can i get a disciplinary for this?

Philz0r

Philz0r

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so, me and a co-worker have bad blood between us from 2014, I moved position in my employment and never needed to see him for almost 4 years.

I have been placed on light duties and its working this this co-worker.

over the past 4 weeks we have seemed to push past behaviour behind us and kept things peaceful.

I heard last week from another colleague that "he has been slagging you off", I tried to push for more information but didn't give me any.


now I confronted the co-worker, I wasn't threating or aggressive, "so I hear you've been slagging me off?"

he instantly said "who has been telling you that?"


I told him "how many people have you been saying it to?, it stops now, I thought things were going fine between us then I hear about this?"

he replies "things have been going fine, but I want to know who's been saying this so I can defend myself"

I said "we'll ill give you the benefit of the doubt but I hope I don't hear any more"



now later that day he was nice as nice to me and I was a bit on edge with him but thought that was it.






now, today my supervisor pulled me and is asking me for the details, I mention the above, he is pushing me for the name of the person who told me, i'm refusing to give it as it will just cause a huge storm at work I quite frankly don't want any part of.

he is threatening me with a disciplinary if I don't give up the name.


I have a meeting with the manager over it tomorrow. I don't intend to give up his name either way as I would rather have a disciplinary then be known as a whistleblower.
 
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Bring the whole house down.

Also seems you guys have some feelings for each other.
 
Why would you care that he is slagging you off?

I think, from your story, you took the correct approach.

Step 1. Raise the issue with the person themselves in a polite and constructive manor.
Step 2. If nothing changes or improves, raise it informally with a superior (or HR) to make them aware of it.
Step 3. Take advice from HR on how to proceed.

However, some companies can get awfully bitchy and not play by the rules. I would hold your tongue, keep you head and steer every conversation with anyone round to your work. Keep it professional, side step every personal comment or challenge, including or especially from managers and HR.
 
'For 'work' do you mean 'school' 'supervisor' teacher and 'manager' headmaster?
Bluff it out, it gets better when you leave and enter the grown up world.
 
So you've made an unspecific accusation towards him and he probably wants to know what the accusation is and who made it originally and you've not told him. So rather than play games he's gone straight to the boss presumably to cover himself and quite rightly he wants to know still what he's being accused of.
 
It'll be an informal meeting. There's no was you'll be taken to a disciplinary for "not saying who told you that you were being slagged off".

If that's what your manager told you then it's wrong. This sounds like the person you have bad blood with is chummy with the manager and you're on the periphery. Just front them out professionally and it'll come to nothing .
 
billysielu said:
So when someone says "he's been slagging you off", you say "whatever".

Problem solved.

Unless you're 12, then throw your tamagotchi at him.
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This, or approach him outside of work then just pleed ignorant to management. But not sure why you'd care. Probably loads of people who bitch behind your back, I can guarantee people do it about me.
 
It's a work place, not a school. Who gives a **** what they say about you, you're being paid to be there and get a job done. Get it done and stop being so sensitive and ignore him? Being petty is going to get you in more trouble than he's going to get into.

If I was that manager I'd give you a disciplinary simply because you're causing drama in the work place on the basis of rumors and gossip.
 
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