Am I right to be peeved off?

[Nodiggidy123]

I think it's more that the OP is hurt that his parents would rather arrange to go out with their friends (something they can and most probably do all the time) then spend some time with their grandchildren.
Unless they see/babysit all the time then I can understand how the OP feels tbh. (If they do already spend a lot of time with their grandchildren then you need to respect that they too have a life and that it's not fair to impose yourself upon them)

This is exactly the way I'm feeling! You've put it better into words than I could.

My rents might see my boh for maybe a hour every 2 weeks? Tjhey literally live 2 miles away. I always end up taking him to their house but they don't seem interested in doing anything with him.

 

[C.R.A.Z.Y]

Depends on the context.

If you are not seeing your parents at xmas and they find out that you are going to a big family slap up meal but they are not invited...hrmm not nice no?

Pretty childish/self-absorbed reason to not see your grandchildren though, what have they done wrong?

 

[Glaucus]

No you're wrong, they said they didn't know. should have arranged something else.

 

[Nodiggidy123]

Depends on the context.

If you are not seeing your parents at xmas and they find out that you are going to a big family slap up meal but they are not invited...hrmm not nice no?

Different side of family. Supposed to be having mum and dad round on boxing day.

 

[Surfer]

This is exactly the way I'm feeling! You've put it better into words than I could.

My rents might see my boh for maybe a hour every 2 weeks? Tjhey literally live 2 miles away. I always end up taking him to their house but they don't seem interested in doing anything with him.

Hrmm wow ok i think you might be right then tbh. So they dont really babysit regularly? Have they ever babysat for more than 2 hours before?

Are they quite sociable people? ie go out a lot themselves. I think you might be justified in being a tad peeved though.

 

[bazzabear]

Upset about this? No. They've still given you 3 weeks notice of not being able to do it. That's more than reasonable of them.

Upset that they seemingly aren't particularly bothered about seeing their grandchild in general, maybe. Is he a complete pain in the harris though?

 

[Shocky-FM]

You're being a little unreasonable, they weren't able to give you an answer so you should have made other arrangements.

Just hoping they will change their mind or have nothing on isn't really the right approach.

 

[C.R.A.Z.Y]

This is exactly the way I'm feeling! You've put it better into words than I could.

My rents might see my boh for maybe a hour every 2 weeks? Tjhey literally live 2 miles away. I always end up taking him to their house but they don't seem interested in doing anything with him.

Then that's pretty cold imho, anyway your kids will probably have more fun and a better time with a decent babysitter by the sounds of things!!

I have babysat my 4 nephews many many times over the years and loved it and still look forward to it each time! Even had to change a nappy once

Probably why I have a great relationship with them and they see me like their older brother

 

[Nodiggidy123]

My mum doesn't work and is at home most days. My dad works a faor big or is off fishing.

They have babysat before he's stayed overnight once and they have maybe the odd afternoon sometimes but no more than 10 times. He's almost 2 1/2 now

 

[wordy]

You're asking the same binary emotionally ignorant audience that think it's your own fault for living vaguely close to a river when your house floods. You won't get any support.

This. OcUK GD is here to look down our collective nose at you, not help you.

 

[theleg]

Bet theres a lot more to this than OP is mentioning. Whats the history here? Summit is going on.

 

[C.R.A.Z.Y]

Well then they are being extremely selfish and poor grandparents if they have ONLY ever babysat ONCE in 2 1/2 YEARS and have now (by the sounds of things) deliberately made alternative plans to get out of doing it again!

3 weeks notice, no plans/commitments ONLY babysat once in over 2 years = ONLY an emergency would be a reasonable excuse imho!!

 

[Nodiggidy123]

Bet theres a lot more to this than OP is mentioning. Whats the history here? Summit is going on.

I never had a great relationship with my mum. I'm sure I made a thread about it last year. My dad is a wimp who is to afraid to rock the boat and stand up for himself.

Although I don't know what happens now but When my nieces were younger my rents bent over backwards for them but not for my son.

My wife's parents on the other hand couldn't do enoivgh to help us.

 

[Zethor]

I would put family way ahead of friends and other activities so if I were in her shoes I'd take the kids in an instant. However, many people have different views, do you not know your mother's? The 'we don't know' thing was a hint, another way of saying 'we don't want to'.
If my mother did that I'd be annoyed because it would be unexpected and unlike her. If it wasn't unexpected in your mother's case, she is how she is and it shouldn't annoy you.

 

[theleg]

I never had a great relationship with my mum. I'm sure I made a thread about it last year. My dad is a wimp who is to afraid to rock the boat and stand up for himself.

Although I don't know what happens now bitWhen my nieces were yoinger my rents bemt over backwards for them but not for my son.

My wife's parents on the other hand couldn't do enoivgh to help us.

Then I think this is a situation very personal to you and explains why you feel annoyed.

if shes always had some kind of weird problem then you have reason to be frustrated. but its a very specific set of circumstances by the sounds of it. Although im sure your mum has her side of the story too.

Family stuff is often complicated.

 

[C.R.A.Z.Y]

I wouldn't worry about it dude, sounds like you have a nice loving, considerate and interested family on your better half's side, just make sure you don't forget this the next time your rents want a favor!!

 

[Nodiggidy123]

I wouldn't worry about it dude, sounds like you have a nice loving, considerate and interested family on your better half's side, just make sure you don't forget this the next time your rents want a favor!!

I should have put this all in the OP. Problem with GD is people are far to quick to put someone down.

Im tempted to find a better offer and bin off boxing day with them but at least they are coming to mine for once!

 

[teenwolf]

tbh my parents are the same, they split a few years ago and mum has a new fella and re-married, dad is a grump on his own and not in the best of health although he is 75.

i never ask them to babysit because it always comes across as a hassle to them, the wife's parents on the other hand are amazing and have the kids over for tea once a week individually, we also go on holiday together every year for the last 10 years so nothing is a hassle to them.

me and the wife and the eldest son went to New York in may for a week, we arranged so one set of rents had the 2 girls for half the week and the other rents had half, well got delayed in atlanta for a day and my mum was being well funny about it so i had to call the wifes rents to take over again for the 2 days.

rents can be a pain in the ass at times.

 

[theleg]

I should have put this all in the OP. Problem with GD is people are far to quick to put someone down.
!

Thats a little unfair. In most normal situations, you would be wrong to be peeved. Your specific history and relationship with your mum changes things...but you didnt mention any of that until later.

GD isnt so bad when they know the deets.

 

[.Lethal]

I can pay for a childminder just fine. thank you. I'm more annoyed at her lack of ability to simply say yes or no.

Did you consider that with it being Christmas that friends and family often go out together over the holiday season? You got told they didn't know because reasons that frankly are not your business.

Oh we have plenty of time to sort other arrangements out. Just the non committal nature irks me.

I would have taken this as a no and arranged a babysitter, rather than hold out and then whine about it on the forums.

Yes, YABU.

You're asking about the 27th - it's perfectly reasonable for people not to have plans for this date organised from August. Just because you ask early doesn't mean they have to agree if they haven't got anything planned *yet*.

I get the impression OP thinks that asking in advance before plans have been made should mean that the 27th can no longer be used as it's been "booked" by OP, never mind his family going out for a nice time.

This is exactly the way I'm feeling! You've put it better into words than I could.

My rents might see my boh for maybe a hour every 2 weeks? Tjhey literally live 2 miles away. I always end up taking him to their house but they don't seem interested in doing anything with him.

So rather than moan about other things your family does/doesn't do maybe have a talk with them if it bothers you so much.

I never had a great relationship with my mum. I'm sure I made a thread about it last year. My dad is a wimp who is to afraid to rock the boat and stand up for himself.

Although I don't know what happens now bitWhen my nieces were yoinger my rents bemt over backwards for them but not for my son.

My wife's parents on the other hand couldn't do enoivgh to help us.

This escalated quickly... I'm sure your parents are proud of their son moaning about them on a public forum whilst comparing them to their partners family.

You got no sympathy from me, you come across as a self entitled ass hat who feels their owed something.