What's your worst online dating experience?
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What's wrong with slim blues? Not that it matters to me anymore I gave up just over 2 years ago now..
I have 3 but keep them brief as aren't amazing
1.the subtle catfish
Pof, looks great, suspicious top down pic but she's a PE teacher .. So hopefully sporty?
Nope, really it was like she was a world's strongest man type of girl. You know, strong but a lot of belly.
I lasted the full date but made it clear throughout I was not interested. Not asking questions etc. She thought it went well, so clingy. Was hard saying 'no' as she got emotional!
The pics were her, but not representative
2.Miss arrogant
Average , but the line 'I've stalked you on Facebook and I'm much better looking than your ex' killed it for me. Never met anyone so controlling. 1 date only!
3. The ghost
This probs worst one.
Dates had been going well, it was date 7 or 8 ish, I'd even been with her to help pick out a car. Then, the ghost. Couldn't believe it. Its fine on first couple of dates, it happens. But 7 dates over 2 months? Please have decency to tell me.
That one killed it for internet dating for me!
1.the subtle catfish
Pof, looks great, suspicious top down pic but she's a PE teacher .. So hopefully sporty?
Nope, really it was like she was a world's strongest man type of girl. You know, strong but a lot of belly.
I lasted the full date but made it clear throughout I was not interested. Not asking questions etc. She thought it went well, so clingy. Was hard saying 'no' as she got emotional!
The pics were her, but not representative
2.Miss arrogant
Average , but the line 'I've stalked you on Facebook and I'm much better looking than your ex' killed it for me. Never met anyone so controlling. 1 date only!
3. The ghost
This probs worst one.
Dates had been going well, it was date 7 or 8 ish, I'd even been with her to help pick out a car. Then, the ghost. Couldn't believe it. Its fine on first couple of dates, it happens. But 7 dates over 2 months? Please have decency to tell me.
That one killed it for internet dating for me!
King silvers at least, for the love of christ
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Ok I'll give you silver but not king-size, blue slims are longer than king-size. I used blue slims from when it was either that or reds and greens.
Online dating?
No!
I tried it, ended up in a divorce having survived two (!) kitchen knives in the chest & torso (thankfully on separate occasions)
There not all bat **** crazy, but, for the VAST majority on such sites that would be a favourable exploration of their behaviour.
Unless your a hard core fan of such antics then I’d strenuously advise you stay away.
If not, enjoy the ride (you’ll get plenty) but, don’t say I didn’t warn you........
No!
I tried it, ended up in a divorce having survived two (!) kitchen knives in the chest & torso (thankfully on separate occasions)
There not all bat **** crazy, but, for the VAST majority on such sites that would be a favourable exploration of their behaviour.
Unless your a hard core fan of such antics then I’d strenuously advise you stay away.
If not, enjoy the ride (you’ll get plenty) but, don’t say I didn’t warn you........
Very true. You also learnt how to handle rejection without turning into a quivering mess. You learnt how to actually speak to women and indeed how to actually converse generally and not be a social pariah. Skills sadly lost on a whole lot of the current generation.
Take the current generation and send them out on the pull in any era right up to the early 90’s and guaranteed most are going home alone for a ham shank.
Or a Jodrell as it was known in Bermondsey.
Never had an online date, if I missed out, I’ll get over it.
I didn’t go out every night in the hope of a chance meet up when I was “in the life”, I went out 2 or 3 nights in the week, and every night on the weekend, to have a drink with the guys.
Every once in a while I’d get lucky, and as I found it easy to earn money, I didn’t mind spending it.
As the old saying goes, ‘You’re only here for 70 odd years, it’s not a rehearsal.’
Very true. You also learnt how to handle rejection without turning into a quivering mess. You learnt how to actually speak to women and indeed how to actually converse generally and not be a social pariah. Skills sadly lost on a whole lot of the current generation.
Take the current generation and send them out on the pull in any era right up to the early 90’s and guaranteed most are going home alone for a ham shank.
Back then you didn't have social media or stupid TV shows like Love Island influencing women expectations of men. Its turned many of today's women into 49er's. (If you don't know what it means, look on Urban Dictionary
)Ease and convenience. Just like with many things on the internet, why spend your Saturday morning out shopping when you can browse online and have it delivered to your home?!?!?!
Rent a DVD???!?!!?! Nah.....just download or stream it.
I've never tried internet dating because I still have a nice social life but I can see how it works for the older generation who have been married for 20 years then find themselves divorce with no social circle.
Well, yes there’s always that aspect of it too. Funny how terms change over time, 20+ yeas ago a 49er was a gold digger! That said, even back then there were plenty of badgers that thought they were a fox.Back then you didn't have social media or stupid TV shows like Love Island influencing women expectations of men. Its turned many of today's women into 49er's. (If you don't know what it means, look on Urban Dictionary
If my marriage goes pear shaped I’m definitely hitting the social scene up again. I loved the ‘challenge’ of being on the pull. Would I look like a sleazy sex pest out in clubs/pubs at 40+? Hell yea. Would that stop me trying to pull a 20 year old hottie? Hell no!
Stuff that online guff. No fun in that.
Joking aside, I do get that online dating has its merits - especially with those who work crazy long hours or those who are a bit more socially awkward.
Because you can meet way more people than just the women down your local/in the club you end up in etc..
That’s surely the beauty of socialising. If you don’t pull you can still have a good night with mates or whoever. Go on an ‘arranged’ tinder date and if it turns out pants you’re night is likely ruined.
Well, yes there’s always that aspect of it too. Funny how terms change over time, 20+ yeas ago a 49er was a gold digger! That said, even back then there were plenty of badgers that thought they were a fox.
If my marriage goes pear shaped I’m definitely hitting the social scene up again. I loved the ‘challenge’ of being on the pull. Would I look like a sleazy sex pest out in clubs/pubs at 40+? Hell yea. Would that stop me trying to pull a 20 year old hottie? Hell no!
Stuff that online guff. No fun in that.
Joking aside, I do get that online dating has its merits - especially with those who work crazy long hours or those who are a bit more socially awkward.
Its working for my friend, he doesn't work crazy hours but moved here to Switzerland at the start of the year and Tinder is all he uses. Because back in the US that's the prime way of meeting people now.
He's not Brad Pitt and is only 5.6ft. Met him last weekend for a quick drink, he was at the bar with this very nice 27 year old Swiss women who was a teacher on their first Tinder date together. I left after two drinks and text him the following morning asking how his Tinder date went. His response......."It went well........she just left...."
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Nothing stopping you from meeting mates instead of the tinder date doesn’t work out. Not that the first date need be a night out anyway, you can just as easily meet in the middle of the day for lunch or even coffee. The other person likely doesn’t want to waste a whole evening with someone they don’t click with either.
Thing is, that "social awkward" section is a tiny minority of "old skool" online dating. The vast majority now is <25 using Tinder or >40+ divorced folks using dating sites as they no "let's go out on the pull" friends left as those are all married and can't go out 3-4 times a week to places where other single 40+ people go.
You jokingly imagine that at your age "I'll just go on the pull" but just imagine how limited your available pool of "local" talent is, how quickly your married friends will get bored of watching you try to be 20 again (not long, it's embarrassing) and how much money you'd spend night after night just looking in the same small area for a date.
ah ha, this is where you assume a need to go out on the sniff 3-4 times a week. friday/saturday is more than enough. you also assume a need or want to socialise with other 40+ singletons - pass! you lastly assume a need to go out with 40something married mates. i've a very wide ranging group of friends, from early/mid 20 singletons to 50+ year old happily married types who i could regularly meet up with if i so desired - not to mention the ability to go out 'solo' and socialise (something i found to be much more 'productive' when it came to pulling, possibly as the normal peer pressures of being in a group was removed).
now, this is where i've possibly wrongly assumed most people had a wide range of people to socialise with rather than 'pigeonholing' themselves. i'll admit i'm possibly a bit unique in that i've never felt the need to surround myself with a specific demographic or type/age group of friend. i also use the word 'friend' relatively loosely, most of these people i talk of i can take or leave depending on my mood.
finally, the local talent pool will be no different to the talent pool on dating sites - unless travel is taken into consideration in both instances it will be finite.
I'm not knocking online dating, genuinely. i imagine it's a god send for some and a necessity for others. i've just always enjoyed the 'thrill of the chase', so to speak, that comes with real life dating and i imagine using a dating site takes some/all of that fun away. i'll always prefer chatting to a group of girls, seeing if i can twig on if any are interested, seeing if any of them interest me. even if nothing comes of that i'll have had a bit of fun. dating sites just seem too sterile (if that's the right word)
I love online dating;
Many stories; maybe I'll share sometime!
To the people asking 'why'? It's easy; it's quick and you can talk to many different types of girls, without any consequence; You don't want to worry about making the first approach, or not being able to hear them in a loud pub/club etc.
Many stories; maybe I'll share sometime!
To the people asking 'why'? It's easy; it's quick and you can talk to many different types of girls, without any consequence; You don't want to worry about making the first approach, or not being able to hear them in a loud pub/club etc.
Here's one that I think is worthy of this thread.
A bit of background, this was a match from eHarmony.
A few hours into talking with her she seemed really nice, we had common interests and our conversations were free flowing to the extent we ended up talking for most of the day and it was about everything and anything and felt we knew each other for years. Fast forward a few days of talking I thought I’d call her the next day and ask if she’d like to meet up next week at some point (she hinted at this too prior)
Over the course of the 3 days of texting,she opened up about herself on things like being a virgin and preserving that for her husband due to beliefs and personal morals.
Thursday evening stopped talking about 2am as I had work the next day (she was on holiday). Ended up waking up a bit late and was in a rush to get to work so was literally up and out the door in 30 minutes. Got to work and was pulled into a meeting straight away so wasn’t free until about 10am.
Before I could message her I get a text from her saying that she does not think this is going to work and that she needs someone who will be able to be more consistent with her without her having to worry about if something had happened to me. Explained to her that I literally had no time to do anything that morning and was about to message her but she said it was totally unacceptable and selfish on my part and that if I had cared enough that I would have messaged her first thing. This actually ticked me off a bit given that she was all about all things being equal in a relationship and I told her she could have also messaged me in the morning. It turns out it was that time of the month for her (lady stuff) and she said she had some bad dreams and woke up all worried. She still persisted with that I wasn’t able to be consistent and committed so it won’t work, especially in long distance (we are about 2-3 hours apart from each other, I don’t really consider it long distance).
She continued to text me for the next 10 hours! This time it was all about how she knew what she was worth and what she deserved in life, about how she had preserved her virginity for her future husband and it seems she got quite triggered because I simply wasn’t responding to her. She continued to text and it seemed that she was getting frustrated and angry at my lack of responses. It escalated to calling me an a****** and a jerk for treating woman so badly and that she wishes no other girl would have to face what she had with me. Apparently I am the ******* because I didn’t fight for her and that I give up too easily and men like me are the reason women have trust issues. Come to about 6pm she said she was about to start drinking and within 30 minutes she tried to call me 10 times in the space of two minutes. Turned my phone back on around 8pm and had about 300 unread messages from her which consisted of more cursing and insults about how much of a jerk I am for making a 32 year old virgin woman cry and leaving her in that state and that I am not manly at all.
A bit of background, this was a match from eHarmony.
A few hours into talking with her she seemed really nice, we had common interests and our conversations were free flowing to the extent we ended up talking for most of the day and it was about everything and anything and felt we knew each other for years. Fast forward a few days of talking I thought I’d call her the next day and ask if she’d like to meet up next week at some point (she hinted at this too prior)
Over the course of the 3 days of texting,she opened up about herself on things like being a virgin and preserving that for her husband due to beliefs and personal morals.
Thursday evening stopped talking about 2am as I had work the next day (she was on holiday). Ended up waking up a bit late and was in a rush to get to work so was literally up and out the door in 30 minutes. Got to work and was pulled into a meeting straight away so wasn’t free until about 10am.
Before I could message her I get a text from her saying that she does not think this is going to work and that she needs someone who will be able to be more consistent with her without her having to worry about if something had happened to me. Explained to her that I literally had no time to do anything that morning and was about to message her but she said it was totally unacceptable and selfish on my part and that if I had cared enough that I would have messaged her first thing. This actually ticked me off a bit given that she was all about all things being equal in a relationship and I told her she could have also messaged me in the morning. It turns out it was that time of the month for her (lady stuff) and she said she had some bad dreams and woke up all worried. She still persisted with that I wasn’t able to be consistent and committed so it won’t work, especially in long distance (we are about 2-3 hours apart from each other, I don’t really consider it long distance).
She continued to text me for the next 10 hours! This time it was all about how she knew what she was worth and what she deserved in life, about how she had preserved her virginity for her future husband and it seems she got quite triggered because I simply wasn’t responding to her. She continued to text and it seemed that she was getting frustrated and angry at my lack of responses. It escalated to calling me an a****** and a jerk for treating woman so badly and that she wishes no other girl would have to face what she had with me. Apparently I am the ******* because I didn’t fight for her and that I give up too easily and men like me are the reason women have trust issues. Come to about 6pm she said she was about to start drinking and within 30 minutes she tried to call me 10 times in the space of two minutes. Turned my phone back on around 8pm and had about 300 unread messages from her which consisted of more cursing and insults about how much of a jerk I am for making a 32 year old virgin woman cry and leaving her in that state and that I am not manly at all.
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