To me this is an even lower form of behaviour. You may not be hurting your own partner/family, but potentially destroying another family whilst calmly walking away having taken no risk and lost nothing yourself.
Ashley Madison user accounts leaked online
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To me this is an even lower form of behaviour. You may not be hurting your own partner/family, but potentially destroying another family whilst calmly walking away having taken no risk and lost nothing yourself.
I've always found this moral point an interesting one that I don't really know where I stand on - as on the one hand its not like the single person would be forcing the other person to do anything and personally if I had a partner with such inclinations I'd rather they got on with it and out of my life than live a lie. At the same time aware that people often have thoughts they never follow through on, etc.
I bet the ones who paid extra for their details to be deleted, but be feeling angry and nervous right now
I see pastebin has most of the account details on their site for anyone to access
Yeah according to financial records Ashley Madison made $1.7m in 2014 in payments for permanently deleted the data and sexual preferences.
I would presume there will be a class action in the states against them for this.
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People cheat for many reasons, some of them not as vile and scummy as so many of you so readily brand them.
Some actually 'cheat' consentually, as a sort of roleplay. The 'thrill of being caught misbehaving', despite the partner already agreeing to it taking place ahead of time. It's basically an open relationship that both sides pretend is closed, just for the fantasy... or something like that. Some develop like this when it becomes apparent that one partner cannot fulfil the other in some capacity.
Paralleling that, many people actually know their partners are cheating, yet accept it because at the end of the day that partner still comes home to them. Whether they go looking for sex, or whatever, it's the being together that keeps them together.
Then you have the abusive relationships where, for one reason or another (or perhaps many reasons) the 'cheating' partner is unable to outright end the relationship and so sneaks off to seek some sense of happiness elsewhere. In some cases, this later gives them the courage and security to finally end the nasty relationship and escape to the better one - Sounds stupid, but I've known a fair few that went this way and if the 'cheat' had instead just faithfully remained in the toxic relationship you'd all be branding them cowardly idiots, I expect...
Having never cheated on someone myself, as well as having been cheated on, I am instinctively on the same high horse as many people here. But having also learned some of the many reasons people do this, I'm no longer so quick to judge them all based on just my own very simplistic, monotone morality.
Some actually 'cheat' consentually, as a sort of roleplay. The 'thrill of being caught misbehaving', despite the partner already agreeing to it taking place ahead of time. It's basically an open relationship that both sides pretend is closed, just for the fantasy... or something like that. Some develop like this when it becomes apparent that one partner cannot fulfil the other in some capacity.
Paralleling that, many people actually know their partners are cheating, yet accept it because at the end of the day that partner still comes home to them. Whether they go looking for sex, or whatever, it's the being together that keeps them together.
Then you have the abusive relationships where, for one reason or another (or perhaps many reasons) the 'cheating' partner is unable to outright end the relationship and so sneaks off to seek some sense of happiness elsewhere. In some cases, this later gives them the courage and security to finally end the nasty relationship and escape to the better one - Sounds stupid, but I've known a fair few that went this way and if the 'cheat' had instead just faithfully remained in the toxic relationship you'd all be branding them cowardly idiots, I expect...
Having never cheated on someone myself, as well as having been cheated on, I am instinctively on the same high horse as many people here. But having also learned some of the many reasons people do this, I'm no longer so quick to judge them all based on just my own very simplistic, monotone morality.
Indeed. They don't give a damn about anything. "Who cares! Whateva!"
If there is a class action it could mean some hurt for a lot of data collectors in the industry.
It's not right to release the data without knowing the details as to what actually happened.
Some may have joined but never actually done anything, then some people may have been put on there without consent (no email confirmation apparently) - then there is the aspect as to the timing, what if somebody joined when single - does it have the join date?.
It seems like it's going to cause allot of grief to a number of people who may not have actually cheated at all. Collectively punishing them to get one back at cheaters is hardly the right thing to do.
Some may have joined but never actually done anything, then some people may have been put on there without consent (no email confirmation apparently) - then there is the aspect as to the timing, what if somebody joined when single - does it have the join date?.
It seems like it's going to cause allot of grief to a number of people who may not have actually cheated at all. Collectively punishing them to get one back at cheaters is hardly the right thing to do.
Nice to see a more nuanced view as opposed to the usual black & white thinking on here.
Echoes pretty much my views on the matter.
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An open relationship isn't cheating is it. And I doubt the visitors of this website really fall into the latter category.
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I did consider murder before i posted.
Consider a prison with two cells, and two inmates. You are captured and taken to this prison, the guard asks you to choose who will be your roommate, the first person killed someone in a fit of rage who annoyed him. The second, after finding out his wife cheated on him, killed his wife, then man she was cheating with.
Those aren't really equivalents.
We're comparing a drunken one night stand with later remorse vs a planned one via a dating site.
You'd have to compare someone who burst in on his wife with another man and killed them both in the heat of the moment and later regretted it vs someone who found out and plotted then killed them deliberately at a later time.
Most people would have more sympathy with the first.
We're comparing a drunken one night stand with later remorse vs a planned one via a dating site.
You'd have to compare someone who burst in on his wife with another man and killed them both in the heat of the moment and later regretted it vs someone who found out and plotted then killed them deliberately at a later time.
Most people would have more sympathy with the first.
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I do wonder when some famous people are going to be outed as a result of this. There is probably some money to be earned by doing a bit of data wrangling and then comparing with lists of politicians, senior civil servants, premiership team lists, soap stars/actors real names etc, etc.....then selling any finds to newspapers.
Perhaps some potential too for law firms - for example look for people using bank e-mail addresses, find on linked in, check if MD level or above... contact wife - work on multimillion pound divorce...
Perhaps some potential too for law firms - for example look for people using bank e-mail addresses, find on linked in, check if MD level or above... contact wife - work on multimillion pound divorce...
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you does the crime, you pays the time/
It in't a crime to be gay.
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and for those worrying,
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Sexual orientation is irrelevant.
People like to complicate things or jump on moral high horses. "poor me" stories, "she doesnt love me any more" whatever. Grow a set and deal with it. Life isnt always rainbows and fluffy clouds wrapped in IronWarrior style bedlinen - sometimes u have to work through the hard times and those times are what define u as a person.
Snaking off to some website to organise trysts is premeditated plain and simple. you cannot even cite "your honour i was drunk and her boobs were a flapping in my face".
Ergo in your premeditation you accepted that there could be consequences for your frolics