He's got the precious ring. No-one else must have it! Only he can destroy the ring. It is his burden...
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He's got the precious ring. No-one else must have it! Only he can destroy the ring. It is his burden...
Well i posted about my relationship issues / problems back in September, unsurprisingly, partly due to my own behavior it massively blew up in my face.
Que 3 weeks of "talking" followed by meeting up and sleeping together again, followed by her going all nuclear winter 3 days after that. (This is around the first 2 weeks of October)
Cant get the girl out of my head
I am torn to pieces with regret as to how i acted, totally started taking the situation for granted and didn't give her the space she needed. She was an amazing girl to be fair.
I feel like it/her/myself has ruined the last 2 months of my life and as well as that the ex started texting me again so ended up seeing her again pretty quickly which is messing with my head more as its not going to work with her, even more so after what i experienced with the other girl.
Ive being struggling to sleep, developed anxiety, anxiousness, self doubt, struggling to focus on everything else in my life, got myself in a right pickle. (Not looking for medical advice just saying how bad its being)
I don't know what advice i am looking for apart from i have being an idiot and move on, rubbish rubbish situation to be fair.
Que 3 weeks of "talking" followed by meeting up and sleeping together again, followed by her going all nuclear winter 3 days after that. (This is around the first 2 weeks of October)
Cant get the girl out of my head
I am torn to pieces with regret as to how i acted, totally started taking the situation for granted and didn't give her the space she needed. She was an amazing girl to be fair.
I feel like it/her/myself has ruined the last 2 months of my life and as well as that the ex started texting me again so ended up seeing her again pretty quickly which is messing with my head more as its not going to work with her, even more so after what i experienced with the other girl.
Ive being struggling to sleep, developed anxiety, anxiousness, self doubt, struggling to focus on everything else in my life, got myself in a right pickle. (Not looking for medical advice just saying how bad its being)
I don't know what advice i am looking for apart from i have being an idiot and move on, rubbish rubbish situation to be fair.
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I hadn't done anything at that point i was just struggling to get a grip as to what was going on with us, we had being having a really good time together, i was totally head over heals for the girl and i was trying to deal with some of the issues we had going on.
The answer to the problem at that point was just to leave it alone and see where it went, the wrong answer was to try and push the issue.
The answer to the problem at that point was just to leave it alone and see where it went, the wrong answer was to try and push the issue.
I'm not going into my situation, but the anxiety thing is quite common - it's like the 'lovesick' effect which is getting more medically realised and accepted. I've lost crap loads of weight, palpitations, stress symptoms, restless and night sweats. I'm perfectly healthy aside from this.
When stuff is going well, I'm absolutely fine, but when my lady starts getting anxious/stressy herself it directly affects me as it places strain over our relationship and future. You have to try and chill out and make sure you have a structured life which can support/occupy/catch you if you need security and stability.
Aaaaaand..... I'm single.... Again.
It's done.
Did you do it or her? Was she a muslim, and is this why your other thread speaks of a credible terror threat?
Mutual. I dug my heels in over her refusal to come off Pof and she was mad at me for assuming she'd done something wrong...
She "not sure she wants a relationship anymore"... So I finished the sentence off for her.
Both sad, both still friends.
And nope, Catholic.
She "not sure she wants a relationship anymore"... So I finished the sentence off for her.
Both sad, both still friends.
And nope, Catholic.
Well that's me absolutely heart broken today... I was supposed to be going to my little girls very first Christmas play at 1:30, something I have been looking forward too for weeks however at 10am this morning I get a phone call to ask why I hadn't come as my daughter was very upset because I'd promised her I would be there.
As it turns out when the school had emailed me to tell me of the dates and times they had neglected to tell me that my Daughter would only be in the morning show, not the afternoon one too like the rest of the classes (My sons is tomorrow)
I'd text that vile ex of mine to say I'd be going to the afternoon one, if she wanted to avoid running into me and she deliberately didn't say anything!
I'm actually genuinely bloody crushed by this... the thought of my 4 year old daughter standing up in the middle of her play and getting upset cause she couldn't see Daddy is killing me, I'm so angry that in order to score a point against me that creature would do that to our daughter!!!
The school and head teacher got an absolute ear full from me as they've been thoroughly made aware of the situation over the past two years and are supposed to keep me informed every bit as much as my ex partner.
oh they've promised it won't happen again and have apologized but it already has happened, I'll never be able to go to my daughters very first school play again!
Furious isn't the word for it.
As it turns out when the school had emailed me to tell me of the dates and times they had neglected to tell me that my Daughter would only be in the morning show, not the afternoon one too like the rest of the classes (My sons is tomorrow)
I'd text that vile ex of mine to say I'd be going to the afternoon one, if she wanted to avoid running into me and she deliberately didn't say anything!
I'm actually genuinely bloody crushed by this... the thought of my 4 year old daughter standing up in the middle of her play and getting upset cause she couldn't see Daddy is killing me, I'm so angry that in order to score a point against me that creature would do that to our daughter!!!
The school and head teacher got an absolute ear full from me as they've been thoroughly made aware of the situation over the past two years and are supposed to keep me informed every bit as much as my ex partner.
oh they've promised it won't happen again and have apologized but it already has happened, I'll never be able to go to my daughters very first school play again!
Furious isn't the word for it.
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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...m-boss-abusive-ex-wife-asked-maintenance.html
how is this even possible???
how is this even possible???
It's abhorrent, but so typical of her...
She fails to see that by behaving like this that it's not just me she's hurting. And it's maddening because going by the unwarranted abusive text messages I regularly receive apparently Karma will catch up with me, I'm useless and abusive, intimidate her and harass her etc etc... Which is a touch hard when the only times I message her are to specifically do with the kids, refuse to speak on the phone etc etc
But that's irrelevant really... according to the head teacher my little girl got dreadfully upset and that's what's really important.... how dare she do that to our daughter!!!!
She fails to see that by behaving like this that it's not just me she's hurting. And it's maddening because going by the unwarranted abusive text messages I regularly receive apparently Karma will catch up with me, I'm useless and abusive, intimidate her and harass her etc etc... Which is a touch hard when the only times I message her are to specifically do with the kids, refuse to speak on the phone etc etc
But that's irrelevant really... according to the head teacher my little girl got dreadfully upset and that's what's really important.... how dare she do that to our daughter!!!!
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Because English law says that marital assets are shared until a consent order is signed off by a judge. Get divorced, win the lottery before getting the consent order and then ex has a claim.
In Scotland, finances are decided based on an agreed date of separation. Anything after that date is not included in the pot.
With that sort of money I'd tell her to get bent then move abroad to avoid having to pay anything.
She's not getting 2 million, that's what she wants..
It's already been thrown out by lower courts so her money grabbing lawyers are trying it on in the Supreme court, where hopefully, she will be given the boot again, the haggard old witch.
Female judge.....
Oh he's ****ed! 
It's already been thrown out by lower courts so her money grabbing lawyers are trying it on in the Supreme court, where hopefully, she will be given the boot again, the haggard old witch.
Female judge.....
Oh he's ****ed!
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Strange how things pop up on FB that seem to fit the situation rather perfectly.
This pretty sums up my whole argument and the reasons she had to go...
I replied to the person who uploaded it, that I assume was also having some life struggles of her own.. (I'm not the sort to upload that sort of guff myself ) so I asked....
"What happens when you don't want to remove them from your life but you "have to" for principles sake"
I guess the ex is stalking/following me on FB then, as this afternoon I get a text..
"Obey the principles without being bound by them.
Bruce Lee"
I might be a bit hard of understanding here but can someone explain what does that actually mean.
If you have principles then you should stick to them, but be prepared to bend the rules? What??
If you aren't bound by your principles.. err well you don't have any principles then..
This pretty sums up my whole argument and the reasons she had to go...
I replied to the person who uploaded it, that I assume was also having some life struggles of her own.. (I'm not the sort to upload that sort of guff myself
) so I asked...."What happens when you don't want to remove them from your life but you "have to" for principles sake"
I guess the ex is stalking/following me on FB then, as this afternoon I get a text..
"Obey the principles without being bound by them.
Bruce Lee"
I might be a bit hard of understanding here but can someone explain what does that actually mean.
If you have principles then you should stick to them, but be prepared to bend the rules? What??
If you aren't bound by your principles.. err well you don't have any principles then..
not true. it's about life balance.
i'd say she was using it as a point to say just because she didn't delete her POF account, it didn't mean she would have pursued anything.
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