Wife Found Lump in breast!

RDM · 22 Mar 2015 at 17:57

Very best of luck to the both of you.

john_lickman · 22 Mar 2015 at 18:49

I don't normally post here but, I thought I'd add my thoughts at this most worrying time. My wife, of 34 years, has had several scares like this. However, they've all turned out to be cysts and she's fine. We've been told that this is quite common.

I can imagine what you and your lady are going through. It's tough. But I hope that our experience will offer a little reassurance.

Mynight · 22 Mar 2015 at 19:11

My thoughts are with you. There's quite a few non scary things it can be so fingers crossed it's one of those!

Please keep us updated. I'm sure most of us know how you feel.

jkb · 22 Mar 2015 at 19:19

Good luck. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 years ago and is now all clear so I understand what you are both going through.

GinG · 22 Mar 2015 at 21:20

Hi mate, dont worry to much until there is something to worry about!

My wife has had a few scares but *touch wood* every single time has proved to be a cyst.

I hope it isnt anything too sinister, thoughts are with you both! x

Scania · 23 Mar 2015 at 00:20

My then GF found a lump back in 2005, she was seen within a week and ultimately had surgery to remove the breast, chemotherapy and reconstructive surgery.

It was hard for her, but she came through it and says herself 10years on it changed her life but ironically in a positive manner.

As I say, this was 10years ago, I recall her being told then how treatment had improved and she was lucky it had, hers was an aggressive one.

My point being, assuming it's worst case which is by no means a given, she got on just fine 10years ago, today with the further advances in treatment,your Mrs will too.

Don't study the web endlessly, support her and be there for her.

big_white_dog84 · 23 Mar 2015 at 06:54

Survival rates are ridiculously high for breast cancer. It is the most funded and best understood of them all iirc. My mum had a really aggressive type 3 years ago - she did what the nhs told her and she is all clear now.

RoboCod · 23 Mar 2015 at 07:18

big_white_dog84 said:
Survival rates are ridiculously high for breast cancer. It is the most funded and best understood of them all iirc. My mum had a really aggressive type 3 years ago - she did what the nhs told her and she is all clear now.

This. Detection and treatment is excellent. Chances are it's just a cyst anyway. I look forward to the reply of relief when everything is OK and you can both relax

Andreas.96 · 23 Mar 2015 at 07:36

Worry isn't weak, it's natural. And as other members have said already the detection and treatments for breast cancer (there's a good chance it's something benign, but our minds have a horrible way of jumping to the worst conclusions) are really good nowadays.

Best wishes and remember that there is a good chance that it'll be nothing but make sure that you push the doctors to do all they can

Musty Pie · 23 Mar 2015 at 07:50

Try and stay positive for your wife's sake.

as others have said though good luck and I hope its nothing serious!

dirtychinchilla · 23 Mar 2015 at 08:53

Scania said:
My then GF found a lump back in 2005, she was seen within a week and ultimately had surgery to remove the breast, chemotherapy and reconstructive surgery.

It was hard for her, but she came through it and says herself 10years on it changed her life but ironically in a positive manner.

As I say, this was 10years ago, I recall her being told then how treatment had improved and she was lucky it had, hers was an aggressive one.

My point being, assuming it's worst case which is by no means a given, she got on just fine 10years ago, today with the further advances in treatment,your Mrs will too.

Don't study the web endlessly, support her and be there for her.

That's great to hear. My mum has got a new lease on life now. She's making my dad spend all his money! So, watch out koolpc! Wallet's going to be hurting. But it's worth it

DanielMMS · 23 Mar 2015 at 08:54

All the very best to you and your wife - I hope the outcome is positive. My wife has a breast surgery appointment tomorrow - strange discharge rather than lump - and rest assured that feeling weak / useless and worrying about the outcome is perfectly normal. It has to be said that finding a lump early and seeking swift intervention gives a very good chance of a positive outcome. Do keep us updated!

josh_sheffield · 23 Mar 2015 at 10:53

It's hard to do but try not to get ahead of yourself. Chances are it's nothing serious. My partner has found a lump before and been referred and it was nothing and I went through a similar thing with a lump on my testicle.

I found it worse when it wasn't me.

My thoughts are with you.

koolpc · 23 Mar 2015 at 11:02

Many thanks people for your kind words of support etc. Appointment is on 7th April. Wish it was sooner though. Wife has her name down in case of a cancellation.

Its the waiting and not knowing that is hard. Saying that, its me that is so anxious as the wife is very strong outwardly.

Werewolf · 23 Mar 2015 at 11:10

Hopefully (and probably) it'll be nothing to worry about, the main thing is that it's been spotted and she's taken steps about it.

My favourite aunt didn't do anything for months after finding a lump and in the end it cost her her life

(that was 13 years ago), my mother on the other hand went straight to the GP and had it dealt with in weeks (going back nearly 30 years ago), and she's still with us.

I'm a little surprised at the wait, as when my sister found one a couple of years back she was booked into the hospital the same afternoon (or next afternoon I forget), for a full scan etc, mind you were are roughly the same distance from 3 fairly big hospitals so the GP almost always has a choice of which one is best/has the lowest wait time.

Will Gill · 23 Mar 2015 at 11:11

Fingers crossed for you its nothing sinister and turns out to be a cyst or similar, but as others have said the big C isn't the death sentence it once was, my dad just had his 9 month in remission.

I wish you and your wife well.

boxman2000 · 23 Mar 2015 at 11:49

ElliorR said:
It's the waiting and not knowing that's the hardest part. I was referred by my doctor and had an MRI last week and am now waiting for the results. Good luck.

Really sorry to hear this.

Do not be afraid to be a squeaky wheel about results and getting your wife seen to. My wife used to work as a medical secretary and it's the same old story of being overworked and underpaid but she herself said that people that were on her case to get results etc did often get dealt with quicker (obnoxious ones got put at the bottom of the pile).

If you can pay to get her seen sooner privately then I would absolutely do so.

Sencha · 23 Mar 2015 at 12:21

Its far more likely to be nothing then cancer. Just know you're doing all you can. I know its hard but try to keep your mind occupied and stay strong.

LizardKing · 23 Mar 2015 at 12:56

GinG said:
Hi mate, dont worry to much until there is something to worry about!

My wife has had a few scares but *touch wood* every single time has proved to be a cyst.

I hope it isnt anything too sinister, thoughts are with you both! x

Pretty much this

I've also gone through the same with my wife and thankfully turned out to be nothing but i can certainly understand the anxiety of waiting for the Hosp app to come through!

Hope its the same story for your wife and self

Dr House · 23 Mar 2015 at 13:54

My wife found found a lump 2 and a bit years ago at 28. Most lumps are nothing to worry about but unfortunately ours was not good news.

She came out ok in the end but its one of the causes of the breakdown of my relationship.