Advice on current Girlfriend

lafemmefatale · 16 Oct 2015 at 14:46

purplesky said:
No, not at all. I can apply a scale of 1 - 10 on any woman. Doesn't mean I wouldn't date them if they weren't at least an 8.

I rate you a 1 as a human being. Given that our frame of reference here is purely objectification.

Scrutinize · 16 Oct 2015 at 14:52

lafemmefatale said:
I cheated on my second husband with a female work colleague. I'd love to see your thoughts on this.

It's your life and your family. Do we need to pick up the pieces? If not then... It has no impact so no comments or thoughts.

purplesky · 16 Oct 2015 at 14:57

lafemmefatale said:
I rate you a 1 as a human being. Given that our frame of reference here is purely objectification.

Ooo, touched a nerve have I.

Steampunk · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:00

To be fair, people are people and they can be as good or bad as each other regardless of gender. People who love you put your needs before themselves. If they do things to hurt you, then they don't really love you, no matter what they say.

Any woman woman who says "All men are terrible" should be asked "why are all the men you choose terrible?". The same question is easily reversed to a man who constantly chooses women who treats him badly. You just can't tar a whole gender with the same brush.

lafemmefatale · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:01

Scrutinize said:
It's your life and your family. Do we need to pick up the pieces? If not then... It has no impact so no comments or thoughts.

I'm not asking anyone to pick up the pieces, I did that myself thank you.

I'm waiting for the application of this:

I can safely say it now, if you are dating a good looking woman, she is highly likely to be getting it from another man, or has done whilst with you.

to this:

I cheated on my second husband with a female work colleague

Mat · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:04

lafemmefatale said:
I cheated on my second husband with a female work colleague. I'd love to see your thoughts on this.

I think you should stop getting married. It clearly doesn't agree with you

lafemmefatale · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:05

purplesky said:
Ooo, touched a nerve have I.

Interesting leap of logic there.

Do you have a problem with women per se, or do you actually have a problem with the men who are much nicer people than you are, towards whom women inevitably gravitate, leaving you spinning aimlessly and angrily in your own lonely wobbly orbit?

krooton · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:06

purplesky said:
It's not that I have had such awful women in my life. I've had my fair share of relatively good looking girls, i'm not complaining about that or the sex. But, as you get older, things just become clearer and you begin to see things from a different perspective, both through personal past experience and the experience of others.

I can safely say it now, if you are dating a good looking woman, she is highly likely to be getting it from another man, or has done whilst with you.

You do realise that there are billions of people on this planet, and literally ALL of them that you will encounter over your entire lifetime hold NO statistical sway over anything, right?

Your experiences do little more than fuel confirmation bias, I experienced x, therefore everything is x.

Scrutinize · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:06

lafemmefatale said:
I'm not asking anyone to pick up the pieces, I did that myself thank you.

I'm waiting for the application of this:

to this:

Your asking what we thought and as it had no impact, I have no thoughts on it. Regardless of the intricacies of the relationships.

But as you are simply looking for a reaction or shock factor.......

The op however is looking for some comfort and advice which has been appropriately given.

Nix · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:07

You got bored and wanted something more.

It doesn't matter if you went off and got a seeing to from some transgender-cum-cis-queer-I'mnotsurewhatIam individual; you still cheated. And whatever way you frame it, cheating is a violation of trust and a reprehensible thing to do to someone you're supposed to care about.

purplesky · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:08

There are more hetrosexual women than bi or lesbian. It is not out of the question that a girlfriend would be cheating on you with a woman, it's just not as likely.

lafemmefatale · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:08

purplesky said:
I've had my fair share of relatively good looking girls, i'm not complaining about that or the sex.

It's almost as if you see women as nothing more than a nice bit of eye candy on your arm, and a walking vagina for you to stick it in.

Interesting.

purplesky · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:10

lafemmefatale said:
It's almost as if you see women as nothing more than a nice bit of eye candy on your arm, and a walking vagina for you to stick it in.

Interesting.

Not at all.

Janesy B · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:12

purplesky said:
Completely right is that.
Despite what women say they want, they are always looking for a better looking man. Women are actually very shallow/superficial when it comes to looks and appearance, much more than men who value the whole package. That's why women wear makeup. Take the makeup off however, you generally end up looking at a very different person, probably taking at least a good 4 off the 1-10 attractiveness scale. A 9/10 can easily become a 5/10 without makeup. And yes, most "natural looking" girls are really wearing lots of makeup, it's applied really well that it looks natural. Don't fall for any of it.

Women are very shallow.

*attractiveness scale*

lol.

That gave me a hearty chortle.

CREATIVE!11 · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:14

Janesy B said:
Women are very shallow.

*attractiveness scale*

lol.

That gave me a hearty chortle.

We'll see how much you're laughing bub when magic mike shows your gf/wife his magic wand and she faints!

Abs cut like diamonds.

lafemmefatale · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:14

purplesky said:
Not at all.

So if we're all dirty, filty, cheating lying whores, and we're not there just to look nice and be sexually available whenever your entitlement to our bodies becomes too overwhelming to control - then, in your view, where exactly is a woman's place in this world, apart from six feet under the ground?

purplesky · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:20

Janesy B said:
Women are very shallow.

*attractiveness scale*

lol.

That gave me a hearty chortle.

The point is, women place physical attractiveness in precedence of everything else. Each person, whether male of female will have their own physical attractiveness scale. I can safely say that I would consider dating a girl whom I considered a 5/10 on the physical attractiveness scale for example if there was a certain spark. Most women on the other hand wouldn't touch a man they considered a 5/10 on their attractiveness scale.

krooton · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:23

Whilst I don't ascribe to a scale, I would never date someone if I didn't find them attractive, that is kinda the minimum requirement.

What everyone finds attractive is completely subjective though, so scales are pointless.

I am, with all the modesty a sentence like this can possibly be typed, above average looking for a guy, and naturally I tend to lean towards above average looking women.

KingOfTheDaves · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:27

purplesky said:
I can safely say that I would consider dating a girl whom I considered a 5/10 on the physical attractiveness scale for example if there was a certain spark. Most women on the other hand wouldn't touch a man they considered a 5/10 on their attractiveness scale.

:golfclap:

I'm sure women the world over are extremely grateful that you are willing to 'throw a five' a good time.

CREATIVE!11 · 16 Oct 2015 at 15:29

purplesky said:
The point is, women place physical attractiveness in precedence of everything else. Each person, whether male of female will have their own physical attractiveness scale. I can safely say that I would consider dating a girl whom I considered a 5/10 on the physical attractiveness scale for example if there was a certain spark. Most women on the other hand wouldn't touch a man they considered a 5/10 on their attractiveness scale.

Careful, you're about to rustle some serious jimmies spouting the truth.

People hate talk about looks/superficiality lol.

Get real butthurt.