Struggling to believe how you paid, I can still remember handing over the cash to a garage which serviced my car close to 10 year ago! Although more recently I now pay on the credit card!
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People have memories of elephants when it suits them, of goldfish when it doesn't in my experience. All the excuses come out but then you start to dig, what did the girlfriend do with the cash, did she say she paid, did you ask. If she didn't why not, surely that would be unexpected if she went to pay and didn't get asked to. Where is the paperwork, a main dealer will always do paperwork. Sorry as I said above, you're trying to play the "I can't remember" and frankly I don't believe you. Not that this should cause you any concern of course, that is what we have a conscience for I guess. If I genuinely didn't know or remember, which frankly would not happen, I certainly wouldn't seek the advice on any forum, I'd do what I felt was the right thing, you know, as my conscience told me.
So you'd be happy to potentially pay for something twice through some misplaced sense of moral superiority?
You didn't give me back that £20 I lent you last week btw...
People have memories of elephants when it suits them, of goldfish when it doesn't in my experience. All the excuses come out but then you start to dig, what did the girlfriend do with the cash, did she say she paid, did you ask. If she didn't why not, surely that would be unexpected if she went to pay and didn't get asked to. Where is the paperwork, a main dealer will always do paperwork. Sorry as I said above, you're trying to play the "I can't remember" and frankly I don't believe you. Not that this should cause you any concern of course, that is what we have a conscience for I guess. If I genuinely didn't know or remember, which frankly would not happen, I certainly wouldn't seek the advice on any forum, I'd do what I felt was the right thing, you know, as my conscience told me.
People have memories of elephants when it suits them, of goldfish when it doesn't in my experience. All the excuses come out but then you start to dig, what did the girlfriend do with the cash, did she say she paid, did you ask. If she didn't why not, surely that would be unexpected if she went to pay and didn't get asked to. Where is the paperwork, a main dealer will always do paperwork. Sorry as I said above, you're trying to play the "I can't remember" and frankly I don't believe you. Not that this should cause you any concern of course, that is what we have a conscience for I guess. If I genuinely didn't know or remember, which frankly would not happen, I certainly wouldn't seek the advice on any forum, I'd do what I felt was the right thing, you know, as my conscience told me.
Bit harsh, sometimes if something isn't a high priority they won't remember.
At my job I'll be on top of a high number of things, some with substantial risk attached. I don't forget things.
But some times after a long day and I'm dawdling in a shop I'll forget the most basic of things because its frankly unimportant.
Paying 150 or whatever to a garage isn't exactly a big deal and frankly I wouldn't be paying attention. Onus is on them frankly...
P.s never met a garage which let's you take the car without payment.
Totally agree.
It's not about forgetting something. It's about wanting to remember. You cant forget something you haven't made a conscious decision to remember.
The memories you are able to recall can be based on your overall attitude and predispositions, personally I think the act of forgetting to pay someone is absolutely abhorrent I wouldn't want it happening to me, therefore I am constantly aware of walking away without settling something I owe and if I ever happen to do that I will want to remember it indefinitely.
Personally, the second I received the keys from the garage and I assumed I am free to leave, I would simply not leave until payment had been discussed. I would have been thinking about it for the whole journey home.
TO the OP, you both seem to have some issues with general awareness and lack of thoughtfulness. Pay the bill and think about changing your general attitude and level of thought, then you will be able to remember anything you want to remember.
It's nothing to do with the cash, I'd suggest 150 quid for me is less of an ordeal than 99.9% of the people on this forum but I would remember if someone had given me 150 quid to specifically pay for something and then not having to do so. It's more about the process outlined by the OP. He gave his girlfriend 150 quid to pay for the motorbike to be serviced. She at no time told him he tells us, that she didn't pay the money over so it's fair to assume from his point of view she did. However if she didn't that would logically be a talking point, even to hand it back as it wasn't needed, or say I will spend it on something else. Seems that never happened and then to forget what you did with that specific 150 quid handed over IS odd no matter how carefree you think you are with money. That is my opinion and I stand by it.![]()
You miss my point....but you know that.