugging me all weekend and I’m just stressing out didn’t want to text you till I knew what was going on..

Confusing to say the least why someone would send texts and call during your time out with friends when you went outside for a smoke and then be all super happy when calling you and never either mentioning about the ex and if felt this way Saturday why act like nothing was wrong.

She sends the odd text here and there saying, it’s nothing I’ve done and that she really likes me etc etc and think we would get on but needs thinking time and rather talk again when she’s in a better mind frame

My mate thinks she’s stringing me along but I don’t know what to think as she’s always been straight and honest about everything else, just feel like a right idiot thinking she was different and that it was going somewhere

But bleh back to the drawing board it seems

It's a chit test. You basically just need to be like "cool no worries, well let me know if you want to hang out in the future" and leave it at that. Be non-chalant about it and don't show any signs that you care or are bothered by her apparant change of heart. If you do this she'll most likely keep showing you interest and you can arrange to meet up.

It's important to understand all women do things like this and you need to know how to react in these situations for your relationship with her to progress. I've had women go from what you're experiencing to relationships and sleeping with them

OCUK annoys me. (not directed at OP)

You want girls to be as up front as possible, and when she is up front, we criticise them anyway.

Yes, it's a bit annoying, but at least she had the balls to tell you straight up, rather than keep you hanging longer. Looks like to me that she cut off, which is what is best for both.

She didn't, it's just female game playing. Feelings for exes go pretty quickly when they find themselves a man they genuinely like.