Poll: Strips clubs - harmless fun or disrespectful of your other half?

[Zethor]

It's disrespectful.

I think it more bizarre when some women complain that their partners watch porn and that's tantamount to cheating.

If it upsets your partner then it's not harmless.

 

[cheesyboy]

Horses for courses. Some are bothered by it, others are not.

But every time this topic comes up the best reply is always:

How comfortable would you be with your SO paying to have another man, who incidentally will be better looking than you, shove his tally-whacker in her face?

I'd be ok with that. It's just a bit of a laugh.

I can't say that I particularly enjoy private dances in strip clubs (it's just really awkward), or that I find the whole thing to be especially erotic. Mostly, I enjoy watching my weak-willed mate getting bullied by the strippers into buying loads of dances. And once by the prostitute in Prague

 

[Skully]

My girlfriend wants to go to a strip club with me.

 

[leaskovski]

My girlfriend wants to go to a strip club with me.

Do it, and the strip club as well.

 

[Judgeneo]

Got dragged into one in Amsterdam once, paid 13 euros for half a pint, and got kicked in the back by one of the women flinging herself around on some man. I've got no real interest in attending another.

 

[thep02]

I went to one once, had a woman less attractive than my then girlfriend dance on me leaving my clothes and glasses oily, not that much fun tbh but a venerable institution that while i won't visit again I'm very much against banning.

 

[arctine]

I don't really enjoy them enough for what they cost so I've never found out what she thinks.

Also, I would be strongly opposed to my girlfriend going to a male strip club.

 

[cheesyboy]

Also, I would be strongly opposed to my girlfriend going to a male strip club.

I'd be interested to know why that is - presumably, the reasons are similar to the wives/girlfriends who also don't approve (?)

 

[Ayahuasca]

My best mates missus almost finished him over going to one a few years ago, she's a psycho, jealous, control freak so it was no surprise.

 

[adam98150]

I don't really enjoy them enough for what they cost so I've never found out what she thinks.

Also, I would be strongly opposed to my girlfriend going to a male strip club.

So have you been to one whilst you were together with your girl? Did you get a dance and what not?

 

[arctine]

I'd be interested to know why that is - presumably, the reasons are similar to the wives/girlfriends who also don't approve (?)

Might just be insecure but I don't like the idea of my girlfriend getting wet pants from another man waving his tackle about

I probably wouldn't tell her not to or get annoyed or anything like that but I definitely wouldn't like it.

 

[arctine]

So have you been to one whilst you were together with your girl? Did you get a dance and what not?

Nah, I've had two in my life and they were both when I was single.

They don't really do it for me.

 

[Zethor]

I'd be interested to know why that is - presumably, the reasons are similar to the wives/girlfriends who also don't approve (?)

Does it matter? If something hurts your partner's feelings, you don't do it and that's the end of it. That's how I see it.

 

[adam98150]

Nah, I've had two in my life and they were both when I was single.

They don't really do it for me.

Ahh fair enough! was going to say it's pretty hypocritical if you had.

 

[spoffle]

I went to a couple in Prague. The strippers there are stunning. One of the clubs had prostitutes as well as strippers, but they were separate individuals - it didn't seem that you could hire the strippers for sex.

Aren't you a Muslim?

 

[spoffle]

Does it matter? If something hurts your partner's feelings, you don't do it and that's the end of it. That's how I see it.

I'd never go to one, I think they're a bit lame and lacking in taste (the men going). However, where do you draw the line with this line of thinking?

Some people are quite unreasonable when it comes to what hurts their feelings.

 

[Kronos]

But something like the Chippendales will be a bit of harmless fun for the ladies, right?

 

[Ayahuasca]

Does it matter? If something hurts your partner's feelings, you don't do it and that's the end of it. That's how I see it.

If only it was that straight forward.

 

[cheesyboy]

Does it matter? If something hurts your partner's feelings, you don't do it and that's the end of it. That's how I see it.

Yes and no.

If the thing that harms their feelings is something you see as completely harmless, then it's hard to understand. And it might be unreasonable on their part.

Did you see the thread a week or two ago with that guy whose Mrs was totally abusive (mentally and physically) and got upset if he so much as talked to another woman?

Obviously that ^ was over the line. But some other things, like strip clubs (or just the freedom to go to one, not even the actual attending) are somewhere along the scale.

Personally, I find it difficult to imagine being on the receiving end of such a lack of trust that my partner would be upset at me for attending a strip club. In the same way that most would find it hard to imagine being unable to even talk to other women, like the above example.

 

[Dj_Jestar]

My girlfriend wants to go to a strip club with me.

Do it. It's fascinating, and not in a dirty way. The usual Punter/Stripper roles just vanish and you are more likely to have just a good old chat with the girls (as well as see them dance).