Why does this feel wierd?

Also, consider some sort of system so you don't need to hear your mother and him having sex. Like she pays for a cinema ticket for you or whatever. Cause if you hear that, then the awkwardness skyrockets.
 
SC0TTRS said:
Sounds like you're wallowing in self pity Rob but hey, it's a good reason to be boring and unambitious.

You'll have something in common :)
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I'm not wallowing in self pity at all, I'm merely pointing out why I am restricted in employment.

For your information when I was younger and healthier, I had a fantastic job in the diplomatic service and had to work bloody hard to get it. If my health had held up, I would have been travelling the world working and earning good money. I don't think you can accuse me of being unambitious.
 
If you earn enough money to get your own place, then I would definitely be doing that. Straight away.

If you don't earn enough money, then earplugs are needed.

Just read the above post, so it's impossible for you to live on your own?
 
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I sympathize with the health issues, but surely there's an alternative to living with your mum? As other's have said, she won't be able to help forever anyway. Maybe this will be a good chance for you both to start a new chapter in your lives? If not, well, you're going to have to put up with an awkward situation.
 
To be blunt I don't think she should be expected to really care if it’s weird for you. I imagine she wants to start a life with this chap and enjoy her later years. Irrespective of your health problems you are 35 and should really be looking to create a life for your own - away from the nest.

You have called this guy unambitious- yet he is 55. What are your ambitions and what are you doing to achieve them?
 
[TW]Sponge;28730856 said:
If you earn enough money to get your own place, then I would definitely be doing that. Straight away.

If you don't earn enough money, then earplugs are needed.

Just read the above post, so it's impossible for you to live on your own?
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Not impossible, but difficult. I may need help at times. I would also be cooped up in a one bed flat. At the moment I live in a lovely semi detached with a big garden.
 
Liefrich said:
To be blunt I don't think she should be expected to really care if it’s weird for you. I imagine she wants to start a life with this chap and enjoy her later years. Irrespective of your health problems you are 35 and should really be looking to create a life for your own - away from the nest.

You have called this guy unambitious- yet he is 55. What are your ambitions and what are you doing to achieve them?
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Eventually I am going to have a heart transplant. When that day comes, it's a whole new ball game regarding my ambitions. Atm, there's not much I can do about any ambitions I have.
 
Maybe if the guy had an attractive daughter? profit? everyone happy?

On a serious note, to hell with it just leave it to them to be happy, awkwardness is just life in some situations.

At least your mum is 'normal' I'm having a hell of a time trying to convince my mum the american general she thinks is coming to marry her is probably a Nigerian. She's impossible to get through to since she had a brain tumor removed and her personality changed dramatically. Hold on to a good relationship with your mum Rob, allow her the happiness and try and get around this best you can.
 
In what way does the health issue stop you from moving out? Guessing it stops you from working and therefore being able to afford a place of your own? If so, guess there's really nothing you can do as it's your mum's place. Just one of those things you'll have to suck up and deal with unfortunately.
 
robfosters said:
Not impossible, but difficult. I may need help at times. I would also be cooped up in a one bed flat. At the moment I live in a lovely semi detached with a big garden.
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Well it's finally come to a time when you wont be able to have everything your own way. Happens to all of us. Don't mean to sound harsh with that statement. It's the case for everyone moving out of their parents, you will have to downgrade compared to the luxury of home.

You have to weigh up the pro's and con's and decide for yourself the best course of action. If you did move out, try moving close to your mum so she can come check on you from time to time if needs be.
 
Luggs said:
Man cave at the bottom of the garden - win/win!
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This?

It may not be as daft as it first sounds. Possible a semi-permanent wooden structure, well built and insulated, which you could aim to use as your primary dwelling area.

You'd still be close enough to your mum for if you need health assistance, and it may only be for a few years until you get a transplant, if you're lucky - and then you can go from there? :)
 
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