Do you ever feel your kids rule you?

Don't get into slanging matches, just ignore her. Also set a routine for the evening, wire it on a piece of paper and such it on the wall of you have to. We've done that for our kids and they know that it's TV off at 630, upstairs by 7, in bed by 730.
 
My son is only two so I don't have much experience with older kids, but my wife and I have decided that the boy will not have access to electronic devices until much older.

My wife is a teacher and found out on a course recently that by the age of 10 about 30% of kids have experienced some form of inappropriate sexual contact (grooming, **** picks, request for nudes etc) online. Mobiles/online also cause her an unbelievable amount of hassle at school and my experience on 20 somethings at university is that most are phone zombies/addicts with pathetic attention spans.

Do yourself and family a favour, get rid of electronic devices and don't even use you phone in your daughters presence. It'll be hard for a time but she'll soon adjust. Make sure your daughter gets more sleep as this effects her behaviour, you'll find getting rid of screens will help with this too.
 
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Guess i just want to know if anybody else has these family crisis moments and how they deal with them in under 5mins
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Our daughter is the exact same, I genuinely feel your pain.

Unfortunately, you've asked for advice here and if it doesn't involve resetting her CMOS or lowering her vcore then the majority of these judgemental virgins will be no help whatsoever.

I'm busy right now, but will try to post later. :)
 
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Yes this is somewhat true. We get dragged into 10-20min discussions on why she shouldn't be doing what she is doing. Before you know its midnight and shes fast asleep. Rinse and repeat the next night.
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There shouldn't be any discussions at all. It's a no from you and that's that. Your house your rules and that's the end of it
 
In the morning tell her “from tonight it’s no YouTube from xxx and bed at xxxx time” having agreed the times between you. Then stick to it.

We’ve got 4 kids between us between 5 and 13. It’s all about planning, clear communication and sticking to the plan. And NO NEGOTIATIONS WITH THE CHILD.
 
Always present a united front.
Never disagree infront of the kids and if in doubt, ask the child what the other parent said before answering.

We live by this. Kids need boundaries and consistency to allow them to feel secure and of course they will push them now and again, but it's how you deal with those situations as a pair that defines the success of the childs response. Therefore they learn that kicking up a fuss gets them nowhere other than punished.

My wife set us down this route and it's worked up to now. 3 and 6 at the moment. Hopefully it continues this way :D

Good luck, I hope you find something that works for you as a family.
 
With regards YouTube, Google family link is a godsend. Installed it on our son's tablet, and no more arguments when he's had his time for the day or it's bed time, when the screen locks he knows that's it!

Other than that, it's just about being consistent, and having a sit down with your wife and agreeing some clear boundaries that you will both stick to. Also it's possible she's acting up due to tiredness? Our son turns into a little devil child if he doesn't get enough sleep, and 10.30 bed is (IMO) too late if she has to be up at 7-8 for school (not a dig at you, I totally understand that unfortunately life often gets in the way of doing things perfectly :p) any way work can be rearranged so you are home a bit earlier?
 
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With regards YouTube, Google family link is a godsend. Installed it on our son's tablet, and no more arguments when he's had his time for the day or it's bed time, when the screen locks he knows that's it!
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Maybe I need to install this on my computers to stop me still being on the internet at 2am to 3am in the morning :p
 
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With regards YouTube, Google family link is a godsend. Installed it on our son's tablet, and no more arguments when he's had his time for the day or it's bed time, when the screen locks he knows that's it!
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I love some the reviews on that app

How in the hell does my kid take over her account all of a sudden. i just put it on a month ago and now she manages it by herself. what is the point of the app!
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kids are way too smart. at least on my son's phone the battery saver mode disables family link. so he learned to use the phone in that mode... hei google!
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Easy to by pass. When time limit locks the screen my 7 years old son clicks on the bottom left and hi list all open applications, then hi choose some of previous application and by-pass lock screen. Please fix this and application will be perfect.
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Well as an idea, but bad as a performance. With a total ban on YouTube, a 5 year old child is watching videos, including any content (with interest I can describe how).
The "BedTime" lock is overwritten through the "Open Apps List" button, from which the child can start any app on this list. This way, the app does not control the use of the smartphone by a child. Perhaps my son has to be rewarded for successfully hacking the application :)
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I have a son of similar age (and one a few years younger). They do watch YouTube, but definitely not after 7pm and only maybe an hour or two tops a day. Perhaps it's easier with two, as they tend to enjoy doing other things like building Lego, playing on the trampoline/football together etc. They are generally in the bath at 7, in bed by 7:30 and asleep by 8pm.

I think maybe part of the problem sounds like she is watching TV so late and her brain is still stimulated and she therefore isn't tired enough to sleep at a 'normal' time for a 9 year old. My eldest loves reading before bedtime at the moment (a recent thing and he's just flying through books!), perhaps that is something you could get her to start enjoying instead of a screen? What seemed to be the catalyst was those "Diary of a Wimpy Kid" books, once he read one he wanted to binge read all of them.

I feel for you though, my partner and I both work full time as well (me with a long commute) and I know how challenging it can be! And in the answer to the thread title - absolutely yes. My whole week/weekend is arranged around ferrying kids to various places. :D
 
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Our daughter is the exact same, I genuinely feel your pain.

Unfortunately, you've asked for advice here and if it doesn't involve resetting her CMOS or lowering her vcore then the majority of these judgemental virgins will be no help whatsoever.

I'm busy right now, but will try to post later. :)
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Actually, sometimes it's good to have a different perspective, rather than the opinion of a parent who is in the same predicament but maybe is too lazy to do anything else about the situation and instead happy to stick with the status quo.

Phrases, sounds like you're doing the right thing by realising the situation isn't quite right. Hope you get it sorted and some useful advice here. :)
 
That's just kids for you, they're all different and so are all parents.

What cracks me up is the parents who think they have perfect kids but in reality have no idea what's going on. It's easy to post stuff on here and pretend.
You do not control kids you just guide them and hope they turn out alright.

Good luck
 
Only child, should have had another one or two to get more practice in! ;) :D

Dad of 3 here, youngest Daughter is 9 and while she is starting to push back with us a little its not to bad as she has 2 older siblings and can see that we don't let them get away with to much so she does know the limits and boundaries of what she can and cannot get away with.

my advice would be, make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to discipline, show a united front towards her crap else its only going to get worse.

This doesn't mean you both have to act like prison guards but when she does go into one you both need to be firm.

hope things get better for you and good luck.
 
Ban the tablet after 6pm. As in she has to hand the tablet over at 6pm to you.

Also get a treadmill, rower, skipping ropes or a bike and force 90 mins of cardio every second day on her.

She will be sleeping by 8pm no issues.
 
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Done many a time. She doesn't get upset just starts a slanging match from the stairs to living room. We don't give in but it usually takes upto an hour of stomping around trying to wind us up before she quits and nods off.
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I mean if I did that at that age my Dad would've give me a whack on the backside and physically put me in bed
 
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Only child, should have had another one or two to get more practice in! ;) :D

Dad of 3 here, youngest Daughter is 9 and while she is starting to push back with us a little its not to bad as she has 2 older siblings and can see that we don't let them get away with to much so she does know the limits and boundaries of what she can and cannot get away with.

my advice would be, make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to discipline, show a united front towards her crap else its only going to get worse.

This doesn't mean you both have to act like prison guards but when she does go into one you both need to be firm.

hope things get better for you and good luck.
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I suspect the OP has a somewhat different reference point to you, you are probably being a lot more relatively relaxed than you think.

I'm sure you'll disagree, but what you perceive is unique, to your perception and nothing else,

Personally I think the best thing is to go with the flow, if you try and control them they'll just keep things from you.
 
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