No sex please, we're British

I think the issue is that wanting more sex does not necessarily equate to feeling horny a lot.

My wife would like to have more sex, but at the end of the day when we've got back from work, wrestled our daughter through dinner bath and bedtimes, ironed shirts, eaten dinner, cleaned the kitchen etc, she's too tired and stressed to feel sexy.

I want more sex and would be okay with doing it in a dumpster at 3am.

So we both want more sex, but it doesn't happen because we don't both feel like it at the same time.
 
VincentHanna said:
I think you need to look in to the origins and resurgence

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incel#History

2017 when Reddit took down the Incel subreddit was when I came to be aware of it.
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So what? What does that have to do with OcUK? Do the people using that word here (as an insult) genuinely think we have an "incel" community at OcUK?

Isn't it more likely that it's just become an insult; a way of deriding those who, for whatever reason, aren't a hit with the ladies?
 
FoxEye said:
So what? What does that have to do with OcUK? Do the people using that word here (as an insult) genuinely think we have an "incel" community at OcUK?

Isn't it more likely that it's just become an insult; a way of deriding those who, for whatever reason, aren't a hit with the ladies?
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I do think there are one or two posters here yes

And it's not derision because they aren't a hit with the ladies, they aren't a hit with the ladies because of their toxic attitudes to women.
 
VincentHanna said:
I do think there are one or two posters here yes

And it's not derision because they aren't a hit with the ladies, they aren't a hit with the ladies because of their toxic attitudes to women.
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Clearly that's not the case. Logic dictates this.

Before a person becomes an "incel" they first experience trouble with getting dates. Becoming an "incel" requires that you have had nothing but bad experiences with women.

Sure they might then join a toxic community and become embittered. And in so doing decrease their (already slim) chances.

But saying their embitterment towards women is the cause of their rejection by women, is like saying that people become criminals whilst in prison.

At some point yes it probably does become a vicious circle.

But before that there was an initial cause of their rejection by women. Sometimes that's a lack of confidence. Sometimes it's awkwardness. Sometimes it's being butt-ugly.

There are many reasons why women will run a mile that occur long before said person self-identifies (or is even aware of) the whole "incel" scene.
 
Some of the incel garbage is hilariously bad, as one might laugh and shake their head at morons on a "reality" show.

FoxEye = Cornishcel :D And Fox = Furrycel..? :p
 
amigafan2003 said:
Wait, what?

So if you aren't living together then sex happens even if one partner doesn't want it? Isn't that rape?
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Eh?

The article was talking about a marked decrease in the average amount of sex amongst people who live together as a couple and also about how a majority of people who live together as a couple said that they would like sex more often.

Someone posted saying that if a couple wanted sex with each other they could have it, i.e. portraying those two things (couples not having sex much while also wanting sex more often) as contradictory.

I replied with one possible (and I think very plausible) explanation for that apparent contradiction, i.e. occasions of couples wanting sex but not at the same time.

I even quoted the text I was replying to.

How on earth did you get from that to rape? Seriously. That's a weird and disturbing connection for you to make.
 
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