Dodgy text advice

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OK so I have nobody else to ask about this so why not here?

This will be a long post to add some context, but basically this afternoon I had a dodgy text off my Dad and am wondering how best to deal with it.

I see my Dad maybe 2-3 times a month, he'll either ask me if I want to come over for Sunday lunch or go for a Curry mid week, we aren't particularly close. He's in his early 70s and on his 3rd marriage, current one for about 15 odd years I think, she's not my Mum, we aren't close either but she's married to my Dad so as you can imagine really.

He's that age where he doesn't rely too much on a phone, he'll often leave it in the car or on the stairs where he can't hear it, so it's not uncommon to text him and wait 5 hours for a reply etc. She uses hers even less, in fact she never uses it, she takes it purely for emergency reasons and nobody ever calls or texts her on it, she does everything via landline calls.

The last few times I've been there however his phone never leaves his sight and he's been texting a whole lot more than I've ever known him to previously, so in my mind I have an inkling something is going on.

He text me this afternoon to see if I wanted to go around for Sunday lunch, I replied to say I may be going out but I'll check, then about two minutes later I get a text obviously meant for someone else as it read -"I am the man you trust, the only man you love so why?" - quickly followed by - "ignore that".

I haven't replied since. I'm just wondering what to do about it?

**** taking replies will be treated as such, please don't be offended if I don't acknowledge them.
 
You should definitely not ask him and ask a load of strangers on the internet who will tell you your dad inserts wasps though letter boxes in Rhyl whilst waiting for his Mac10 in boxing stance and every other tired, boring worn out joke that we see on a regular basis.

And on that note: he got his norks out yet?
 
Tell him he's Seventy and if he messes up this marriage, there's not going to be another one.

Also, that wording is pretty controlling and creepy.
 
For all you know that text was for wife #3
I’m sure if he wants to talk to you about it he will.

You see him 3 times per month, therefore your hardly clued up on what’s day to day for him/them as a couple.


As I said we aren't that close, we don't really speak much and we've never spoken about things like that, it would be awkward beyond words.

You’ve answered your own question, leave him to it.
 
You should definitely not ask him and ask a load of strangers on the internet who will tell you your dad inserts wasps though letter boxes in Rhyl whilst waiting for his Mac10 in boxing stance and every other tired, boring worn out joke that we see on a regular basis.

And on that note: he got his norks out yet?

All the above but also wearing a Gucci belt.
 
For all you know that text was for wife #3
I’m sure if he wants to talk to you about it he will.

You see him 3 times per month, therefore your hardly clued up on what’s day to day for him/them as a couple.




You’ve answered your own question, leave him to it.

I know them well enough to know that he wouldn't text her because she can't even figure out how to text people, even on one of those spaz phones designed for oldies.

Plus he has form, plenty.

I'm more peed off that he's potentially at it again than anything else, he's not doing his reputation of being a right 'see-you-next-tuesday' any favours at all.

It was more a question of whether I said anything to her or not, she's already had a go at him for being on his phone all the time when I was there last time.
 
This message can be interpreted in many ways, given the context you have shared. The only way to be sure is to ask. At his age, and given your relationship, you should show respect, follow his advice, and ignore it. If you absolutely must interfere, simply ask him if he wants to talk anything over.
 
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