Family wedding dilemma

Steampunk said:
Girlfriend of nine years > cousin.

I wouldn't bother making a big issue off it, just decline the invite. Unless they ask for details, just say they've put you in a difficult position by not inviting your girlfriend, so you've decided not to attend because she's upset to be excluded. They might backpeddle at this point.
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I also wouldn't make a fuss. Weddings are expensive and a line needs to be drawn somewhere.

I would decline and not state a reason.
 
No biggie, they prefer your sisters partner to your partner. There must be a reason, most likely out of your control.

Not sure what they expected though, for the three of you to be there and be like, "Oh, this is weird".

Perhaps it's an elaborate ploy to make you not go, either?

Politely decline and let them know asap that you're not going. An excuse to get out of a wedding? Don't look a gift horse in the mouth!
 
What's the issue go or don't go. A line has to be drawn somewhere for cost and or maximum numbers.
Organising weddings really brings out the worst in people. Especially mother in laws and guests.
 
Hades said:
It depends how close you are to your cousin. It also depends how close your girlfriend and your sister's partner is to them. It's fine having principles and being offended but weddings are expensive and they have to draw the line somewhere. If they know your sister's partner much better than your own girlfriend then that would explain it.
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This.

If they are trying to keep costs down just don't go - that can be your contribution. It does depend how close you are to your cousin.
 
Pretty obvious you can't go now. If they invited your GF last minute then she wouldn't enjoy it anyway and would spend all night wondering why. If you go alone don't expect any favours from the GF for a long time! ;)
 
My fiance was at a close friends wedding this year where she was the bridesmaid, she never got a plus one which I thought was rather strange! Although, in this case, it turns out her friend doesn't like me having only met me once from across the room.

In your case could you both go to the evening ceremony together? If not I'd be tempted to not bother going but I'm not overly close to my cousins where as you may be.
 
Like others have said they probably have to draw a line somewhere for cost. Frankly I think weddings and the like are a waste of money, especially inviting people you have little to do with half the time.

It would also depend on how close your sister's partner (and sister) is to them. It's hardly a big deal and there's better things to get worked up over when they probably don't mean anything by it.
 
I never understand why things like this are an issue.

You're missus isn't invited for whatever reason, really who cares.

Just go the wedding and leave her at home. It's not the end of the world. You don't have to be both invited to every social event.
 
Tell them you'll pay the extra for your partner to attend. If they accept then go along with it, but wait, sorry bro, no wedding present. I though me paying for my partner to be here so we can all be together on this special day WAS the wedding present.
 
Sega Mega Dave said:
I never understand why things like this are an issue.

You're missus isn't invited for whatever reason, really who cares.

Just go the wedding and leave her at home. It's not the end of the world. You don't have to be both invited to every social event.
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Ignore this advice. Obviously has either the most understanding partner in the history of the world or has never had a partner. :p
 
I've been with my partner for 9 years (getting married in Sept) and if a member of my family did not invite my partner to any event, I would refuse to go.
 
We're getting married in a couple of months and recently did something similar. Cousins didn't get +1's. However in our case we've never met the +1's in question, haven't seen the cousins in over a year and aren't even sure on the gender of one of the +1's in question :p

You have to draw the line somewhere, in the end we decided it would be something along the lines of have we (ever) met them, or seen them in the last 2 years. I've not given a +1 to one of my best men's other halfs, but they've only been together a couple of months and I haven't met her. I felt a bit bad when I explained it, but we were specifically trying to avoid this situation of one rule for some people, and another for everyone else.
 
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