In other words - don't treat the opposite sex like they're the enemy and you're going to war
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oh ok
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oh ok
*sheaths sword*
...wait!?
From what we've seen of your package it'll be like going to war, to hear the lamentations of their women.
Of course if you love the blue pill you will hate the red pill, just as a rich man would hate God, lol could you imagine JC and Soros hanging out?
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Of course if you love the blue pill you will hate the red pill, just as a rich man would hate God, lol could you imagine JC and Soros hanging out?You understand that none of those words fit together, don't you?
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Red pill, blue pill, alpha, beta.... Any one who thinks people can be defined or live by such simple ideas are very misguided imo. People aren’t so easily defined.
Screw all that junk. Worry about having your own life in order. Get that sorted and getting girls just happens.
Screw all that junk. Worry about having your own life in order. Get that sorted and getting girls just happens.
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Perhaps it does not 'just happen' and we do not arrive as perfectly blank and infinite slates into the world full of possibility, but you'll have a better shot at a stable relationship from a secure position in life than an unstable wreck on bro-science, badly presented undergrad biology and evolutionary psychology titbits fond of mice experiments, minus context and caveats.
just coming up to my wedding any my missus has had a major flip out. Nothing I can say or do makes her feel better. It's got so bad that I am not sleeping. doesn't help I am going for major dentist stuff on Monday. Jesus this has put me at my limit! not happy, not in a good place.
Have you spoken to her?
yeah, I have tried. She is diagnosed bipolar so I am used to swings but lately it's almost impossible. I am venting, no one here can help, I doubt.
Obviously the decision is yours. But for many people their marriage gets harder as the years go by. It sounds like you are starting from a low point. Once the stresses of marriage and life kick in then will it make it any better than it is now? The financial and emotional risks of marriage can be huge. But most people at least start from a good place.
Please think very carefully about marriage and especially carefully before having children shortly after.
My fiancé is someone I have been friends for 14 years. WE have been an item for 5.5 years. She has very big lows and very extreme highs. Ive been to counseling to understand her at each end and I get it. I don't ever doubt she is the one but when she is like she is now for long periods it is hard. She is bordering on suicidal but I know it will pass as long as I am with her. I am venting here. She is the most caring person I have ever known and she also puts up with me.I have never proposed to anyone before and since last year she has grown and grown. Sure I have reservations to be with someone easy and dare, I say, normal. but she is the one to me. It's hard to explain, especially to my family who I have told about her.
I may be starting the marriage from a low point. I think I can deal with that. I just need to vent sometimes.
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That's a big call to make. Someone more clever than me once said that you can't fix broken; you can support it, sustain it, accommodate it, but you won't fix it.
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Áre you sure? Because ...
Tone said:
... sounds like a difficult point to start from. Even good marriages are really, really hard work. I'd imagine starting from a less than equal footing to be tremendously hard but I won't push it. Marriage is a big deal and people are a big deal, too.
fair points guys.
It will be hard, we have had harder things to go through. I will continue on the road. Ive had it hard most of my life, as had she. I really hope it will all work out. Bipolar is hard to work with as it is very unpredictable . I hope we work it out. doesnt help we were at a very hard wedding last week which was hard due to the fact that we were making the wedding happen... I think it might have been the catalyst for the current situation. I totally lost my **** at the airport with her after she shouted at me for asking where the hire papers were. Seems to have settled her a bit.
It will be hard, we have had harder things to go through. I will continue on the road. Ive had it hard most of my life, as had she. I really hope it will all work out. Bipolar is hard to work with as it is very unpredictable . I hope we work it out. doesnt help we were at a very hard wedding last week which was hard due to the fact that we were making the wedding happen... I think it might have been the catalyst for the current situation. I totally lost my **** at the airport with her after she shouted at me for asking where the hire papers were. Seems to have settled her a bit.