Not really, there is no such thing as God, it's just a nice traditional building, we'd have still got married there even if all religion had been disbanded years ago.
Church Wedding (for non church goers)
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Not really, there is no such thing as God, it's just a nice traditional building, we'd have still got married there even if all religion had been disbanded years ago.
If you cant tell the difference between a church and a hall or a pub then there's no helping you. If you can then you'd know why people would want to get married in a church
Because they're christians.
That's it. The difference between a church and another building is that a church is a christian building. That's it. Everything else is just a matter of decorations.
But then it wouldn't have been a church. Then it would have been "just a nice traditional building". But it wasn't. It was a church.
I would like religion to not exist. I think it's very harmful. But I wouldn't go out of my way to be so insulting to theists that I would treat their sacred sites as "just a nice traditional building" where I could ape their holy rituals for my own entertainment.
If I wanted a traditional wedding in a traditional place that was very romantic, my first choice would be an old smithy in Gretna Green. If I had vast amounts of money to waste on playing dress-up and throwing a party for other people to display my wealth and I wanted to use my wedding for those purposes in a traditional way, I'd use a castle and host a feast in a hall afterwards, probably full on high medieval style, maybe Tudor style. If I just wanted to get married, I'd get married. That costs a couple of hundred quid and 10 minutes at a registry office - that's the wedding. The rest is just playing dress-up and throwing a party for other people.
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I'm very happy that I got married. Before now, as far as the law etc. was concerned we were only in a semi-committed relationship. Now we're recognised as a couple in the eyes of the law and, I guess, of the world. That commitment and recognition was important to me.
If the civil partnership way of doing things had been better established when we decided to get married, I think I would have preferred that route, but I like calling my wife my wife so I don't know how that would work in a civil partnership. The announcement for civil partnerships was made about a month before we actually got married, as far as I remember.
Good enough reason for you, @stockhausen??
If the civil partnership way of doing things had been better established when we decided to get married, I think I would have preferred that route, but I like calling my wife my wife so I don't know how that would work in a civil partnership. The announcement for civil partnerships was made about a month before we actually got married, as far as I remember.
Good enough reason for you, @stockhausen??
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Yeah I never got the point either. I have a friend who is staunchly anti religious and then got married in one
Its called being a coward, they dont want to risk upsetting the in laws, when really its them who should be respecting your beliefs seeing as youre the one getting married.
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Lol.
I’d agree with that, although with my first marriage, in 1961, I can’t remember how it went, one minute I was a regular 20 y.o. guy, raining kisses on my inamorata’s lips, and walking home, still with an erection that took a couple of miles to subside, even in pouring rain or ice and snow, next minute I was a 21 y.o. husband, Christ knows who organised the cars, flowers, hall for the reception, and everything, although I vaguely recall buying her wedding ring at a jeweller in Deptford.
My next long term involvement, after having quite rightly been divorced nine years later, lasted eight years, with her occasionally hinting that her Catholic parents would like us to get married, but with me trotting out the old saw about, “who needs a piece of paper? We love one another, don’t we?” Then one day I came home to a house full of furniture, but no common-law wife.
Plunging in for definitely the last time, in my mid fifties, I realised what a dog’s breakfast it would be for her if I cashed in my chips without marrying, sorting out my divorced parents affairs after they died alerted me to that, and at nineteen years my wife’s senior, it was a million that I’d go first.
So once and for all, I’m a happily married man, again..........
My folks are church goers and they run this wedding "workshop" once a year for couples getting married at the church on a Saturday morning for around 1-2 hours.
I'm not saying yours will be like this, but they don't involve religion in it at all but focus more on why you're getting married, how well you know your partner, plans for the future etc - a more practical approach.
I'd suggest going in with an open approach, you may find it useful.
I'm not saying yours will be like this, but they don't involve religion in it at all but focus more on why you're getting married, how well you know your partner, plans for the future etc - a more practical approach.
I'd suggest going in with an open approach, you may find it useful.
Which version of Christianity is it out of interest?
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To summarise, your marriage was primarily to address concerns about recognition by the law; this would have been perfectly satisfied by a Registry Office Wedding.
You like calling your wife your wife; not being married shouldn't change that, call her whatever you fancy. You were concerned that you may not have shown adequate commitment to your relationship - so be it, Good Luck.
You have made a personal choice, in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of some undefined "others". Whether or not it satisfies me is neither here nor there. A Registry Office wedding and now a Civil Partnership would have sufficed to satisfy your need for legal recognition; for the rest, a humongous (or discreet) party would have sufficed.
(General) case not proven.
The number of clearly non religious people who never attend church but get married in one will then probably get their kids christened as well. It's ludicrous and all down to brainwashing when young so they presume it's the right thing to do.
We recently went to a funeral of a relative who had not attended church since their wedding 60 years ago but still went to the ludicrous expense of a church burial
We recently went to a funeral of a relative who had not attended church since their wedding 60 years ago but still went to the ludicrous expense of a church burial
lol at those denouncing marriage. 5 years on for me and absolutely the best time of my life and something I think about constantly.
Didn't get married in a church, I love churches though and would have had no problem if the wife had wanted to.
I'm pretty much an Christian atheist, I understand and respect the fact the Christian church played a large part in forming the modern Western society but do not believe in the supernatural aspects.
Didn't get married in a church, I love churches though and would have had no problem if the wife had wanted to.
I'm pretty much an Christian atheist, I understand and respect the fact the Christian church played a large part in forming the modern Western society but do not believe in the supernatural aspects.
The root of the modern English and middle English word "wife" is the Old English compound word "wifman", which literally means "female person" and also became the middle and modern English word "woman". So "my wife" is pretty much "my woman". "wife" doesn't directly connect with marriage and in the past was often used in other contexts, simply as a shorter form of "wifman" and later "woman". So, for example, in the past an alewife was a woman who brewed ale (strongly implying that she did so commercially, not just for her family), a fishwife was a woman who sold fish (and maybe went fishing, but the usual context was selling fish). Etc.