can i get a disciplinary for this?

[5punk3monk3y]

so, me and a co-worker have bad blood between us from 2014, I moved position in my employment and never needed to see him for almost 4 years.

Were you moved at the time due to your work ethic against your colleague/colleagues?

I have been placed on light duties and its working this this co-worker.

Is this because you are difficult to work with?

over the past 4 weeks we have seemed to push past behaviour behind us and kept things peaceful.

I heard last week from another colleague that "he has been slagging you off", I tried to push for more information but didn't give me any.

Is this other colleague also aware of the above and therefore just simply set the catalyst?

now I confronted the co-worker, I wasn't threating or aggressive, "so I hear you've been slagging me off?"

he instantly said "who has been telling you that?"

I told him "how many people have you been saying it to?, it stops now, I thought things were going fine between us then I hear about this?"

I'm sorry but this in any situation is simply not acceptable and to be frank I hope that your workplace is aware that you have posted this thread.

he replies "things have been going fine, but I want to know who's been saying this so I can defend myself"

I said "we'll ill give you the benefit of the doubt but I hope I don't hear any more"

now later that day he was nice as nice to me and I was a bit on edge with him but thought that was it.

Your colleague probably had no idea what you were talking about and to be frank probably just wished that he was in another department or that the end of the work day would come sooner simply to get away from you.

now, today my supervisor pulled me and is asking me for the details, I mention the above, he is pushing me for the name of the person who told me, i'm refusing to give it as it will just cause a huge storm at work I quite frankly don't want any part of.

he is threatening me with a disciplinary if I don't give up the name.

I have a meeting with the manager over it tomorrow. I don't intend to give up his name either way as I would rather have a disciplinary then be known as a whistleblower.

You mention that you don't want to be part of it, however you are the cause of it all and quite rightly your manager has come to you to get to the bottom of this.

This is appalling behavior in a work place, to be honest if I was your manager I would be looking for reasons to insta-dismiss you as I certainly don't need nor care for tit for tat in my workplace.

 

[Smokey Deza]

lol gay. Get a room and bum it out.

Haha

Like everyone here OP, #notbotherred is your stance.

My boss slags me off all the time and when people tell me I just smile and say, "Yes, she likes to talk about me"

 

[Shocky-FM]

You can pretty much guarantee this goes on in all workplaces, not sure why you felt so strongly about it really.

If some people knew half the stuff said about them behind their back they would probably freak out and have nervous breakdown or something.

It's not worth the hassle.

However with regards to not giving up a name, have you spoken the guy who told you this and asked him if it's ok to mention his name?

 

[nicktay2605]

Workplace gossip is so juvenile, just shrug your shoulders and forget it, who cares if a colleague doesn't like you or is talking about you behind your back? It only becomes a problem if someone is going out of their way to get you in trouble with management or they're interfering with your ability to do your job.

 

[booyaka]

What I’d do is grow up.

this! Get on with your job and forget about a grudge/bad blood from 4 years ago - move on with your life for god sake.

Sounds like your back in the playground at school, not in a professional work place

 

[GreenMint]

So who did tell him? I bet it was Kevin wasn't it? Damnit Kevin!

 

[Philz0r]

just an update, seen manager this morning. told him basically what I wrote in OP, he pushed for me to name the person but I refused on the grounds that it will just spiral this out of control further. he wasn't too happy that I wouldn't name names but ended the meeting.

later in the day, seen manager again and he told me that grudges need to be left in the past and to move on.

nothing more should come of it.

I totally agree this was school yard behaviour, in future I will just ignore and get on with life.

 

[doodah]

Lesson learned, time to move on

 

[LOAM]

And the room, have you booked it?

 

[Deleted member 77746]

There is nothing worse than bitching at work. I go in and get on with what I have to do. Not got time for bitching.

 

[agnes]

just an update, seen manager this morning. told him basically what I wrote in OP, he pushed for me to name the person but I refused on the grounds that it will just spiral this out of control further. he wasn't too happy that I wouldn't name names but ended the meeting.

later in the day, seen manager again and he told me that grudges need to be left in the past and to move on.

nothing more should come of it.

I totally agree this was school yard behaviour, in future I will just ignore and get on with life.

And take this as a personal lesson. Grudges don't work in a work place. Nor does petty gossip. People are childish and bored and will actively cause gossip/drama for their own childish fantasies. You can't get offended if someone is 'apparently' talking behind your back. Assume someone is always talking **** about you and just get on with it.

Your manage will likely be looking for an excuse now to either get you out the door or continue down the disciplinary (basically getting you out the door anyway). Don't use public forums to vent about work. They are public, your work place may have someone seeing this and report it to HR....

"but its a small geeks forum"... With thousands upon thousands of views per day, you'd be shocked at the amount of people that watch these forums.

 

[Gypo]

OCUK get's worse!!

**** like this belongs on the playground.

 

[m4rmite]

The General Manage at my work is a useless sack of carp who butt licks the directors, he knows this as 99% of the workforce have also told him.
So no one needs to go behind his back as it gets said to his face, not very professional but when you hear "i'm new bear with me" after 7 years in the job it does pee people off.

As has been said - keep turning up for work and doing your job, then your manager has no need to pursue anything.

 

[mrk]

Should probably have just stood and banged.

 

[FortuitousFluke]

just an update, seen manager this morning. told him basically what I wrote in OP, he pushed for me to name the person but I refused on the grounds that it will just spiral this out of control further. he wasn't too happy that I wouldn't name names but ended the meeting.

later in the day, seen manager again and he told me that grudges need to be left in the past and to move on.

nothing more should come of it.

I totally agree this was school yard behaviour, in future I will just ignore and get on with life.

Yes, Yes, nobody cares. How was the sex?

 

[Skidder]

Yes, Yes, nobody cares. How was the sex?

Rough at first, but oh so tender by the jester's shoes.

 

[IvanDobskey]

Too much of this stuff goes on at work. People just need to get on with what they are paid to do. Leave this petty stuff back in the school yard.

Good to hear the OP has realised this and is moving on.

 

[SexyGreyFox]

Too much of this stuff goes on at work. People just need to get on with what they are paid to do. Leave this petty stuff back in the school yard.

Depends on what is going on.
I've had 12 months of hell with an idiot sitting next to me that has also affected the whole team (and all the people in the building, around 100) but our concerns fell on deaf ears.
It was only in January I ended up having a breakdown, they took it serious so put him on a capability study and he goes on June 1st.
You would have thought he would have pulled his finger out but he got worse for his study:
eg a job that took me 90 minutes took him 3 days, a very simple job that takes 1 minute took him 80 minutes and so on.
How does he affect 100 people? - easy, he traps them in the kitchen or printing room by talking about exactly the same thing he has spoken to them every day. It's bad when you see people walk up to the printing room, look in and then turn back until he's not there.
June 1st can't come quick enough.

 

[Johno please?]

so, me and a co-worker have bad blood between us from 2014, I moved position in my employment and never needed to see him for almost 4 years


now I confronted the co-worker, I wasn't threating or aggressive, "so I hear you've been slagging me off?"

he instantly said "who has been telling you that?"

i'm refusing to give it as it will just cause a huge storm at work I quite frankly don't want any part of.

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How old are you? Jesus, do people actually care if someone is "slagging them off" its like high school level of patheticness.

So you dont want to say who said what, but youre happy to start a little drama because your ego might be hurt? Logic.

 

[Chojin]

Depends on what is going on.
I've had 12 months of hell with an idiot sitting next to me that has also affected the whole team (and all the people in the building, around 100) but our concerns fell on deaf ears.
It was only in January I ended up having a breakdown, they took it serious so put him on a capability study and he goes on June 1st.
You would have thought he would have pulled his finger out but he got worse for his study:
eg a job that took me 90 minutes took him 3 days, a very simple job that takes 1 minute took him 80 minutes and so on.
How does he affect 100 people? - easy, he traps them in the kitchen or printing room by talking about exactly the same thing he has spoken to them every day. It's bad when you see people walk up to the printing room, look in and then turn back until he's not there.
June 1st can't come quick enough.

I'm working with a guy who sounds just like that. When I stand up from my desk he looks around to see which direction I'm going in. If I go into the kitchen, he will follow me there. A short conversation doesn't exist with him and involves him droning on about the same thing everytime. I've done some statistics and he's the worst performer on our team, so going to pass that on during the appraisal feedback in the summer.