This isn't a reply to you specifically RDM, but your post makes an excellent leaping off point for something I want to say.
A lot of those criticising us keep focusing on whether Nazis are "equally bad" as Antifa. And they want us to say this is false - that Nazis are far worse. They see people equating these two groups and it angers them because they of course consider Nazis to be far worse. But the reason for the resistance to just nod and agree with them isn't to do with relative morality of Nazis and Antifa. It's because we don't see it as a question of who is most evil. We see it as a question of who is dangerous. And frankly, 250 protestors (estimate I found for those showing up for Unite The Right), some disproportionately photographed faction of which are Nazis, don't scare me much. Such people are a tiny minority in the USA and the UK. Worth keeping an eye on but realistically, I don't feel much threatened by such people. There always have been and always will be idiots and fringe political groups. Conversely I DO feel threatened by Antifa and all those aligned with them who want to shut down free speech, criminalise beliefs, smash down the existing power structures in favour of one governed by their values, etc. The number of such people is very large and they have a disproportionate effect relative to their numbers on public policy, on law-making and on one's actual life. They are the ones who get people fired for their beliefs, set fire to university campuses, prevent people from speaking in public, and more.
So all those who keep demanding: "Say Nazis are worse, say Nazis are worse!" wont get what they want. It's not because ethically people don't think they're worse. It's because we're saying in practical effect, we don't think they're worse. Or at least that we think they're just the same.
It's not a moral question. It's a practical one. And if it's a practical one then two groups who both want to bring violence are the same. You can keep demanding moral answers, but you're asking it of practical people.