12 years of marriage

she sat on the couch now like its vietnam and im a an american.
no way back it would seem.

so a few comments say its not the end for me and my kids, but i will miss doing the school things and general stuff and putting them to bed ?
 
I expect she wants out of the marriage, but either doesn't know how to or whether she can go it alone, especially with small children. That's why she doesn't want to talk about it, she doesn't want to deal with the consequences of what she really wants.

It's difficult to really know anything from my perspective as I don't know either of you or the situation, but it sounds like a one way street as far as your relationship is concerned and you need to consider that it may well be time to face up to making some fundamental decisions regarding your marriage.
 
Castiel said:
I expect she wants out of the marriage, but either doesn't know how to or whether she can go it alone, especially with small children. That's why she doesn't want to talk about it, she doesn't want to deal with the consequences of what she really wants.

It's difficult to really know anything from my perspective as I don't know either of you or the situation, but it sounds like a one way street as far as your relationship is concerned and you need to consider that it may well be time to face up to making some fundamental decisions regarding your marriage.
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exactly bud, i just dont want to leave them with no money mnd my kids suffering until she finds somebody else, well we know how it goes.
 
[FnG]magnolia;27321033 said:
Are you giving us a live update of what sounds like your marriage breaking down? Because you should probably not do that and instead talk to her.
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tries she dont want to talk.
and yes i am a desperate man.
and in tears here with what is about to all end
 
teenwolf said:
she sat on the couch now like its vietnam and im a an american.
no way back it would seem.

so a few comments say its not the end for me and my kids, but i will miss doing the school things and general stuff and putting them to bed ?
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I will tell you everything I have learn't about women in 15 years of marriage....

Bugger all!!


Joking apart, she's mad leave her to calm down.

Take up a hobby that gets you out of the house for a bit, running or cycling are good.

Running's cheapest and easiest to get started in.

Think about YOU for once in your life, who knows, she might start to become more interested again?

You must have something she was attracted to 12 years ago.
 
it is, she is not talking because A she just want me to be an arse and lash out so she has a reason..
oh well time for that drive a RECKON, I CANT BE WOTHOUT MY KIDS.
 
teenwolf said:
exactly bud, i just dont want to leave them with no money mnd my kids suffering until she finds somebody else, well we know how it goes.
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This is why you need to talk to her. Not tonight, tempers are too hot. And talk, not argue or fight.

Work it out, whether your marriage ends or survives you still need to make arrangements for the children and to ensure their welfare is paramount.

Good luck fella, I hope you work it out.
 
teenwolf said:
it is, she is not talking because A she just want me to be an arse and lash out so she has a reason.
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Well don't.

Stay cool.

Go for a walk to calm down.

Better to say nothing than to argue and say things you may regret.
 
teenwolf said:
it is, she is not talking because A she just want me to be an arse and lash out so she has a reason..
oh well time for that drive a RECKON, I CANT BE WOTHOUT MY KIDS.
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DON'T go near your car.

Go for a walk, even if its crap weather.

Driving when emotional is a bad idea.

Walking clears your head better anyhow.
 
Need to think clearly dude, especially for those kids. Try to keep your emotions as in-check as possible (easier said than done).

As above, go for a walk, run, whatever.
 
Id cut loose before her ways make the environment too toxic for the children.

Just get out, look out for yourself, ensure your kids are fed and clothed and let her fend for herself. Definitely seems like shes had enough but hasnt got the guts to do anything about it.
 
So op is jealous that she has friends and he doesn't. Even though thats not her fault.

Op can make friends at work she doesn't have that option if she's a house wife. Obviously she'll want some alone time. I don't go out with my girlfriend and her friends and she doesn't come out with my lot.

Op if you yourself had hobbies and busied yourself you'd be fine..

I cant believe some of you are suggestion to cut her off, you're insane.
 
i have been an ******** in my time, but the last few months i have really tried to make things a good family, but tonight she kept pushing me so i threw her out and now we are where we are, i am only pushing for this as i want it more than anything, but as many others have said, maybe her mind is already made up and she backing me up way into the corner i do not want to be, :(

ps: by the way i have always been the best dad and husband i thought i could possibly be,.
her having a life is fine, but if there is an issue about something surely we should talk about it and her not make decisions without it. ?
 
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teenwolf said:
i have been an ******** in my time, but the last few months i have really tried to make things a good family, but tonight she kept pushing me so i threw her out and now we are where we are, i am only pushing for this as i want it more than anything, but as many others have said, maybe her mind is already made up and she backing me up way into the corner i do not want to be, :(
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Throwing her out?

Go on, please explain how that will improve things for you?

On a couple of occasions things have been really bad for us, I have packed a bag and spent a night away from home.

I would never throw my wife out of our home where her children live.

THINK about what you are doing.
 
SkodaMart said:
Throwing her out?

Go on, please explain how that will improve things for you?

On a couple of occasions things have been really bad for us, I have packed a bag and spent a night away from home.

I would never throw my wife out of our home where her children live.

THINK about what you are doing.
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i kno bud, i have tried that once before i went miles away but came home in the early hours.

i just could not do it to my kids.

if i remember rightly she said she was preparing life without me.
 
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