Advice on current Girlfriend

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100% every time ive had the "is everything ok" chat with a woman shes finished with me within a month.

Although I'm married to one of them now (13 years after said chat and expected dumping) so it may work out! :D
 
I don't know about your relationship or where it is headed but i think it is almost certainly time to poo through someone's letterbox.
 
OP: Put this on mumsnet. Refer to her as "partner?" and omit the fact you're male.

For added troll bonus, wait a few days and then "clarify" you are the man and asking advice.
 
Maybe you're crap at flirting?

Or, in your last flirty text you suggested something which has made her decide you're a filthy pervert, and she's just waiting to hear back from the police?

You want to do what with a hamster?
 
Maybe she's just having a cruddy week and now to cap it off her bf is acting a fool because for the past few days she's not in the mood to be sending flirty loveydovey texts like she has been for the last 6 months.

How about don't text. Call her. If she wasn't thinking about finishing it all your talk of 'is it working out?' probably has got her thinking. If you're that bad after a week what would it be like after an actual argument!
 
Jsut chillout......... the tighter you try and grip the relationship / demand an asnwer / tell her its poor... the more its going to do her head in.

As many others have said, try just rolling with it for a bit. It sounds like you could do with a chillout and some time to work on yourself as well!


What's the saying.... "the tighter you hold a dog by it's leash, the more it'll strain to get away, if you give it the freedom it wants, it'll always come back in the end"
 
It does carry on, if you're still the number 1 guy.

She's probably thinking of someone else or losing interest.

It's like the poor guy sat at home in the dead bedroom wondering why his wife "has no sex drive", then 2 years later he finds out the entire time she was having multiple affairs and lots of sex romps in random motels.

See stories like that posted on reddit relationships sub forum all the time.

Either way, my advice to you is just carry on and when it ends, it ends. Try not to get too hung up on it (Easier said than done). Don't get too paranoid but the advice I've learnt is to trust myself when I "feel" something is up it probably is. But I know how to distinguish between a paranoid insecure feeling, or a genuine concern.
 
ive read everything on here and took note of her reply which bascially said she does want to see me

so im going to see her at the weekend and just go with the flow, it will either work or it wont, time to stop stressing about it and making it worse

thanks for the advice GD

ps i wont be pooing through a letterbox tho lol
 
elh_2009 said:
ive read everything on here and took note of her reply which bascially said she does want to see me

so im going to see her at the weekend and just go with the flow, it will either work or it wont, time to stop stressing about it and making it worse

thanks for the advice GD

ps i wont be pooing through a letterbox tho lol
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Shame about the lack of pooping but at least you should get one for the road if it comes to that :)
 
Cyanide said:
Poop through her letterbox. If she texts you asking for help you know you're the first person she's thinking of in a bad situation and that's a good sign. If she doesn't then you've already pooped through her letterbox and got your own back.
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Seems like this strategy will yield the best results. At least you'll find out whether she's a keeper or not.
 
elh_2009 said:
ive read everything on here and took note of her reply which bascially said she does want to see me

so im going to see her at the weekend and just go with the flow, it will either work or it wont, time to stop stressing about it and making it worse

thanks for the advice GD

ps i wont be pooing through a letterbox tho lol
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Good man, Focus a lot less on your expectations of her behaviour using a digital device. Focus a lot more on the time you actually do spend together, is that part fun? that is what really matters!
 
back on topic; Maybe just ask her to spend more time paying attention to you (in a round about way) suggest playing a game together or just doing something other than watching TV etc. all the time.

Or take her out for a spontaneous meal somewhere nice.
 
good take the calm approach.....

and try not to txt, instead call her at least then when you attempt to flirt you can hear the tone of her reply. Txt's are great at being read the wrong way.


Although don't start another thread when she forwards you to answer phone for being busy at work.....;)
 
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