Soldato
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I do find it interesting that a lot of people here jump straight to the whole, she's been cheating on you
May 25th.. the day my whole world crumbled
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And it's not like it even matters, frankly.
Soldato
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Remain calm and respectful, but lawyer up - get a solicitor involved immediately!
Obviously not my situation, but this looks like solid advice. Sounds like a terrible situation and hope it works out properly.
+1.
Knew a woman that thought the grass was greener somewhere else once ... Now she's the one jumping from partner to partner , and he's happily remarried and in the best financial shape of his life .. It gets easier mate , as much as we like to think we know someone , were far from mind readers .
I don't agree with this one personally. I value loyalty above a lot of things, so for me it's 1 strike and you're out. If somebody cheats on me then we're done, no second chances.
All trust will be gone, if it's happened once it can happen again.
The rest sounds like good advice though
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At least its only been since Xmas,For some their partener can go on and have an affair behind their back for years and years..So at least its out in the open now and you know..its hard i know but id just move on,If she says you can see your daughter as much as you like then thats all good..lets just hope she doesnt change her mind and become difficult.
Sorry to hear about all this.. Only advice other than 'grass is greener and plenty more fish.. ' is that until it is all written down and legal, any best intentions over finances, house and visitation etc means nothing.
Breakups are very, very stressful times and tempers can flare and things change in a heart beat, get legal assistance.
Keep talking to friends and family I am sure you are not alone.
Oh and chin up 8o)
Breakups are very, very stressful times and tempers can flare and things change in a heart beat, get legal assistance.
Keep talking to friends and family I am sure you are not alone.
Oh and chin up 8o)
From my own experience - this advice is perfect. Get your head straight and sort these things out before you get royally screwed.
Same here, which is great news for my girlfriend who wants to have kids and get married in the next few years....
Sorry to read things have gone south for you OP.
Mate had his wife walk out after 15 years. He knew something was up after she started a new job, new people then went funny on him. Fortunately, she left him with the kids. He gave her one chance and she rejected it. Then, once she realised the grass was not greener he'd sorted himself out and the kids and didn't need her.
Appreciate this isn't the same but the point is life goes on. Once you get used to the idea of not having your kid all the time and you get a pattern, you might realise you get all the good bits of the child and the mum gets all the grief
I'm a single dad of 2 widowed (often think even though our experience was traumatic etc I think I've been spared all this break up shenanigans) and a little tongue in cheek but it's a hell of a bind looking for a new bird when you have wall to wall children.
Take the good advice on here and chin up. Things will get better, just be careful not to replace what you've lost too quickly. That road is usually bad news.
Mate had his wife walk out after 15 years. He knew something was up after she started a new job, new people then went funny on him. Fortunately, she left him with the kids. He gave her one chance and she rejected it. Then, once she realised the grass was not greener he'd sorted himself out and the kids and didn't need her.
Appreciate this isn't the same but the point is life goes on. Once you get used to the idea of not having your kid all the time and you get a pattern, you might realise you get all the good bits of the child and the mum gets all the grief
I'm a single dad of 2 widowed (often think even though our experience was traumatic etc I think I've been spared all this break up shenanigans) and a little tongue in cheek but it's a hell of a bind looking for a new bird when you have wall to wall children.
Take the good advice on here and chin up. Things will get better, just be careful not to replace what you've lost too quickly. That road is usually bad news.