Anxiety/worrying
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Things for me are pretty bad at the minute, both depression wise and anxiety.
I'm not sure why but on Thursday/Friday in work I was physically shaking all day and couldn't seem to relax or stop the shakes.
At home it was OK, and weekend OK.
Back to work this morning and shaking again.
I'm not sure why but on Thursday/Friday in work I was physically shaking all day and couldn't seem to relax or stop the shakes.
At home it was OK, and weekend OK.
Back to work this morning and shaking again.
i had this very bad when i was younger .ended up on beta blockers for the physical symptoms .
feel calm and almost surreal now ,a bit melencholy now and again
think being in crowded west yorkshire ,surrounded by negative small minded people didnt help.
feel calm and almost surreal now ,a bit melencholy now and again
think being in crowded west yorkshire ,surrounded by negative small minded people didnt help.
Is it not your job that's causing it?
Just sounds like you're anxious over work. Also, do you hit it hard at the weekend with drink or drugs?
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I have a great job - decent pay, decent work generally, a few issues do make me anxious which I won't go into here. I'm not "stressed" because of workload, I really am not overworked. It's entirely psychological I think.
I do actually hit it hard with drink. I really enjoy it as I go out to the pub before football, watch a game on TV and then go to the actual game. Then after I stay out for a while. I know I drink too much.
I think it may be... but there's no real issues with it. It's just something that has developed in my head. An association... work = anxiety, certain people, the environment, conversations, it's just built up in my head for some reason.
Wow mate, I had no idea. I've not actually seen you for something like 15 years, but if I remember rightly you seemed reasonably normal at the time
Must be hugely difficult to deal with, for both you and those around you.
Maybe hitting it hard at the weekend gives you a come down in the week?
I was given beta blockers but it had me near enough bedridden with lack of energy within 3 days. Doctor said that I had one of the worst reactions to beta blockers he's ever seen.
I remember sleeping an entire night - about 11 hours and had an 6 hour 'nap' the same afternoon. Had to come off that stuff right away.
Try reading about mindfulness, this book has been recommended to me https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mindfulnes...541600&sr=8-1&keywords=mindfulness+in+8+weeks
haven't received it yet but I'll let you know how it is.
haven't received it yet but I'll let you know how it is.
Blimey I've been having this the last week or so, with me it's a combination of things.
Number one, I do have a mental health condition, but with medication and normal levels of pressure I am fine, but recently a few things have cropped up and then it doesn't take much to trigger the extreme anxiety.
I seem to have a capacity to withstand concerns until things become too much, it kind of escalates quickly with me, from appearing normal to go over the edge.
I used to have that shopping type anxiety disorder, it took me hours to build enough courage to get a pint of milk and a packet of fags.
Am not sure looking back on what the anxiety was, but in hindsight it was all my own head and nothing to worry about.
I still suffer when at social gatherings as I never seem to know what to do or say. But a few drinks down my neck and am off embarrassing my missus and close friends.
Day to day activities especially looking after young ones, trust me F`em!
You child's upbringing is more important than anything anyone could say, do or think about you.
You need to sort it asap, as your child grows older and school requires you to participate in parents evenings, school plays and other stuff if you anxious its not going to help.
I don't speak to anyone when picking my daughter up form school as I have nothing to say. I let on to a few of her friends parents but if one comes over and starts chatting, I get anxious and never know what to say.
Its the point of if I don't care, I don't care what they have to say.
Have you ever sat in the house repeating over and over to yourself what you are going to say to someone and then when you actually see them you say the total opposite.
Most of life is just fluff and chit chat about absolutely nothing, no purpose, no meaning and certainly no enlightenment.
Deal with your demons for your childs sake.
Weird how people find different things intimidating.
I mean, you seem to have really bad anxiety yet you manged (obviously) to find a girl and father a son.
OTOH, I can happily go outside and go shopping, but I'll be damned if I could ever find my way into any kind of adult relationship. Or any relationship.
My anxiety is people. I don't understand them. I can't talk to them. I'm always ****ing people off and getting bad reactions from them. I'm 36 and I can't look anyone in the eye.
My extreme people anxiety means most people think I'm hostile, or disinterested, or just plain boring. I can't keep a conversation going for more than 30 seconds. Awkward silence every time.
But I can leave the house, go shopping, take the nephew to a football game. No problem. Just as long as I don't have to talk to a stranger. If anyone engages me in conversation I'm just a total wreck.
/le sigh
When was the last time you looked at the side effects of your meds? One seriously overlooked fact is they could be causing your anxiety.
Check every thing, contraceptives, daily aspirin, etc, if anxiety is a side effect then you might want to talk to your doctor about slowly coming off them.
Western medicine really messes with your serotonin levels.
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Same, doesn't bother me having people touch me but barbers and I'm shaking like a dog having my hair cut
For me my anxiety always seems to be related to times I have to sit still, work wise I'm under massive pressure most of the time and relish in it because thats when I work my best.
Put me on a classroom course and I'm shaking again, absolutely hate feeling useless sat there doing nothing.
Never get it in my time off, it's like a switch goes 'work,100% or nothing'.
Only thing I can put it down to is anxiety but cant go to the docs cos of my job, bit of a catch 22
Same, doesn't bother me having people touch me but barbers and I'm shaking like a dog having my hair cut
For me my anxiety always seems to be related to times I have to sit still, work wise I'm under massive pressure most of the time and relish in it because thats when I work my best.
Put me on a classroom course and I'm shaking again, absolutely hate feeling useless sat there doing nothing.
Never get it in my time off, it's like a switch goes 'work,100% or nothing'.
Only thing I can put it down to is anxiety but cant go to the docs cos of my job, bit of a catch 22
My thing with the barbers is sitting there looking at yourself for 20+minutes with nothing to say or do. Its like a form of incarceration, or helplessness.
I think thats what it is, the sensation of being unable to help yourself from the current situation, which brings on fear and anxiety.
I have overcome most of my anxiety's, but still have a few in my closet, like hand writing, social occasions, hair cuts etc.
But I have culled a good few to make me feel confident enough to say "F`em" to everything that I think will make me anxious.