Wedding day booked...

The posts here pretty much summed it up for me. It is her day and having a small fun event, Reg office and garden party is the best thing for US... and US only. Mother in law been round to chat about it with us today. She has been a great help so far with ideas and what not to do and what not. We are going ahead with the garden party. Just pricing up a gazebo which we wanted anyway and will use yearly, BBQ. Same again we want one anyway. It has certainly dropped the price massively and all for the better.
 
Lokai said:
Thats quite a big change from your other half wanting the whole big country house wedding to a garden party, you might want to make double sure its what she really wants.

As for what we did, registry office with close family and friends, then hired a room at the local country club for the evening and invited everyone with a bar and buffet. Was a great day and cost us in total about 2.5k, meant we could splurge on a really nice honeymoon and decent rings.
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We did almost exactly this 2.5k all in (including rings, dresses etc) luckily my Wife is from Devon so the registry office is really nice, it's called oldway mansion. It was also a really good party and on a plus we were not then paying off our wedding for 10 years after or having to postpone it until we saved enough.
 
Lokai said:
Thats quite a big change from your other half wanting the whole big country house wedding to a garden party, you might want to make double sure its what she really wants.

As for what we did, registry office with close family and friends, then hired a room at the local country club for the evening and invited everyone with a bar and buffet. Was a great day and cost us in total about 2.5k, meant we could splurge on a really nice honeymoon and decent rings.
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Yep. It is certainly a big difference in planning. She is happier now we have all chatted about it. Just us and close friends and family only..
 
Bit of an update:

It's my wedding tomorrow. After the decision about having a Garden party we went with the Reg office ceremony and now having the recpetion at Aston Court Hotel in Derby. We changed from the Garden last year after this thread was made. I never thought to update this thread.

Anyway it's all sorted. Got my suit and my little boys suit. Missus is currently getting her nails done next to me as I type. We have haave a front room FULL of decorations, table center pieces, photo booth probs blown up, bowls full of sweets, activity packs ffor the kids. You name it we have it in our front room.

The wifey to be is staying at the hotel tonight with her Mum an sister. They are setting up the evening recpetion room with decorations along with two more bridesmaids and I may poke my head in later with little one to see how its getting on and may help out. :p

I have my lad with me tonight and tomorrow whilst missus chills and what not at the hotel. Got a good friend coming round in the morning to help me out and keep me company. He will be getting a cab to the office with me as ill have little one in puchchair, I don't drive so cab it is :(. Missus is getting picked up from Hotel to office in a Merc. lucky thing.

it's not a massive do. Probably got 40 ish people coming to ceremony and and same again added to evening bash. Mostly Morrisons staff, thats where most of my freinds are from :) No family coming, no best man as the person I asked and wanted could not commit. I was a bit upset about that but I guess every one has things to do, but my boy is 'Best little man' hes got a badge with that on attached to his button hole.:)

I am looking forward to it big time. Not nervous but I am sure the nerves will kick in tomorrow morning at some point. She has done wonders getting it all sorted and I ma sure it will be a day to remember for all the good reasons.

I got a bottle of cheap Asda plonk to guzzle tonight when hes in bed. Slither.io booked marked and FerryCorsten Subbed on Youtube.. Gonna be a good night. The last night of not being a husband..
 
We've planned a similar day for ours (June 2016)

Marry at York Register Office, which is a very nice looking Register Office from the inside and out compared to Leeds where we live and others I've seen, for 40 people.

Hired a room at our local brewery for the evening, still quite small with just 80 guests but it's everybody we want. (I only have two brothers and a sister so my family is small).

We hate sit down meals at weddings as the food is usually rubbish unless you pay £40 a head so we've booked a very nice US style buffet (Burgers, Pizzas, Burritos, Potato Skins, etc) that has cost us about £800.

I was in the same boat as you, it is really just feeding all your friends which I don't mind doing but I'm not spoiling them. We went to a wedding similar to this and it was the best one we've been to. She completely agrees too which is good.

Good luck and congrats! :)

EDIT: P.S. Take photos and put them on here! We could use decoration ideas :D
 
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I love how you have gone from a 150 guest country house affair, to a home bbq for 30

Totally understand where you are coming from. To be honest, I think you should both just jet off to vegas and get married.

Sod everyone else!
 
glen8 said:
I love how you have gone from a 150 guest country house affair, to a home bbq for 30

Totally understand where you are coming from. To be honest, I think you should both just jet off to vegas and get married.

Sod everyone else!
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The home BBq is not happening now.. We have a function room at a Hotel. :) Lots of things have changed since the OP last year :)
 
My view is the wedding is for the wife and husband to get married its not some free **** up for distant family and friends.

We got married at the end of an 8 month backpacking tour of Africa. We finished in Cape town organised all the marriage things and said to friends and family 'we are getting married here on this date if you want to come you are very welcome'. We said the vows with Table Mountain in the background had some drinks then had a meal at the steak restaurant down the road.

All in it cost about £600 and was an excellent day. Handmade rings(silver ring for her and Titanium ring for me), suit hire, summer dress for her, vicar hire, bubbles and small buffet.
Remember it is your day not anyone else's.
 
This is one of the Table center displays. The Bowl was from Morrisons and had some plant life thing in it. We got 10 but only did 8 as we have 8 tables. Tha candles are real wax with a led battery operated light. fake roses but good quality and some glass pebbles in the bottom.

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This is a few of the bridemaids arrangments. Haand made by Missus mum. Like the table things.

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bigger shot of the stuff. The big display on my sub is a table one. this is going where the post box is and a memorial to my parents.

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Plenty more stuff to show but this drop box thing takes to long to link. I need some webspace instead. So much easier with NTLworld web space. ctrl C Ctrl V jobs a gudden
 
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Getting married next year in Ibiza (Well will technically be married a few days before in UK but blessing and ceremony in Ibiza).

Didn't want the hoo-rah of having to invite cousins and aunties and uncles I just don't see so opted for something small with immediate family and our friends in Ibiza. Probably 50 guests max. Still looking at costing a pretty penny but can't wait now!
 
We got married in the Bahamas approx 25 yrs ago. Took my mum and dad and wifes mum and dad. Had a little stress with wifes mum and dad but overall it was awesome! They paid for themselves to go too.
 
Droolinggimp said:
She has been stressed and very upset over planning all the above as it seems to her she is doing it all to please other people and not herself. Her family up north know about us getting married but they have not even said anything really to help out or offer anything. Her family here (grandparents in particular), what ever she does isn't good enough. She has had enough and frankly giving up on the whole idea really.

We are still doing it but doing it for US and not them...
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With all due respect to her grandparents, unless they are fronting the entire cost, whatever you do is good enough on the basis it has sweet FA to do with them. They have no financial bearing on the situation and therefore have no voting power.

I am not married but have been a close family/friend member to circa 6 weddings in the last two years. All of them have been fraught with stress over attempting to appease everyone.

If I were interested in marriage I'd fly out to Vegas and sod the lot of them (or at least take the ones who matter, who are usually a smaller number than you'd think), I certainly wouldn't entertain the notion of spending £20k so everyone can eat sausage rolls.
 
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