I've asked for a "stay of emotional feelings" until after the baby is born but I've been given Friday as my day of reckoning. Even so she's also trying to force a decision out of me now.
I've broken my life.
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I've asked for a "stay of emotional feelings" until after the baby is born but I've been given Friday as my day of reckoning. Even so she's also trying to force a decision out of me now.
He's already admitted to having an affair and not loving his wife any more. I'd hardly say he can take the moral high ground here.
His wife is pregnant, she's going to be very emotional. The fact she knows her husband has slept with another woman and doesn't love her any more probably doesn't help
My mistake. I assumed with 4 kids and you referring to her as your Mrs in your first post that you were married.
Either way, married or not, her position is not a very nice one to be in.
Ultimatums aren't the answer though, especially for something like this
She sounds like a real catch.
Kids or no, that'd be case closed as far as I would be concerned.
And MIL as a live in with spending money? Fo' reals?
I don't envy your choices.
Some days I'd quite like to be settled with a family; but then I read accounts like these and I'm glad I'm not facing some sort of emotional hobson's choice.
Bad news, being a family man i can relate a bit. But as many have already said, once you have kids its all about them. Romance and all that garbage can wait as it goes out of the window. Its all about being a family and doing family activities.
Pretty obvious who wears the trousers in this relationship 
Whilst it sucks that you no longer love her, you knew what you were getting yourself into after popping out 3 and soon to be 4 bundles of joy. Obviously you can't kick her out whilst she is pregnant, but I also agree that you can't let her continue to live there whilst you are paying for everything, indefinitely. As someone else said, when she finds a new man, it would be difficult to stomach him living there as well etc.
I mean having the MIL there and giving her spending money is just laughable to be honest, so you need to get her out.
But alas, you are in a bad situation no denying it - so good luck
Whilst it sucks that you no longer love her, you knew what you were getting yourself into after popping out 3 and soon to be 4 bundles of joy. Obviously you can't kick her out whilst she is pregnant, but I also agree that you can't let her continue to live there whilst you are paying for everything, indefinitely. As someone else said, when she finds a new man, it would be difficult to stomach him living there as well etc.
I mean having the MIL there and giving her spending money is just laughable to be honest, so you need to get her out.
But alas, you are in a bad situation no denying it - so good luck
Lets be fair to the lady here. the OP has already gone off piste for a while and come back and now wants to go off again - in her position you'd want to know whats going on as well. The OP just needs to be straight make a go of it or not. Making a go of it doesn't mean hes stuck there for life, just means he tries to find a solution.
Probably the biggest decision of your life coming up.....
either way you might be regretting your decision a few months/years down the line
Probably the biggest decision of your life coming up.....
either way you might be regretting your decision a few months/years down the line
You already know what to do. Make preparations to begin your own life while being there for the kids. Otherwise this situation will only repeat itself ad nauseum.
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I've reported this to the Mods.
Linking to a song where the singer shot himself in the head - you ought to be ashamed.
I have linked to many songs in this thread, I had no idea he shot himself in the head, who are we talking about Peter Cetera?
edit: Peter Cetera is alive and well you fool, he is 72 years of age living a happy life, here is his web site, get your facts right before reporting anything next time
http://petercetera.com/
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source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/If_You_Leave_Me_Now
I actually thought I had you on ignore, now you are.
and I called you a fool, because you are, you report a post to mods, wasting their time on the assumption that what I done was intentional based on your false understanding of the situation, it was a very foolish thing to do, and now you know it as well.
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He was the co lead singer, look it up.
I was a massive fan back in the day.
You are sick linking to a song like that, you need to apologise.
Please don't put me on ignore, I want to see your stupid video links
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This is so confusing I really don't think anyone can make a judgement on it.
OP could be majorly in the wrong, so could wife, likely a share of both with problems building and not being sorted.
Time apart imo is what's essential, and for the OP to sort himself out while supporting the kids.
It sounds like a toxic relationship at best.
As for all the logistics and money.. As long as the kids are supported by op that's main thing. But the overall sticky mess? Haven't a clue on that
see above, written and sung by Peter Cetera,
Line-up
Peter Cetera - lead & backing vocals
Terry Kath - twelve-string acoustic guitar
Robert Lamm - Fender Rhodes electric piano
Danny Seraphine - drums
Laudir de Oliveira - congas, shakers, finger cymbals, wind chimes
Jimmy Pankow - trombone
Lee Loughnane - trumpet
Walt Parazaider - French horn
now you will be telling me that I should have known the guy that played 12 string acoustic guitar in a band that had a hit with this song shot himself in the head?
I will apoligise for nothing as I have done nothing wrong.
pleeaase.
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I'm winding you up because of your stupid video links that nobody is laughing at.
Get a life.
This is what I thought he should have been apologising for tbh...
Set to ignore I guess is easier.