Go to your privacy opttions and disable last seen and read rexiptes.
It blocks it for you too ao now you wont see if shes online
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Go to your privacy opttions and disable last seen and read rexiptes.
It blocks it for you too ao now you wont see if shes online
If you really over think this much try just leaving your phone on aeroplane mode so you don't know. Worst thing is to appear desperate. If you find yourself at the point of writing anything like 'why have you not replied' then re read it back to yourself later and see what you think.
Occupy yourself with anything else. Anything at all
Like copious amounts of porn. Lots and lots of porn
This
Thanks, I'm doing what I can to avoid discussing anything else with her.
To add to the confusion, she turned up at my flat at 3am Friday night unannounced after a work night out.
Thanks, I'm doing what I can to avoid discussing anything else with her.
To add to the confusion, she turned up at my flat at 3am Friday night unannounced after a work night out.
Did she at least offer to share her kebab? (Take that sentence in whichever way you wish)
Sadly even that hasn't worked!
We had a really good chat last night, she said that nothing has changed between us and that she's just really stressed with work (she's been working 80 hours plus a week), so I'm hopeful that we're all good. I'm still concerned though, she just doesn't sound excited about coming over and seeing me next week. But then, that could easily be because she's surviving on four hours of sleep a night, and nothing much is exciting her at present. I guess I'll find out whether that's the case in a few days!
Would you be able to muster a great deal of excitement after smashing 80+ hour weeks? You could tell me I'd won the lottery and I still wouldn't sound like I gave a ****.
Honestly, expecting anything after 80 hours a week is madness.
Forget sex while she's is so tired. I don't know what your relationship is as I've not really read through the previous pages, but I'd be offering a meal, a bath and bed if it was my missus, maybe sofa cuddles and sleep. She'll appreciate that a lot more than anything and it shows you care more than just sex.
Forget sex while she's is so tired. I don't know what your relationship is as I've not really read through the previous pages, but I'd be offering a meal, a bath and bed if it was my missus, maybe sofa cuddles and sleep. She'll appreciate that a lot more than anything and it shows you care more than just sex.
She lives in Dubai, home for a week every month (which she'll also have off from work), hence my concern about her slight lack of excitement.
You guys are both totally right, expecting her to sound excited when she's exhausted is absurd, and logically I know this, I'm just struggling with the long distance thing and finding it really hard to get a read on where we are. When we're together it's amazing and worth the time apart, but I'm not finding it easy.
Edit: And if I won the lottery after an 80 hour week, I'd be pretty chuffed about not having to return to work the following week!
Not ideal then, but when she's back, just make her nice and relaxed, food, films, sofa, wine and chill out. hitting on women doesn't always work, but make them feel cared for, loved and relaxed and you stand more chance of her initiating something 
As for Whatsapp, I use it online in the browser so it always looks like I am available even when I'm not, so don't worry about it
As for Whatsapp, I use it online in the browser so it always looks like I am available even when I'm not, so don't worry about it
Not ideal then, but when she's back, just make her nice and relaxed, food, films, sofa, wine and chill out. hitting on women doesn't always work, but make them feel cared for, loved and relaxed and you stand more chance of her initiating something
As for Whatsapp, I use it online in the browser so it always looks like I am available even when I'm not, so don't worry about it
Yeah I know, that's the plan - we've already agreed on a "bed day" together. Like I say, logically speaking, everything seems fine. It's just that her communication has changed a lot in the last couple of weeks (which has coincided with her job becoming much more stressful, so is understandable) and I'm not coping well.
I'm reasonably happy that when we're together it will be great fun, I'm just finding it hard to avoid saying something stupid to her over Whatsapp because I can't stop worrying...mostly, I just need to vent on here rather than to her!
So would I but you wouldn't be able to tell until I'd had a few days sleep
I think I could temporarily get over my tiredness!
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Sorry, but if a girl is not like "cant wait to see you etc etc" then its done.
Doesnt matter on the "circumstances" or whatever "justifications" people may use... listen to this....
"im tired", "im working so hard" blah blah... its just excuses. If she is not as excited to see you as you are to see her, only one thing is ever going to happen here
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Again, women pick up on this nonsense. She will be thinking "oh jeesus, whats wrong with this needy, clingy, insecure guy..." and her attraction WILL drop.
Whats wrong with, "hey baby, miss you, message me when you are back and we will have a great time" and leave it there....
This walking on eggshells act incase you do something stupid to upset her is ludicrous, shes not a special princess, and the more you tread on eggshells and the more you elevate her as being so super special, sorry, but the more she will lose respect for you and attraction for you.
PLEASE for the love of GOD visit Coach Corey Wayne on Youtube and fix this before its too late!!!
PS Having "chats" about things is for the gay friend, not for the lover/boyfriend. JesusW. Is there estrogen in the water now?!
The fact you are "not coping well" with a change in communication shows you are becoming totally unglued and needy.
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