Dating multiple women - morality

Tosno said:
You wouldn't understand as you think "Exclusivity is sort of implied when you date someone"
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Jesus you are actually stupid... If you don't think that then you are precisely the sort of person who gives guys a bad name amongst women who are actually worth spending time with...

You are single handedly making me lose faith in humanity...

I'm out of here, as you were... :rolleyes:
 
[FnG]magnolia;29603913 said:
Tosno operates differently from most normal people. I pretend it's parody when I read it although deep down inside I know that it's not and he means it.

He is basically a real life version of reddit.
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As you see magnolia doesn't care for me as I haven't (luckily?) been inside her.
 
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malachi said:
This seems to be a UK/American thing women expect of a man on dates. Many women from other countries will go half on a bill.
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Definitely a US vs. Europe thing. It can be nice if a man offers to pay for a meal, if you definitely like him and (especially) if he doesn't do it in a way that makes you feel like he's doing some magnanimous thing that you should be grateful for. But it can also be extremely aggressive, patronizing and carries some level of expectation with it.

In the US men are very bad about this. In Europe, offering is alright, but make it a friendly offer, not an "I'm the male" thing, or you'll probably offend.
 
Think I'm gonna drop the one I thought have had something with. Great chemistry but she is damn hard work. Says one thing and behaves as if another. I'm not playing her games.
 
Nodiggidy123 said:
Think I'm gonna drop the one I thought have had something with. Great chemistry but she is damn hard work. Says one thing and behaves as if another. I'm not playing her games.
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Sorry to hear that. There may be reasons for it - you don't know what her previous experiences have been like. At least have an honest talk with her before you tell her 'no'. If things are laid out and talked about, maybe you'll understand each other better.
 
Tosno said:
A date should never be hard work, massive red flag, it will only get worse.
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Not true. Such a comment implies it should be a short step from meeting to commitment and / or sex. Many people do not rush these things. And often for the best.
 
h4rm0ny said:
Not true. Such a comment implies it should be a short step from meeting to commitment and / or sex. Many people do not rush these things. And often for the best.
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It's true, it's damn true. It's not a case of rushing, playing games needs to be put down straight away or you will be played and it will be VERY hard work for your sanity.
 
I'm not sure if she's intentionally doing it. When we are together its amazing. But she is hardly forthcoming on the phone. She barely messages me. Short replies. Perhaps I'm expecting to much. I dunno
 
Dude don't stress! You're not doing anything wrong with any of them until you have the exclusivity talk and decide you and one of them want to take things further.

It's pretty common for people to date more than one person outside of a relationship even if it is frowned upon by some. Just see how things go, and if you get some pasty smashing done enjoy yourself.
 
Nodiggidy123 said:
I'm not sure if she's intentionally doing it. When we are together its amazing. But she is hardly forthcoming on the phone. She barely messages me. Short replies. Perhaps I'm expecting to much. I dunno
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If you want to keep the show going, personally I wouldn't, keep messages to a 1:1 ratio, if she barely messages you, you do the same, short replies back to her, do not chase or you lower your value, date other women to forget about her, you should find a better one. You have to gamble to hit the jackpot.
 
XeNoN89 said:
Seeing a few comments about women wanting free meals etc.

Guess i'm the only one who refuses to pay for a dates meal unless i've known them a while.

It's 2016 why should I be expected to pay for a woman's meal? I'm sure they can work and can afford to split the bill.
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malachi said:
This seems to be a UK/American thing women expect of a man on dates. Many women from other countries will go half on a bill.
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It is more of a politeness thing really, if you invite someone to come out for dinner then it is implied.

I mean say you're doing so in the context of business - trying to close a new client, you invite them for dinner - do you expect them to expense their half of the bill to their company? **** no, they're there because you invited them and because you're trying to sell them something.

Same thing in dating really, if you've pursued someone and you invite them to do something with you in order to pursue them further then don't be cheap.
 
Why get so serious so quickly though? Are you ready to get into yet another relationship, only 4 months after separation?

Sow some oats, do all three and have a bit of fun for a bit?

edit: or gain legendary OcUK status by convincing all three to do it with you in a group session :D ? :p
 
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dowie said:
It is more of a politeness thing really, if you invite someone to come out for dinner then it is implied.

I mean say you're doing so in the context of business - trying to close a new client, you invite them for dinner - do you expect them to expense their half of the bill to their company? **** no, they're there because you invited them and because you're trying to sell them something.

Same thing in dating really, if you've pursued someone and you invite them to do something with you in order to pursue them further then don't be cheap.
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The vast majority of the time it's the man inviting the woman out, so you're basically saying the man should always pay?
 
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