I am fully expecting the full backlash of the GD but I had to post this somewhere and thought this would be as good a place as any!
Some of you may remember my advice on GF thread a couple of months back and the reply that we decided to end it. Well since then I’ve obviously had a think about it and I know that it was totally the right thing to do in ending it, it was never going to work long term anyway so that really isn’t a problem here. But since then here is where I’m at and I don’t really know what to do about it
I’m 30 and have a pretty stable job, it’s not my ideal job but it pays the bills and I know I can do a lot worse. I am awaiting to complete the contract on my first home, I’m buying and it should all be tied up by mid Jan, because of that I am currently living at home. I’ve not got a massive social group / group of friends but I do have a close few that I see quite a bit and we do loads of event together ect, that’s enough for me as I’m not one to be out every night anymore anyway. It’s not like I never do anything, I’m out quite a bit.
I decided I’d give Tinder / POF a go as it would be good to get back out there and meet someone as I still wasn’t quite over the ex. I don’t even know what my plan was it was more just have a look and see what’s about, I got talking to a girl and decided to meet her. For me it was purely to go have a date, have a laugh just to move on kinda thing. Anyway the date went like 100x better than I had ever planned, we had a right laugh and got on really well, we ended the night with a hug and a full on kiss and we said we’d so something within the next few days. We arranged to go out this coming Monday, she seemed super keen until she suddenly went a bit quiet. I didn’t really think nothing of it, it’s happened to me before and I’m sure it won’t be the last time. But now she’s told me that someone she was seeing from a few months ago has got back in touch and she’s now all confused. I’ve basically said go deal with that and we’ll leave it. As much as we got on I’m not gonna be messed about, I’ve had enough of that in my lifetime. It’s a shame because I was actually really feeling it with her.
I just can’t help but feel nothing is going right for me, I know things are not all bad and there’s plenty of people worse off but it just seems to be one thing after another. My job has been so stressful over the past 5 months, the competition of my flat is just dragging on and on, I’ve already had 2 fall through and can just see it happening again. I had a load of grief with the ex and just when I think I’ve met someone who’s totally on my level it all goes wrong like 2 days after. I can’t even be bothered to try again with someone else because I don’t see the point.
It just seems to be one thing after another and I’m beginning to feel quite miserable. I’ve spoke to a couple of my friends and they seem to think I just need to pull my socks up and get on with it but it’s hard when you feel that nothing is going your way.
I’ve read a few threads on here with people in similar positions so thought I’d give this ago to see you thoughts.
Some of you may remember my advice on GF thread a couple of months back and the reply that we decided to end it. Well since then I’ve obviously had a think about it and I know that it was totally the right thing to do in ending it, it was never going to work long term anyway so that really isn’t a problem here. But since then here is where I’m at and I don’t really know what to do about it
I’m 30 and have a pretty stable job, it’s not my ideal job but it pays the bills and I know I can do a lot worse. I am awaiting to complete the contract on my first home, I’m buying and it should all be tied up by mid Jan, because of that I am currently living at home. I’ve not got a massive social group / group of friends but I do have a close few that I see quite a bit and we do loads of event together ect, that’s enough for me as I’m not one to be out every night anymore anyway. It’s not like I never do anything, I’m out quite a bit.
I decided I’d give Tinder / POF a go as it would be good to get back out there and meet someone as I still wasn’t quite over the ex. I don’t even know what my plan was it was more just have a look and see what’s about, I got talking to a girl and decided to meet her. For me it was purely to go have a date, have a laugh just to move on kinda thing. Anyway the date went like 100x better than I had ever planned, we had a right laugh and got on really well, we ended the night with a hug and a full on kiss and we said we’d so something within the next few days. We arranged to go out this coming Monday, she seemed super keen until she suddenly went a bit quiet. I didn’t really think nothing of it, it’s happened to me before and I’m sure it won’t be the last time. But now she’s told me that someone she was seeing from a few months ago has got back in touch and she’s now all confused. I’ve basically said go deal with that and we’ll leave it. As much as we got on I’m not gonna be messed about, I’ve had enough of that in my lifetime. It’s a shame because I was actually really feeling it with her.
I just can’t help but feel nothing is going right for me, I know things are not all bad and there’s plenty of people worse off but it just seems to be one thing after another. My job has been so stressful over the past 5 months, the competition of my flat is just dragging on and on, I’ve already had 2 fall through and can just see it happening again. I had a load of grief with the ex and just when I think I’ve met someone who’s totally on my level it all goes wrong like 2 days after. I can’t even be bothered to try again with someone else because I don’t see the point.
It just seems to be one thing after another and I’m beginning to feel quite miserable. I’ve spoke to a couple of my friends and they seem to think I just need to pull my socks up and get on with it but it’s hard when you feel that nothing is going your way.
I’ve read a few threads on here with people in similar positions so thought I’d give this ago to see you thoughts.
