Dealing with abusive youth

Get your mum to invite him in for a cup of tea, without his mates. Then ask him to stop behaving like a child.

The answer will be yes. Problem solve.
 
doofer said:
I've seen a documentary on this sort of thing!

What you do is simple, you buy an old knackered scooter which he and his buddies all take the **** out of, you do it up over time and make it a real mean-machine scooter which impresses the girl you both secretly have a thing for, then one day in front of all his mates you challenge him to a game of chicken on your scooters, at the last minute he bottles it and swerves off into a lake and looks a complete buffoon! The girl runs to you and you become a hero to all his friends who know now what a complete loser he is! He then realises how foolish he's been and you all then become great friends and have amazing and hilarious adventures together which are shown in the documentary sequel.
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Love Story revisited. Seriously you are probably a nice person but because of this he sees you as a weak and pathetic fool he is going to take advantage of. If he doesn't leave you alone through normal means, make it known to him and his mates that sometime soon, that something seriously disadvantageous is going to happen to them. Either do it yourself or get somebody else to do it for you. I hope it doesn't come to this though. Goodluck.
 
If you go physical your best bet is to do the minimum necessary but try to terrify him verbally, if you go in too hard his family and friends will probably feel obliged to get involved, sort of get him in a head or arm lock with full pressure on and tell him you'll cut his throat or gouge his eye out sort of thing then push him away.
 
Dimple said:
Hidden camcorder or stick your smartphone above your top pocket and video it.
Make sure you say nothing out of order but get several incidents and at least you'll have some evidence.
Make sure you post it to Facebook asking 'Does anybody know who this is?' (don't be offensive) and within minutes it will be shared with Family & Friends who know him.
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Just pointing the camera at them was enough in my case.

You can't argue with evidence like that.

If I had hit one of them, the rest would have jumped on me when my back was turned.

No one was more surprised than me that the camera trick worked, I did it out of desperation in the end as they came at my house armed with spray cans.

It solved the problem for me and ironically now one of them has grown up to be a Police officer :rolleyes:
 
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People are saying the police will side against OP. Not really...
Hence why I said report it to them first. Warn him. Report it to them again that you're feeling threatened. You are allowed to defend yourself using reasonable force. Don't kick seven bells out of him but one good smack next time he comes at you or starts getting mouthy.
 
kaptainmarc said:
I would 100% go with the camera, as soon as they know you have proof and can show people kids poo themselves.
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Be ready to defend yourself however.

It didn't go down well.

Dis86 said:
People are saying the police will side against OP. Not really...
Hence why I said report it to them first. Warn him. Report it to them again that you're feeling threatened. You are allowed to defend yourself using reasonable force. Don't kick seven bells out of him but one good smack next time he comes at you or starts getting mouthy.
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I gripped one by the arm, I'm 6'3" and reasonably strong.

The rest came at me like a pack, violence is a dangerous tactic when your outnumbered.
 
With all due respect you have handled it pretty poorly tbh, you should have totally ignored him and kept your mouth shut. A rise/reaction is exactly what they are looking for and had you completely ignored his presence and behaved as if he wasn't even there he would have got bored and moved onto someone else to get the reaction you are presently giving him.

I worked for 7 years as a youth worker and specialized in hard to reach/challenging youth so have a bit of experience working with little rascals:p
 
Thanks for the replies everyone, they haven't gone unnoticed.

I am not risking laying a finger on him, for obvious reasons.

I will however always be prepared to film any further incidents, what are my rights to filming people in pubic? As far as I'm aware I'm allowed to do it.
 
this is a great thread brilliant ideas.

Poop on his scooter....

and bang his mum and give him a clip round the ear at breakfast :D
 
Disaster said:
Thanks for the replies everyone, they haven't gone unnoticed.

I am not risking laying a finger on him, for obvious reasons.

I will however always be prepared to film any further incidents, what are my rights to filming people in pubic? As far as I'm aware I'm allowed to do it.
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Legally film what you want.

it's sound that is the grey area.

(Childrens play areas / swimming baths excepted)

Still photos would probably work just as well, it doesn't have to be camcorder.

just pointing it at them cured my woes.
 
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Filming him will do nothing other than antagonize him further and make the situation far worse!
Just ignore him, it's not rocket science!!

Whenever we were requested to help mediate an issue in a community a lot of the times it was the same adults and different local challenging youths, to me that spoke volumes.

If you are confrontational, aggressive and argumentative then I'm sorry but you are also part of the problem. Swallow your pride, bite your tongue and ignore them!! If you want a quite life that is, otherwise continue as you are!
Some grown ups simply cannot communicate with youths without getting there backs up and causing issues/confict!!
 
Disaster said:
Thanks for the replies everyone, they haven't gone unnoticed.

I am not risking laying a finger on him, for obvious reasons.

I will however always be prepared to film any further incidents, what are my rights to filming people in pubic? As far as I'm aware I'm allowed to do it.
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Good call dude.
 
To be fair, society keeping quiet is the reason why some of these youths act out.

Keeping quiet just means they get bored as opposed to learning about boundaries and consequences (that is, of course providing that there isn't some form of developmental or underlying psychological disposition at play).

Keeping quiet may be the easiest course, but I wouldn't say it's the morally right way to deal with these people.

It may speak volumes about what causes the confrontation, but that's not necessarily the adult's fault. The confrontation exists, because well... the adults are being confrontational instead of putting their heads in the sand.

I'm not disputing that some adults don't exacerbate the situation due to not understanding their role in antagonising.

Chances are here, the youths are just very bored and acting out. The options really are, to either keep your head down until they got bored (although I know it doesn't sit well) or teach them very firmly that there are lines they cannot cross (which would mean physical violence and would only come back badly for the adult).

Parents are aware, so the only thing left to do is ignore the scrote and involve the relevant services. Sucks, but there it is.
 
C.R.A.Z.Y said:
Filming him will do nothing other than antagonize him further and make the situation far worse!
Just ignore him, it's not rocket science!!
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Yes great advice there well done.

Turn the blind eye and crack on yobs.

Enjoy smashing glass, kicking cars, throwing bricks and rocks, bullying pensioners.

I swear that a pensioner on our street had the lower parts of the downstairs windows bricked up because of these yobs.

I was the only person on our street who made a stand.
 
There were eight against me in the dark and in a field. I punched one out cold and all the others could do was mouth off and threaten my dog. Little realising I would have done more Damage to them than the dog . Admittedly I would have rather avoided the event because I don't like trouble if it can be avoided :d
 
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