contract up end of next week
The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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contract up end of next week
May I ask what happened?
That is some **** timing that's for sure.
What's the likelihood of getting the contract renewed or another position in place?
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Well after a year of living together after a break up ( 10 year relationship ) we have 4 weeks left to get out of the house which we have sold.
Today we threw stuff away which im not going to deny was heartbreaking, we are still friends but this is the hardest thing ive ever done.
Onwards and upwards I suppose
Today we threw stuff away which im not going to deny was heartbreaking, we are still friends but this is the hardest thing ive ever done.
Onwards and upwards I suppose
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Really sorry to hear that, sounds awful. Keep your chin up though and time things one at a time
I know you said no family, but is there no one whatsoever who you can go and spend christmas with? Im sure they'd understand...May I ask what happened?
That is some **** timing that's for sure.
What's the likelihood of getting the contract renewed or another position in place?
Build up of financial problems, family issues and relationship issues. Constantly arguing about the way we raising the children. No resolution when we argue just going around in circles all the time.
The problems started a couple of years ago when my mother passed away I became withdrawn,secluded and severally depressed this had a chain effect causing me to lose my job in January this year. Since then I have had 3 more jobs all temporary positions (currently on my third my contract ends in 2 weeks time). My farther also passed away last month (I am now the last of my family) even tho me and my father never spoke (never attended his funeral relationship was that bad) it still has an effect on me him passing. My wife thinks I have become needy and tbh I probably have a little. Now all we do is argue about everything I don't feel like we are intimate anymore and can talk anymore without us disagreeing on something. We used to be united as a couple now it feels like just battling all the time. Been together almost 10 years hard to imagine life without her I do love her but things cannot carry on like this and that is why we split up this morning.
Wow that sucks bro...
Your wife should be there for support, when my wife's nan died in February I offered as much support as I could, she was very close to her nan it was the hardest time for her and her mother.
I get the feeling that your wife doesn't really understand, have you to had a close heart to heart? somewhere mutual?
It is difficult as most people say "I know what your going through" but in reality no-one can comprehend what you're feeling right now.
Sorry to hear of your sad news.
Your wife should be there for support, when my wife's nan died in February I offered as much support as I could, she was very close to her nan it was the hardest time for her and her mother.
I get the feeling that your wife doesn't really understand, have you to had a close heart to heart? somewhere mutual?
It is difficult as most people say "I know what your going through" but in reality no-one can comprehend what you're feeling right now.
Sorry to hear of your sad news.
It is only when faced with trying and hard times that you truly see who support you and stick by you.
Too many are all talk and will run at the first requirement of true benevolent/selfless action.
It is a shame it culminated at this point and time, but you can move forward from now, onwards and upwards
Too many are all talk and will run at the first requirement of true benevolent/selfless action.
It is a shame it culminated at this point and time, but you can move forward from now, onwards and upwards
I am very sorry to hear that!! Keep your chin up and try and keep focused on yourself.
I was in the exact same situation in February of this year. My marriage ended after around 7 months of really fighting for it to last, most of it on my side as the now ex didn't seem too interested. I left, and had to stay in a B&B for the best part of a month until I found something and luckily the place I found the landlord was amazing! He let me move in without a deposit or paying rent until I got my next pay cheque and then I covered the initial cost of renting with that.
At the time there were no children involved, but our daughter was born August of this year and guess what....I got told two days after that she had been born!!
Aside from the difficult situation with her and my daughter I am feeling more positive about everything, she was dragging me down and I was unhappy for a long time (even though I was fighting for it to work). I am now financially stable(she didn't work ever) and friends/family relationships are much better.
LOL... I'll shut up now as people have much worse problems than my little conundrum.
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Well mine just went down the toilet.
Basically we had been having a lot of arguments recently over petty little things, and I basically said I couldn't take it anymore. She was being really needy and I tried my best to do everything she wanted, but it just ended up being more and more all the time. She then always used to say it wasn't good enough and all that jazz, which to be honest made me always feel like crap.
At first, everything was good, but over the past month or so, everything has gone bad, and basically even talking to her on the phone felt like a chore as she always had a go about something.
Now apparently, I should die in a ditch, and a waste of space. Just because something didn't go quite her way and I said something she didn't want to hear.
The funny thing is she is now trying to text me, being all nice saying she was 'just angry' is that really an excuse?
I never said anything hurtful to her, other than that I feel it isn't working.
What do I do, oh great ones at OCUK?
Should I cut all communication altogether, or..?
Basically we had been having a lot of arguments recently over petty little things, and I basically said I couldn't take it anymore. She was being really needy and I tried my best to do everything she wanted, but it just ended up being more and more all the time. She then always used to say it wasn't good enough and all that jazz, which to be honest made me always feel like crap.
At first, everything was good, but over the past month or so, everything has gone bad, and basically even talking to her on the phone felt like a chore as she always had a go about something.
Now apparently, I should die in a ditch, and a waste of space. Just because something didn't go quite her way and I said something she didn't want to hear.
The funny thing is she is now trying to text me, being all nice saying she was 'just angry' is that really an excuse?
I never said anything hurtful to her, other than that I feel it isn't working.
What do I do, oh great ones at OCUK?
Should I cut all communication altogether, or..?
This. It's not worth it, find someone who is actually nice/worth being with.
Don't be fooled by the niceness/false promises.